Just Friends, Part 2
A thread for discussing non-romantic relationships.
Date: October 26, 2007
Categories: Life
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A thread for discussing non-romantic relationships.
Date: October 26, 2007
Categories: Life
Well, that took long enough. *first post dance*?
All my just friends are all right. No creepy friends to report today.
No, scratch that.
Evan is creepy. And gay. Gay is one thing, but a creepy gay is another. Let me name them:
M-wears bright yellow flipflops, and styles hair all spiky and back, and calls everybody ‘yo whazzup my homies’ with no accent
E-hug/humps people (it’s hard to tell which) and thinks he’s so awesome and pushes people in the hallways, ignoring the fact he’s at least a foot shorter than the second smallest person in seventh grade
S-puts soap dispensers in…different…places. Nuff said
don’t know his first name-extreme racist
S#2-lays on that huge green arobic ball in gym and poses like a pr0n star and smiles creeply at people and calls everyone gay, including me who (as of yesterday) has a girlfriend
Yeah, so I stay away (when possible) from these people.
The lesbians/bi peoples are not creepy at ALL. I have so many bi friends now.
Harg! *pies beavo for getting first post* I hope you continue to post here!
So here’s my situation, re-posted so you don’t have to look for the past posts…
I have “known” (if you consider barely speaking ever to someone ‘knowing’) someone for probably three years nearly now. She doesn’t regulary come to the place I ever see her. She is shy, but most of my other friends were shy to start out with. My question probably seems rather pointless now, but is there anything I should be doing to sort of “speed” the friendship process along? In a matter of weeks there will be another two-month period during which I definitely won’t see her.
People are so busy and crazy nowadays it’s hard to get to know people. Especially when you rarely see them.
Leh sigh. I have a feeling I’ll be in college by the time I can actually say she is a good friend.
In case this really doesn’t work, what should I do about my very shy male friends? It’s so crazy when people say you need to go to public school to be social. I can’t get these people to speak!
I’ve got to go, but I hope people won’t abandon this thread!
Red-tailed HAWK
I have creepy raceist discrimitory peeps at my school. THey go around calling people Jews. i.e. Hey stop being a Jew and come up here. Talk to me you Jew. Go F*$% a Jew. Yeah. (end i.e.) I have no friends. *Realizes sad truth* *is sad* Then again, I did move away from all of my old friends. Everyone I know at my new school is redneck, raceist, or has to short an attensionspan to have a conversation about ANYTHING for more than five seconds. Really I’ll just be talking to them and they stop listening to me.
2- o_O
3- Telephone/online communication.
4- : /
My friends are tiresome.
I think that non-romantic relationships are a very touchy subject for a lot of people. Just last night was my second school dance, and I danced with a girl that was just a friend, and I really hopes that she understands that because I think she likes me and I don’t want to break her heart. My friends are all understanding, and I hope that she will be like that. *sigh…*
I wont abandon this thread, its a good way for people to get advice, so here’s some from personal experience:
I had been going out with this girl for a while, and then my best friend (who is also friends with this past girlfriend, and is a guy) told me that she wanted to kiss me! I wasn’t ready for that, and wanted to break up with her. I was so worried that I would hurt her, I wrote her a zillion page sob story. I could tell that she was weirded out, and when i was finally finished, she said, “Ya know, ‘It’s over’ does just as good!”
Moral of the story: Don’t write sob stories.
2- you have a girlfriend? when did this happen? *does the ‘rejoicing for beavo’ dance*
RE: Rt-H on the last thread(300) well he has talked to me. but when we pass eachother in the hallways i’m too afraid to say hi and he kinda walks through the halls completely obliviouse.
7-I asked K out (see the R&R threads) on Thursday of this week. She said yes :).
I’m going over to a “Just Friend” who everyone thought I was going out with. We’ve know eachother since we were born, (literally, she was born eight says before me) and we know more than a GF/BF should know about eachother. *askward*
wow. this thread is verry short. musebloggers sure don’t have many friends…
10-I think its just more interesting to read and write about romantic realtionships.
11- it is. mabe it’s a good thing we don’t have ttoo many freindship issues….?
What do you do if you think a girl likes you, but she doesn’t think that you know, doesn’t want you to know, and would totally flip if she found out you knew?
13-Slowly (SLOOOOOOOOOWWWLY) become closer to her, then break it to her at the best moment.
13- ignore the fact that you know and treat her the same. i kinda have the same situation. my friend (girl) likes me (i’m almost positive) but i don’t think she cares that i know.
Friend problem: my friends and I are applying to most of the same colleges. Some will get in, some won’t. They’re good schools. It’s going to be so awkward when admissions decisions come in.
Other than that whee.
13-Do you like her? I’m assuming you don’t because you posted on this thread.
There’s a new kid at my school. He has no friends, so I started talking to him over the past few days. And…he’s the biggest a-hole I’ve ever met. But I still feel kinda bad for him. What should I do?
17-A-hole like how?
Oy vey. My friends and I have been drifting lately. Part of the problem is that I’m in Honors and AP classes, and most of my friends aren’t, and I haven’t ever found it particularly easy to be friends with most of the smart kids. So I usually get to see my friends in the morning before classes start. Also, my friend Shelby actually has a real boyfriend instead of an online one, so I’m feeling left out. Especially at lunch, where there’s Dan and his girlfriend, and then Shelby and her boyfriend. I get just a little bit lonely/jealous when I’m sitting there. ANy advice about that?
w00t! The party last night was funny. It was mostly us running back and forth in a dark room with glow sticks and silly string while playing creepy music and operating a fog machine. I’m very stiff and my voice is slightly scratchy from screaming like a four-year-old, but it was fun…
Today was also a great day for talking to one of my male friends, as there was confusion and we parked where we used to park but now they are parking somewhere else, so we ended up getting to where everyone else was 30 minutes late. But, that meant I got to talk to the one friend more.
I don’t think I actually said one word to the girl, but it was all confusing and weird becuase we had to settle in after getting there late becuase of weird instructions. And then her mom was annoying about us being late after she didn’t explain things well. And the girl herself wasn’t pleasant even in the time there was.
I’m thinking this might be a lost cause. Must continue searching, or at least trying to get VERY quiet guy to talk more.
Red-tailed HAWK
No friendship issues to report…………………………….
20-Glow sticks are fun! Until one of your (my) idiot friends throws one too close to the blazing bonfire. THAT was funny.
Well, I may not have romantic issues because of a lack of life, but I do have friendship problems which I do not care to relate because I can figure out what to do on my own. I think. So yeah.
Getting quiet people to talk more: ask open-ended questions. Find out what they like to do and talk about that. Eventually they’ll open up. (Trust me, I know. I used to be shy.)
17- No not really
17- Slowly start backing off over a few weeks, untill you barely see him anymore.
21-Yeah, glow sticks pwn! Erp not in the bonfire though!
22-I’ll try that…but let us help you too!
This is INSANE. I can’t continue trying so hard to get to know quiet girl. I must work on quiet boy! At least he’s occasionally there instead of almost never. Does that sound better? Not much to me either, but anything is better.
If Kagy and I didn’t live in different countries (maybe even if we lived in the same state) both our problems would be over! Not to brag that I’m an interesting person, but yeah.
But I’m already in a better situation, I have a muser close by…but if we could somehow get all of the mbers in one area!
Red-tailed HAWK
24-I wish I lived near MBers. My school has a myspace-esque thing that is only for the school and the domain name involves our mascot which is a type of bird. I have a Monty-Python related name and under my interests it says my MB name. Hopefully someone will get the hint if they go to my school and have one of those. I don’t think anyone I’ve met at school comes on here.
I made up with my previous best friend. Last year we had a huge argument and didn’t talk most of the year but we’re friends again! Yay!
I have a guyfriend who I like but he likes my friend. I’m not supposed to know and neither is she. His friend told her because he’s head over heels for her like half the freshmen at my school. I’m so jealous of my friend. Every guy I like ends up liking her. Grrr.
19- Make smart people acquaintances? What APs?
10- I have friends… just not many weird ones. *thinks* Nope. One of my best friends looks kinda like me. It’s a bit interesting, because we mwt when we were like 2.
10- Why else are we hanging out here??
Just Joking!!!!!!!!!!
But really, I have one friend. HONEST!!!!! And she is across the atlantic ocean.
Darn.
Which is why I am hanging out here.
Shy people are often people who are afraid that you won’t like them for who they really are. Inside them are often radical or unusual ideas that mark an intelegent and lonely person. this is a generalisation, but it is sometimes true.
For those of you who read xkcd, check out the “just shy” shirt, it is pure pwnage and we wants it, precious. For those who don’t, it’s blue and it says…
JUST SHY
not antisocial
(you can still talk to me)
good stuff. also raven, i feel the pain. it’s even more awkward when two of your friends are going out (which there are two cases of right now…so four friends :D) but i have other friends who aren’t, so it’s cool.
And I will shorten my name after this post!
Tuesday swallowed me, as I went grocery shopping with my mom last night. I’m saying that here becuase I have ten minutes before school starts and I don’t know if I can make it to the random thread!
Eleven days before I see any of them. No wonder things take so long!
25-I hope you find someone…I don’t have a page or whatever on those sites, but I suppose with a whole school and such it might be possible to find someone! I can’t count how many times I have brought up the blog and Muse to my friends, even to their parents, and they still don’t seem interested. Phooey.
27-Two? Wow!
28-Eccentric the Afterthought is a good name for us all!
29-Good shirt! *Hands to his friends too*
TWO MINTUES LEFT! I have to go! I’ll try to come to the blog tonight if I don’t catch a very bad case of the homework!
Red-tailed HAWK the Very Busy
24- yeah! we’d be best of friends… or something to that extent !
Wat do u do if one of ur guy friends hits on u at a party? *Akward* no really, he’s a good friend and all but…
32- tell him you’re not interested or pretend it never happened.
30- Yeah! And then we got seperated and din’t see each other until 6th grade! We’ve been best friends again ever since!
ok, so i have this friend, well, kind of a friend, er….. anyway, she is always around me, but she jokes around tooo much! never takes me seriously!! and she’s always in my “bubble” i feel sorry for her cause she’s not “the most popular kid in school” but i really don’t have that much fun with her, and if this sounds mean, sry, but, she’s just kinda annoying! some of my other friends feel the same and once one of them tried to tell her this but she like totally took it the wrong way! what do i do?
Ok, so I have this friend, and she was awesome last year, but over the summer she changed alot. Now she thinks that any beliefs that she doesnt beleive are stupid, and just thinks she is the best. She is always teasing me about being a vegetarian and what I eat, and flat out just tells people I am one, and I think I should be the one to tell them, and I may not want them to know. She is also very religious, which isnt bad, but she has been suggesting very strongly that me and my friends beleifs are wrong, and has teased us for believing in evolution. She also disagrees when it comes to politics, which would be fine, except once again she thinks we are stupid or something. And she is always gloating about her team, what they are doing, what they are learning, it is very hurtful, and we (my friends and I) dont know what to do. HELP! P.S. every time we try to talk to her she gets really immature and makes up excuses.
I am really bad at advice, sorry!!!
OMG same situation. My friend G does that and she thinks she’s all popular and crap. My 2 other BFF at school, E and K are like her minions, and do whatever she says. Unfortunately, that most of the time involves excluding me. Yesterday, for instance, we were gonna go on a bike ride together and meet at the school. When I got there, it was deserted. I rode over to E’s house to see if we had canceled orsomething, and guess what?They were all there, eating cupcakes and laughing. ARG! I stayed, against their will.
37-Oh my gosh, thats just, ick.
Well the freind that I was talking about keeps siding with our other friend becuase she can sense that we are mad at her. She keeps saying that WE are best friends now and that we dont want anything to do with her and our other friend, which is NOT TRUE. She told my friend to forget about their friendship becuase she didnt think they were good friends anymore, just becuase we sat together at lunch that day to check our math homework because we didnt know if we did it right. It made my friend cry, and the friend who told her that just ignored her and acted really immature, and then said oh, well I dont know why I did that, I was just in a bad mood. Its just like, grow up, if you keep doing that we wont want to be your friend anymore, you cant just take advantage of our friendship like that. GOSH.
36- okay, plan out all the things you want to tell her and the next time she makes fun of you tell her in a very polite voice why you don’t apreciate it and if she jumps in and interupts and gets angry keep your calm and just tell her why you don’t like it and insist she listn to you, you’ve heard enough of what she’s said, it’s time for you to speak up.
37- HOW DARE THEY!!!!! where do they live? can i beat them up for you? anyways what you should do is(even if this is painful) start excluding and ignoring them and if they bring it up say “well, i got the idea you didn’t want to hang out with me anymore” or something
36-I had a similarish situation, but not making fun of beliefs etc. A girl that was a very nice person I knew for about a year moved several states away. It was sad at the time, as she was one of my best friends. Then she came back for a couple of days, and again, etc because her mom wanted to see people in the area.
Whoa, talk about a change. Not talking to me much at all, weird and annoying around me, hitting me on the head with stiff styrofoam (she somehow made it feel like a cinder block though)
Anyway, she doesn’t come very often at all now, so that’s good. I’m not sure what happened to her, though, as she moved back to the same neighborhood near the same people as she had lived near several years before.
In FDS, I happened to be sitting next to quiet girl, and when annoying girl came in late, she sort of forced her way between us, which I then found odd since she hadn’t been especially pleasant. Then quiet girl scowled at her.
At least the boys are straightforward. I think I may be forced to stick with them for the time being.
Ah, well, *eats chocolate*
Red-tailed HAWK
*story telling mode*
characters
mA (just friend)
mW(likes me)
P
assorted extras
mW , mA, and A all know each other. mW likes me. I think A also likes me but I’m not sure. mA already has a girlfriend (I think). I dyed my hair blue. I havn’t seen mW yet. mA has stopped talking to me to the point of not even greeting me. A asked what the (pick favorite expletive)?!
How do I get mA to talk to me. Especially since I don’t get to talk to A very much and he has my hat. mA and A have the same classes together. if A gives the hat to mA, I can get the hat back. But mA doesn’t talk to me.
Advise?
41- wait- are they not talking to you because of the hair? if so *loud swearing* they are no worth it. i mean come on! it’s hair!
oh me has a dillema. i was friends with this guy at the beggining of school but now i realize hat he’s really anoying and imiture. i just want him to leave me alone. he thinks i’m mad at him and i keep telling him that no i’m not mad at him he’s just really anoying and he should just leave me alone. and he thinks i’m PMSing which is realy anoying because his face sorta went blank and then he walked away very fast. and he just jumped to conclusions! uuurgh! i just want him to get out of my life!
43- Tell him he’s got the intelligence of a mentally retarded spoon. Tell him to get out of your life. If that doesn’t drive him away, you’ll get the same results as Beavo did with his girlfriend. If you do get the Beavo result, tear him to pieces in your rejection. That’ll mess him up. (I might seem like a huge jerk right now, but this guy deserves it.)
My problem: C++DM overreacts muchly when we argue, and accuses me of always thinking l know everything.
43- (In the following post, I will have no extraneous capitalization due to the fact that if I did capitalize everything I wanted to, the entire post would be in caps)
Wait. This guy thinks you’re PMSing instead of taking a (very) direct hint? What the?!? That apphole. This is what gets guys branded as jerks. I still cannot believe that he did that. This guy ought to be taken out and…umm….paintballed. With no protection. Including a helmet.
Sorry for my rant.
46- Hey, Apphole is my word!
47- Yeah, I borrowed it for a post. Hope you don’t mind.
48-You seem pretty good at advice, can you help me with my last post? *makes a puppy face*
37-KILL HER.
44-Wait…what?
44- what happened to beavo????
45- well, i don’t know you in person or C++D so i don’t think i’ll get involved….. sory….
46- yeah! and besides the point i dont pms! i just have large mood swings occasionaly *coughalotcough*
38(dancergirl13)- i think all of you need to sit down together and talk it out. with rules such as, only one person talks at a time and everyone is alowed to say what they want to say.
50,51- Beavo’s girlfriend was yelling at him a lot the day before he asked her out. Please correct me if I’m wrong, Beavo.
49- I went back to read your post, and found it kinda confusing. Could you reword it using the tried-and-true letter system? (i.e., friend 1 is A, 2 is B, etc.) All the friends got pretty confusing.
Well the freind that I was talking about (A) keeps siding with our other friend (B) becuase she can sense that we are mad at her. She keeps saying that WE (C my other friend, D, me) are best friends now and that C and D dont want anything to do with her and our other friend, which is NOT TRUE. A told C to forget about their friendship becuase she didnt think they were good friends anymore, just becuase C and D sat together at lunch that day to check C and Ds math homework because we didnt know if we did it right. It made C cry, A just ignored C and acted really immature, and then said oh, well I dont know why I did that, I was just in a bad mood. Its just like, grow up, if you keep doing that we wont want to be your friend anymore, you cant just take advantage of our friendship like that. GOSH.
There you go Andrew!! Sorry, I was in a bad mood and didnt feel like organizing the other day.
Beavo I dont think I will kill my friend, sorry.
51-Good idea, but we have tried to talk to her so many times………I will try though.
53- So, A is conspiring against everybody, it looks like. If someone acts so mean one day, then says that she was just in a bad mood, it’s probably more than that. I guess it depends on what A is normally like. If she’s prone to outbursts or something like that, then I’d believe her, but still keep an eye on her. But, if she’s normally really nice (or at least she’s nice most of the time), then I’d say it’s more than a mood. I hate going to someone’s parents, but if she’s nice most of the time you might have to. Ask if there’s something that she’s having a rough time with. Normally, a person’s parents know them better than they do.
Well, that’s pretty much all I can think of. Sorry it’s not more, I had braces put on today and they hurt so badly! (the headgear doesn’t help) Maybe I can help more when I have my head not in pain.
Thanks for your support,Kaggy+Beavo, but I doubt I could kill her without upsetting getting arrested, and that way my plan of invading Bunnyland couldn’t work…
OK, the other day,they asked me if i wanted to go on a bikeride, and so i said yeah. Later, they told me they had cancelled. well, i walked to the school at the time we were going to meet, just to check and guess what? they were all there.
AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MissSwan-Ew! Maybe I’m not understanding the situation fully, but have they explained thier meanness? I mean, did they just shrug it off or not say anything? That is really mean. Had these people been good friends and they changed, or are you just getting to know them? It’s hard to tell what to do, ignore them or annoy them by making sure you get to do what they are doing. I guess I’d say whichever is easier/will annoy them more, but the second part might not be right and just be a result of me being angry at them.
45-Um…Has he said if there is anything in particular that you say/do that makes him feel that way?
I might have solved my dilemma for now, at least:
Quiet girl never comes and is just too quiet to even begin.
Quiet boy Sometimes comes but is just too quiet to even begin with.
Medium-quiet boy comes most of the time, and seems quite hopeful, so I think I’ll work on him for a bit. Which isn’t hard, when you consider the fact that most other people don’t come or are too quiet.
Off to school!
Red-tailed HAWK
No, I’ve been friends with them since kindergarten. One day, Gab decidded to wake up and be horrible, just because Carly said she was kinda popular. I’ve talked to the counselor, because she’s been being mean to some ofmy heavier friends and the counselor hasn’t done anything because the school is afraid of being sued! That makes me infuriated, because it’s against the law to bully at me school.
53- try again and be all like: i realy don’t want our friend ship to fall apart or something…. it helps to fake sincerity…. unless you actualy mean what you say…. oh…. now i sound dishonest, what i mean is sometimes you need to make yourself look sorier than you are (tried and true method)
55- they are not worth being friends with! the next time they invite you to do something say your buisy! they sound quite evil and i hate what they”re doing to you!
57- what is it with the US and sueing? honestly are people really that stupid? really, it’s idiotic “I’m angry so i sue you and get money hahahahahah” no offense it builds a bad imige for your country. and yeah bullying is bad. tell you’re parents too that would help and go to the principle.
You spelled principal wrong. Remmber, ‘pal’entology is the study of fossils about a billion years old. That’s how I remember it.
Anyway… My friend Olivia’s pants fell down yesterday. It was pretty funny.
52-I don’t think so, no. I might not remember it right, so could you please cite the thread I *said* that on?
53-Aw, man! Just kidding, I didn’t want you to actually kill your friend. That would be illigal.
58-Belive me when I say I’m not to excited by everthing being made suable. For further reference on the stupidity of suing, see “I’ll Sue Ya” by Weird Al Yankovic.
59-I remember it by going “The principal is your PAL”, which he isn’t of course. Or at least not, MINE, anyway. And the thing about Olivia was completely arbartrary.
Okay, Beavo’s Dilemma Time!
My best friend is being really immature and annoying to other friends, and it’s embarrising. Per ejemplo, we were in GT and we were making a hill out of paper (?) and she started cutting little peices of green paper all over someone’s hair. That someone was my friend too, and my best friend and I hang out a lot, so now he thinks we conspired against him to get paper grass in his hair. I know this is totally random and confusing, but that’s why I need help! HELP
60- Uh, post 107 on R&R v.7. As I said, if I’m misconstruing your comment, correct me.
58-People can sue for being stood up on a date. That’s how screwed up the US is.
Dang. Again. I keep leaving the stuff on my name on for other threads. Oh well. Please overlook my Classic Pie War name.
62-Oh, yup, she yelled at me. It wasn’t exactly the day before I asked her out, but it was not long before.
61- yeah i know! you from the US or are you a cool canadian like me?
sixty- Whadduz arbartrary mean? Why do you care that your friend cut little pieces of green paper into someone’s hair? MYOB, Beev. [tehehe, nickname]
WHAT’S YOUR NAME?????????
65-Arbitrary means without order or premeditation. And I care because it’s getting annoying that’s she’s getting annoying. It’s annoying.
64- I’m an American. The land where rules are abided by, unless you have a need to break a rule. Then you change the rule.
67- aw man! looks like i’m the only one on the blog(still) there are litteraly NO canadian musers apart from my gr7 teacher and this random kid at my bros school!
67- Hehehehe… a new political joke I can use!!!!!
68- Poor Kagy.(pats you on the head absentmindedly) If it matters, Satchel Pooch came from Canada.
*Deep Breath* Here goes: I have been BFF to three grils since 3rd grade, we were inseperable. Now there’s Kat: Super smart but not at all popular, she has another BFF now but still aproaches me in school, Kay: Got kinda popular but (being the geek that i am) doesn’t hav time for me anymore, still hangs w/ J sometimes, J the most popular doesn’t talk to me anymore unless its a “Tell me wat you got for number 4, don’t bother to explain” question. I still try to make contact with every single one of them because ( however gooky this sounds) they are my only friends my age. I feel like the only one trying to only the Four Musketeers together. I say onl one my age becuase im good friends with a freshman but i don’t want to be too clingy. I believe in my heart that MBers can give good advice, so share the wealth plz and help me….
70-Abbreviations! No, I probably wouldn’t be the best person to answer that, as I’m homeschooled and so don’t have to deal with the whole social levels. *is clueless* and I don’t know what “bff” stand for, or probably what it means. Sorry! But there are people who can help, if my name can drag them off of the romance thread.
Red-tailed HAWK
start dragging. BFF stands for Best Friend(s) Forever but Forever is shorter than expected. Wait, ony drag half of them cause i hav a romancequestion that still hasn’t been answered
Poor greekgurl. My answer to all of my socially related difficulties: HANG OUT WITH THE GUYS. They don’t make fun of you, and you can laugh about the stupid things they say. I am the only girl that plays football/soccer/kickball/the pounding game on the field, and Jake, Killian, and Zack are much nicer than Gabby, Katie, and Emily.
MissSwan is right. Totally!
Girls need to realize, it gets “uber” boring when just boys hang out together. They don’t know what to say, and it’s just random and boring, basically. From what you girls are saying, it isn’t so, but from the boy’s side it looks like you are having a better time. But at this age, we aren’t likely to risk going too far trying to socialize with groups of girls, or try to get girls who don’t seem to be in a “girl social group” into any boy “groups”. It’s weird to think of it as groups, but it basically is..
Why won’t we risk it, or try? Because other boys might think we are trying to find a girlfriend. Yes, little lame social things like that get in the way of friendships. Maybe boys who wish they had girlfriends, are immature, or like making fun of you would have some “problem” with you talking too much to girls.
I know it’s pathetic. And sad. But maybe it will be better later in the teen years (but I have some doubts)
So this is the whole reason I was trying to befriend quiet girl. I don’t know, because I haven’t been able to talk to her, but she might be in a similar situation as you.
I feel like I could tip over a tractor-trailer. Quiet girl might not be possible to talk to enough, but I shall continue! *plays triumphant music*
Good luck to you!
Red-tailed HAWK
GO HAWK GO HAWK GO HAWK [chants]
Killian, Alex , Jake and I had a mudsliding contest at recess today. I won, and destroyed my shoes. It was awesome.
mA is talking to me by email now. This is an improvement.
On the subject of creepy friends:
a guy in my class (A) usually wears tripp pants and chains and such. Fairly nice guy, not a freak at all. Two guys in the back of the class were fighting. Sort of. The kind of fight involving two guys hitting eachother with binders. Only one didn’t have a binder. He borrowed a chain from A and pretended to whip the other guy with the handcuff end. The guy with the chain asked A where he got it. A ‘splains that it came from his pants. Guy with the chain drops it as if contaminated. A explains that it came from the outside of his pants leg. Guy who previously had the chain was not reassured.
later
A is asked why he had a chain with a handcuff on the end of it. some random bystander : makes you wonder what he does to his girlfriend? someone else: so that’s why she’s absent!
*bell rings*
I get asked that when people find the handcuffs in my purse.
Then they find the Play-Doh and really wonder ^_^
I think I’ll collect random suspicious paraphernalia just for this purpose!
Are you kidding??? Here’s the stuff in my purse right now:
1. Lip gloss (for emergencies)
2. A ticket stub for the American Idol tour
3. A picture of my mom in 6th grade
4. A tiny pieceof my teacher’s shirt (don’t ask)
5. A playdoh jar filled with twigs
6. A breathmint package filled with bits of hardened clay tht LOOK like breathmints
7. A mousetrap
8. A pieceof paper thatsays MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA on it in bold all caps
9. A tshirt that says Lets Go Bananas! on it (again, for emergencies)
10. Various species of pocket lint, all kept in a ziplock bag
11. the pieces of lint i haven’t harvested yet, floating around on the bottom.
12. A page from Muse, November 2006.
I kid you not. In my purse:
1. Numerous AA and AAA batteries
2. Numerous safety pins of various sizes
3. Numerous writing instruments (pencils, both wooden and mechanical; ballpoint and felt-tip pens; a highlighter; sharpies)
3. iPod
4. Digital camera
5. Umbrella
6. Handcuffs
7. Play-Doh (green, 28.35g)
8. TI-34 II (Henry, my scientific calculator)
9. TI-84 Plus Silver Edition (Pierre, my graphing calculator used primarily for stats)
10. TI-89 Titanium (Gonzola, graphing calculator extraordinare)
11. Duct tape wallet containing coins, bills, and various cards (library, Borders, license)
12. Loose change that escapes the wallet
Whee.
Three calculators? Two graphing calculators?! Talk about parallel processing!
Wow, that’s a lot of stuff. I don’t carry a purse, but here are some of the contents of my backpack:
1. Zillions of pens, pencils, highlighters, and other random writing implements
2. TI-83 Plus Graphing Calculator (and extra AAA batteries)
3. iPod
4. Cell phone
5. Wallet containing library card, jumpdrive, JCC card, Barnes & Noble gift cards, and random other cards and such. Oh, and a small amount of money, and my Bus Pass.
6. Hand Sanitizer
7. Books and Notebooks and Binders and Textbooks
8. Lunch box
9. Glow-in-the-dark Silly Putty
I’ve been hanging with girls since first grade. Most of my best friends are girls, but not popular ones, and not nerds either. In between, I guess. It helps because they all know eachother and I can get a girlfriend’s info easier. And plus, like Hawk said, it’s boring talking about Mario and Eminem all day.
78-A moustrap? Handcuffs is one thing, but a MOUSTRAP? *backs away slowly*
Belive it or not, I have a purse. *gasps* I don’t carry it around or anything, I keep it in my room. No, I’m not all girly and frilly and walk like my hip’s broken. It’s not designer, it’s just a regular black purse that has stuff that might be useful that I can grab if I need. I KEEP IT IN MY ROOM. I DO NOT CARRY IT ON MY ELBOW.
Contents? Hmm… lemme check.
Ah, here we are.
First Compartment\
2 blue Marty Gras necklaces
1 Home Depot apron thingy
2 glasses cases
1 pair of glasses w/ broken lens
2 bands from a Moon Bounce Shoe
Second Compartment (this you might find a bit more interesting…)
3 fake passports
1 “Diva” mirror
1 Seiko Spell Checker
1 black wallet containing reciptes
1 silver notebook
1 VSFA tag holder with ID
1 PMI tag holder with two IDs
1 ring case
1 fake cell phone
14 fake credit cards (Delta, Michigan, Discovery, American Express, Capital One, Geico, and Travelers)
6 Livestrong wristbands
1 Macanudo cigars case
1 Navy Uniform jacket button
1 outdated library card
1 unidentified button
Weird, eh? Don’t ask how any of those come in handy, they just do sometimes.
69- no idea who that is but all the cool people come from canada… even if they aren’t musers…. *sigh*
I don’t carry a purse either but these are the contents of my backpack:
1. garbage(papers and stuff……)
2. 1-3 binders for assorted classes
3. art bag(the only thing i like in there is my masking tape)
4. pencil case(actualy i might have 2 in there)
5. agaenda
6.samll change purse used to cary money for book buying
7.cell phone so my mom doesn’t freak when i stay late at school
8.dance folder
9. dance wear
10. drama sheets
11. glasses case with the glasses i never use.
12. more garbage.
i’m sorry, i know this is a triple post. my friend malan’s closest friends are girls but he still hangs out with guys. just i think we understand him more and don’t think he’s as weird as other people.
stuff in purses? well i hardly ever use mine, but when i do it’s got money, ipod, headphones, speakers, two books, duct tape, a tennis ball, and glasses in case my contacts die (which they often do, because i always leave them in too long and then they dry out)
83- MARDI GRAS. My mom’s from new orleans and is ashamed of you
88-I’m sorry. The farthest south I’ve been is Charlottesville.
No band aids in your backpacks/purses? Well, duct tape, and if you had a tissue and you were in a pinch (or a cut or scrape) you could duct tape the tissue to yourself, but it wouldn’t come off well, even in the shower!
Wellwell, tomorrow there will be no heat in the building, meaning a fire in the fireplace. If everyone does what they should, they will all be there, but that isn’t likely.
Hanging out with opposite gender-definitely a good idea, just a little difficult at these ages. *HAWK keeps going* *slows down, and puts in energizer battery*
In this class, quiet girl is pretty much the only girl my age. There are a couple a year younger, but they don’t come very often and don’t seem to be any more social or interesting either. These people just bog themselves down with so many other things they don’t even have time to come to church and socialize!
Red-tailed HAWK
90-I have band-aids in my real wallet. I keep that in my back pocket. Contents of my wallet:
Asorted change
my student ID
my Rust Library card
two band-aids
a $1 bill
a price tag for the wallet
Yup, that’s it. Kinda skimpy for a guy like me. You’d expect an elephant in my wallet or something.
Oh yeah, I forgot about the smallest, outside pocket in my backpack. In that pocket, I have:
1. Band-aids
2. Epi-pen
3. Retainer case
4. Scotch tape
5. Mini-stapeler
6. Really long paper-clip chain
91- i always forget you guys have one dollar bills. which i find incredibly strange! because we have loonies and toonies. the loonie(one dollar coin) has a loon on it and the toonie has [a] polarbear(s) on it. on the old twentie dollar bill we had a loon too but now the twentie is colourful and what not. actualy i don’t know whats on the new twenty…. “flanders feilds” is on the 10 i think…
93-Yeah, I know. i go to Canada every year. Every year I trek down (in an airbus) to Ontario and hang at the beach. Which sucks, because it’s usually too cold to do anything except build castles for frogs and plotte eville plannes with my distaint cousins. Who actually live there.
[Snip, snap, snop. Identifying information deleted — Rosanne]
94- oh come on! Canada is not that cold. most of the population lives near the boarder anyways. and if you were visiting lake ontario in the summer/spring it deffinitely wouldn’t be that cold. it’s only cold in the winter!
Kagy! I forget if I told you this, but I’m doing a report on canada! I have a few Canadian coins, and they are purdy. Canada does seem like a cool ( 8) cool, and sometimes cold cool ) place. I have ancestors from there, but I have never been there…
*Trumpets blow* Today! Today I march off to what will eventually be history! (well, obviously, right! )
Red-tailed HAWK
I don’t care much for Canada except for the following: Steve Nash, Pamela Anderson, and most of all, ALEX TREBEK yeah he pwns! but I dont like canadian bacon
Whoah baby,I’m not even to get into the subject of my backpack.
Kagz, a while back, you mentioned getting angry at a friend cause he thought that you were PMSing. You shouldn’t have been mad at him. My mom told me that if girls around my age were extra crabby, it could mean that they were PMSing. We’re trying to be considerate.
Report!
I’m not putting this on the christmas thread, because it is really about who is playing what, so please bear with me people who don’t like christmas!
I’m a reader. Mediumish boy is a reader. Younger girl A is Mary. Younger girl B is the lead angel. Quiet boy is….Joseph! Which is the position he should get considering how long he has been coming. Quiet girl…Didn’t come, again, getting annoying…which means mary was grabbed up when it is her last possible year to be Mary. She refused when she had a chance last year too. Very strange.
Younger girl B was annoying and trying to steal my sunglasses and leaning on my shoulder and standing on my foot.
Younger girl A was reserved but still friendly.
By younger I just mean a year, but meaning they still have a year to get better positions in the pageant if they wanted to wait.
Quiet girl will do probably one of three things:
Just not come and thus avoid the pageant entirely.
Be a reader despite the fact she doesn’t speak very loudly and she has to be heard in a big room.
Think there isn’t anything she can do but go to another grade and do something there.
Red-tailed HAWK
80- They come in handy! ^_^
81- I had sanitizer too until it somehow opened and got everywhere… And now I am considering carrying a flash drive everywhere…
83- Beavo, you and your man-purse are my heroes. *refrains from asking how that stuff is useful*
87- Hmm, I should probably tote duct tape around, too…
90- The band-aid thing’s probably for the best, too. Duct tape HURTS when pulled off skin… I got it on myself pretty snugly [long story] and when I ripped it off, I had no hair on that part of my arm for a week. And bruises from the way I pulled it off…eek!
99- That explains a lot. Note to self: try not to glare so much at male friends. But girls are usually crabby ;P
My friends and I are indeed strange. Some of us have wondertwin powers! xD
This is what’s in my wallet:
Money
Gum
Tribal ID
Picture of myself so I will never forget who I am
this baseball card I put in there one time and I never remembered to take it out.
101-Man-purse? Really, it’s just a bag. That looks like a purse. To fool people. *ignores scoffs and snorts*
96- cool! you should visit! if you need anyhelp on the project ask me! (unless it’s something complicated about uhh… grade 7 historybecause i don’t remember gr.7 too well) but yeah visit the capital of ontario it is the coolest city by far!
97- well, i don’t care much for you! i’m joking of course. you are awesome. but come on PAMELA ANDERSON????????? there are about 80 billion canadians way cooler than her! i like to pretend she’s american most of the time….
99- it wasn’t only that. he’s an imature little idiot who always goes “kathleen’s feeling this way right now aren’t you kathleen” he always misinterprets my emotions and stuff. he is an [excessive swearing snipped by yours truly]
KAgy, sorry about the canadian thing. It was a joke. kind of. But alex trebek does pwn.
105- it’s okay, i can’t make you love my country! but honestly… pamela anderson? *disbelief* alex trabek is okay i guess…..
99- Are you kidding? PMSing is a power tool! Use it well!
HeHe… the contents of my backpack….. not much there but the contents of my walk- in-closet (AKA black hole in disguise) in include: *runs to check*
7 lip glosses
3 laundry hampers (bam. they’re color coded)
one echo microphone (WHOO, WHOo, WHoo, Whoo, whoo!)
i box of jujubes
1 box of gummy frogs
i foot long gummy snake
2 string sets
2 duct tapes
4 purses
3 backpacks
2 laptop tote bags
3 bathing suits (no bikinis, i swim competitivly)
1 huge bag o’ jewlrey that i never use
i porcelain dragon piggy bank ( i am the total undiscoverd artist)
an old sandwhich
my ipod
a lightbulb
assorted candy
perfume (i dont use it)
green fuzzy slippers (these i use)
eyeshadow ( recently won in the battle-against-mom)
the phone that i probably should hav returned but didn’t because the evil one should call me any second.
A “rollin with the homies” muppets tee-shirt
Wow. i neer took inventory before….. ouch. i hope my mom doesn’t read this.
103- xD
108- Oh wow…
My closet is a realm unto its own. Beware, ye who enter, for you will be buried under an avalanche of clothing and miscellaneous bits of nothing whatsoever.
My closet. More like solid block of junk. My closet used to be walk in, but now if you walk in you have to be ghostie because I certainly haven’t managed it in three years. And I don’t feel like breaking my neck trying to clean it out.
I have that Gringotts poem on my closet door.
Enter, stranger, but take heed
Of what awaits the sin of greed,
For those who take, but do not earn,
Must pay most dearly in their turn.
So if you seek beneath our floors
A treasure that was never yours,
Thief, you have been warned, beware
Of finding more than treasure there
Last year I turned my closet into a “reading nook,” and put all my blankets and pillows in there, etc. It was really nice, but then I started doing my homework in there and it got really messy and such. So now I’ve turned it back into a closet, because it didn’t really end up working.
My room immediately dirties itself up directly after i clean it. Like, there are little uncleanliness daemons waiting till i am gone, and BAMMIES, it’s dirty again.
I try to keep cound of how long I can keep my room clean.
Record for most time: Year and six months and four days.
Record for least time: Five minutes.
Current Record: Since two days ago.
I have the poem up with black tape, and taped a few plastic spiders on it for effect. It’s also white words on black paper. *scary music*
urgh- don’t get me started….. i had to pack up atleast 1/3 of my room and 3/3 of my office over the summer and now i HAVE to unpack it OR ELSE… and yeah. kagy is not happy.
on the plus side i visited my friend whom i haven’t seen in months and we talked and it was cool……..
Whoah, baby, we are reeeeeeally off topic.
MISSSWANN’S FRIEND UPDATE:
Guess what? Katie (one of the friends that betrayed me) had a talk with me, and she thinks Gabby is a jerk! YAY! She says that if she had her way, Gabby wouldn’t hang with her. So, maybe I could sorta convince her to actuallyget that going…
DEAD THREAD NOOO COME BACK TO LIFE WAHH!!!!!!!
If it does come back, hopefully we can keep things relatively on track. Perhaps we could start with…*brushes crumbs off shirt and trys to look respectable* me
I shall now describe my situation fully and (hopefully) understandably, all in one post, so that the reasons for my advice seeking are fully understood.
I do not go to public school. And shudder to think what sort of faintly intelligent (or not even that) beings I would meet if I did. However, because I do not go to the same place day after day, I am forced to find somewhere I can go to relatively frequently, find relatively intelligent beings, and hope friendships work out.
This is not easy, and if I was as shy as some of you claim to be I wouldn’t have any young friends at all. And because it’s difficult to even start a normal friendship (not just someone you meet for one day and then never see again, as some homeschoolers claim is perfectly acceptable instead of an actual friendship), you may now realize why I have been absent on the romance thread. Even any faint leaning toward radical teen love angst has been obliterated.
The place I (as one of the only who do) regularly go is church, and the only others remotely near my age who find time in their busy public school lives to come much are boys. That’s great, and they are great friends, but………Break up the gender groups, people! The blog is mostly girls, and you are all c00l, so what about some who live near me?
And many of you consider yourselves shy. And why wouldn’t truly (muse-type) cool people be shy, the rest of the world isn’t cool but thinks it is and so makes you feel as if you aren’t cool. Homeschooling has kept me out of that hopeless loop, so I am probably a rare case of (I don’t mean to brag about myself here ) a non-shy cool person.
*trumpets blast* So that, my friends, is my sad tail. Thus this whole bit about “Quiet girl” and whatnot. Oh, it is pathetic, isn’t it. This is more of a rant, but I didn’t know if people would want to read my post there and help me here, so I did not post this on the rants thread.
And the thing is, I cannot be sure quiet girl is truly this cool interesting person inside. My mother says she thought quiet boys were interesting and nice truly, but they never were, so that is another thing to consider.
And shy girl bloggers–how do you think you look to people you do not talk to much, is there a difference between boring people whose brains snuck off while they watched tv (find that in this week’s comics, really!) and people who wish another interesting person would bump into them?
I will go away now, before I create any more text for you to read
Red-tailed HAWK
116- Wow.
I was a homeschooler and I’m still shy. I don’t really know why.
117-I’m sure there is still some variability, don’t feel bad!
What happened to the word “out” in my last post? Some funny symbol got stuck in there…
Red-tailed HAWK
I have so many guy friends which is due some to that I go to a ridiculously small school (300 people) and that I like them all. My friend IMed me the other day and said that all the guy friends that we usually talk to like me the best. (!!) Which I admit is quite flattering, but now I’m wondering if it’s just me who has all these close-ish guy friends……
You’re school only has 300 people?
Wowz. My school is huge, then. It has about three hundred people each in sixth and seventh, and five hundred in eighth.
I’m not shy, but people are scared of me anyway. So it’s basically the same thing.
116- Near this time last year, when I first started talking to this guy who is now a good friend of mine, he said, and I quote, “I thought you were a mute!” Yeah, and I had class with him for the months before. This is how I come off to people.
116- firstly- public school isn’t that bad. really, you make it sound like we’re stupid losers whos it in front of the TV all day. i have met some seriously awesome poeple at my publicschool. so please think before you put down public school. truust me all the evil people got to private school. in my city anyways. secondly: the thing about the brain… that was pearls before swine wasn’t it (and it happened a while ago)
120- my 4-8 school had 300 kids exactly (give or take a few)
119- I’ve got about 130 people from Kindergarten to 8th (that had better have worked. >.< ). Whole school. No more. That’s it, and 48 people in the 6-8 grades. Tiny? Zark yeah.
Public School is really not that bad. Unless you happen to go to mine of course. It looks like a jail and was designed by the same guy that did MA State Penitentiary. One of the hallways smells like weed and i dont kno if it was kids or teachers. The boy’s bathrooms are gross and there’s all kinds of “misses” all over the place. But there is a nice wall of grafiti that signifies who did who’s mom/YHFfriend. (i cant type the g word). The desks have various band logos/gang logos (we have a bunch of gangs)/ maps of Middle earth. There are 750 kids in 6-8, and the student/teacher ratio is 15 kids per teacher. I don’t know why our school is so outrageously ghetto. I live in a nice, suburban white boring middle class district. And my town is very historical. I can’t say the name cuz it would get zapped, but its where
[Zap. Sorry CETP, but even that’s too much info — GAPA RS]
The New yorkers come up in September to see the leaves, and i’m so glad those leafers are gone. the leafers are so annoying to us new englanders because THERE YANKEES FANS ARRGH! Then in april, the Japanese come to see the Reenactment of the battle of
[Zap again].
And also busloads of old people. IF you want to see the reenactment, you have to wake up at like 330 in the a.m. becuz thats when it happened.
Rt-H (116) – I went to a private elementary and middle school, now I go to a public high school, and I’m shy.
Beavo (120) – My elementary/middle school had about 250 people and it was K-8. My high school has about 500 people. My grade is the smalles–there are only 12 Literary Arts Sophomores.
OH man. HELP! Ok so today we were walking out of school and my friend is like “so I have this crush on a guy, but he is an athiest, he doesnt believe in God” (dont bring a fight to this thread please!) and my other friend (B) gasps. And just to tell everyone my parents dont believe in God, so they think that I dont, but I dont know what I believe. So after B gasps I like totally wanted to explode, because what is wrong with others beliefs? So now I dont know what to do because apparently none of my friends know that my family doesnt go to church and doesnt beleive in God. WHAT DO I DO?
*agrees with Kagy about public schools*
*mostly*
Public schools are good if you are in the higher-level classes (Honors, AP) because that’s where you’ll find a majority of people who actually care about learning.
I go to a public school and there are plenty of intelligent people there. In fact, we rank highly in the state in many academic competitions, and our main competitor in those is another public school even though there are plenty of private schools who compete.
NO, no, I in no way meant to say all public schools are bad, but I would of course have to go to the one in my county, and from what I have heard it is overcrowded (i. e. who knows, at least a third of the population learning in trailers) and they do not teach things well. And not even just in an evolution standpoint, just general stuff. And the people where I live are strange anyway. Not the kind of friends I would like to meet.
126-Dancergirl, I assume you go to public school. You are probably dealing with similar people as I would be if I went in my county. Religious beliefs shouldn’t have anything to do with friendship, but I know you cannot just lose every last friend just to prove a point about beliefs That is a difficult situation. Proud Public Schoolers, please step up and help her! She seems to always be having to cope ith some situation with these stupid kids…*pies the stupid kids at dancergirl’s school*
But because people have these weird ideas, meeting people at my meeting seems like a bonus too, right?
So quiet kids: You think there is no difference between quiet smart people and silly stupid people? I think smart people would have some sort of hint of life in there, but maybe the defining line is fuzzy…
And Kagy-It was that comic, and this week they continued it. I wasn’t saying all public school people are that way, but there are enough people for who it is true that it makes it difficult to tell who is actually nice. Also, you have the overwhelming benefit of being in Canada, not as crowded and thus fewer annoying people overall!
Potato chip should come to this thread, I saw her somewhere saying she wishes she could just be friends with guys without people bugging her about liking them or something…
Red-tailed HAWK
126- the next time it happens casualy or rather anoyedly say “My parents are atheists too you know and they’re good people” then depending on their reaction you will know if they are true friends or not. or if it ever comes out be like “oh, my parents are atheist! didn’t you know?” but be realy polite! good luck.
129- you call them trailers? up here we call them portables! there may be less people (?) but the majority of the population lives close to the boarder. although Canada is a huge country no one much really lives in the more northernly areas. because it’s cold and inconveniant i guess but we are still an awesome country. except for the anoying children. RE:pearls before swine: up here we’re already up to the part about the chihuahua who wants to travel.
My school though is like relly multicultural and stuff. i picked up armenian (first swears, kuneh, aboosh, esheg) and then eventually lerned it. when me and my friends talk, we use this weird language mixture of English, Spanish, Armenian, Lushootseed, french and arabic.
130- i have tlingit friends in YT
130-Portables? That sort of makes them sound better, doesn’t it. Yeah, learning about Canada for my report is cool 8) Nunavut is completely in the hands of the Inuit, as far as I can tell. But the book continued by saying that no, they don’t live in Igloos, they live in regular houses Hey, your cartoons go faster?! /
131-Multicultural is nice. I think my town’s population is composed of 99.99999999999% white people and .00000000000000000000001% other people. -_- That is just another reason my public school wouldn’t be so great. Going on the blog is good, as we have a pretty good mix of people here.
Red-tailed HAWK
132- Well my town has a strong chapter. they call themselves the “Knights of Colombus” well i know thats another organization, but thats what they call themselves and nobody busts them. Also i went to alaska a couple years ago, and at the Alaska native heritage center, some stupid weirdo asked a Yupik lady, “Do inuit live in igloos” and the lady said “the stupid ones”
131- at the risk of being sunned my i ask what “YT” means and “tlingit”?
132- did you actualy think they lived in igloos? fun faxt about the north: half the year the sun is above the horizon but just barely and the other half of the year it’s just below the horizon. so people think that it’s pich black half the year and bright and sunny the next but it’s actually like just before sunrize when the sun doesn’t apear. that’s what my geography teacher said. now if you want to impress your teachers find out about the ecozones of Canada (it’s gr.9 curriculum) because it’s probably stuff teachers would be interested in. if you have anyquestions about anything just ask me!
133- stupid tourists! i mean honestly! but yeah. we don’t much like americans up here. the guy next to me in french was talking about how stupid americans are and stuff. and i told him that he was wrong and that not all americans are stupid. if he ever does that again i’m totaly gonna give him a lecture about how there are great americans out there (like the GAPAs’). wait, GAPAs’ is it okay if i use you as examples of good and smart americans who defy the steriotyping?
YT= Yukon Territory
Tlingit= Tribe of NW indians. they have their own national anthem which is pretty cool
Even though i am american there are a lot of stupid americans out there. like the Hilton sisters and Lindsay Lohan. But Dunkin Donuts pwns Tim Hortons.
135- RE: Dunkin Donuts vs. Tim Hortons: you wish DD was better but you know in your heart Timmy’s pwns!!!! btw, thanks, i thought YT had to do w/the yukon but i don’t usualy hear it reffered to as YT just The Yukon.
oh boo. you no that tim hortons bows in vanquishment to Dunkin donuts. But i have to agree that Eh? is better than saying, Huh?
137- no one say eh? up here. Eh? and huh? mean two different things. huh? can be an expression of stupidity as in
person1: I like chicken
person two: Huh?
if we were to repeat this conversation using eh? it would go like this:
person one: chicken’s pretty awesome eh?
person two: i’m sorry but i did not quite catch what is awesome!
person one : chicken is quite awesme my friend.
person two: i have to disagree with you as i am oposed to the consumption of meat!
person one: oh……. whatever man!
person two: dude!
sorry, i got a little caried away. only the first two lines of that were important.
Ah. Canadian politeness. The above situation would be like this in america.
1: Chicken is like, awesome, right?
2: HUH?
1. I said, chicken is awesome, what are you deaf?
2: No, what are you talking about, no its not, im a vegetarian you loser!
1: You Want Beef?
2. No, Im a vegetarian, i want celery!
The evil one told me that people who say “eh” make her mad. It was so funny, I said “eh” and she twitched. i don’t have a problem with it.
139- actualy canadians aren’t verry polite anymore (atleast only a few whom i’ve met are polite) and there are a lot of hostilities towards vegetarians. In my family i’m the oly vegetarian and my brother is a meat lover. an example of a dinner conversation in my house goes as such.
Me: Mother this is quite deliciouse
Bro: ya know what would make it better??
Mom: no what?
Bro: Meat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: *rolls eyes*
And on nights where there is no meat in the meal my bro always says. tommorrow can we have meat ? what the heck! we have a meat dish every other day while i survive on leftovers (which i don’t mind) but he is such a selfish little greedy animal killing boy.
140- *chuckles* that’s pretty weird eh? she really shouldn’t have issues with the way epople speak. it’s rude.
I occasionally say “eh”, but don’t notice it or consider it especially “Canadian” while I’m saying it. But it sounds like something c00l to say, like you would say while looking like 8) or something
Maybe that’s where the whole “cool canadian” thing started! You have to say “eh”!!!
One week from now is practice. I am just waiting for there to be some big problem of some kids not having parts. Well, they should have come when they knew we were choosing parts, obviously. Somehow quiet girl might not have been the best person for Mary, though, if she planned on wearing as many sequins as usual. I suppose that is a bit of an exaggeration, but still…
Oh, these people…do you have any advice with dealing with them?
Red-tailed HAWK
142- ignore them or by your body language imply they are wasting your time.
[I feel like talking in third person today]
Andrew has a female friend (M), and a male friend (S). Now, Andrew’s friend M has a very big crush on S. It’s almost pathetic, actually; think sweet, innocent puppy-dog. S has no feelings whatsoever for M, he thinks she’s a little strange. M is a very nice person, all PETA-inclined animal activist. S is a geeky, scrawny, high-voiced guy (note that Andrew’s not insulting him, this is his own self-description). Andrew is good friends with both. What should he do? M is obviously not going to do anything (she’s on the shy side), and S is too un-social to notice anything. M is going to be hurt, badly, if she likes him like this for much longer. Andrew can feel that something’s going to happen soon, and it’s not going to be good. Possibly with no effect on S, but M will be crushed. Andrew doesn’t want M going emo. That would be very bad. Help?
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Oh well, it was kind of a tangential paragraph anyway. Basically, I’ve realised how much all of my friends mean to me, even the ones that I’m not ridiculously close to.
Carry on.
144- why does everyone go emo???????? sorry i’m in an anoyed mood today but seriously emo is kinda loserish and attention wanting.
Damn. The computer messed up in French this morning >.much they mean to me.
The reason why I say this is because I have had an emotionally turbulent past couple of weeks, partly because of my significant other and partly because of a friend of mine who is messing herself up (can you say “Advil”?). Not only do I need someone to (literally) cry on because of what my boyfriend did, but also because I care an incredible amount for my friend who is messing herself up, and I do not want to lose her, so it’s good to have someone to talk to about it. There have been three people who have been incredibly helpful with these things, but two that I will particularly focus on, because it enters the realm beyond generally Friends to the clarification of “Just Friends.”
One is a guy I met through musical (he was a lead/honourary techie, I was a techie) and we bonded in various theatre ways. He’s kind of crazy, and more of a friend to have a good time with and get a hug from than spill all of your feelings to. I mean, I still trust him, but not as much as I trust some of my closer friends, you know? It’s that kind of a thing.
Now, all of my theatre friends are upperclassmen, and due to the freshman academy system, I have no classes with them, or usually near them. However, I recently discovered that this particular guy (a senior) has a class down the hall from mine during our second hour. So, for the past week, I have been visiting him before class to say hello and get a hug. The people in my class are rather uninteresting and tend to test my patience, and, I guess, we don’t have the same bond as me and my theatre friends do. Working on a theatrical production for weeks on ends bonds you like little else. Anyway, even seeing him in the morning makes my day. I don’t like him, even in a tiny way (our meeting in the hall every day tend to goad people into thinking otherwise), but he has been so helpful to me, even to just read my long, ranting emails (he did want to know what was wrong) and give me hugs. It is just simply great to see him every day, helped by the fact that I don’t have to skip class to do so.
My theatre buddies I am especially close to, but mostly this one in particular. I mean, I can spill to her and get snot and tears on her sweatshirt and it won’t be incredibly awkward. I say, “incredibly”, because the reason why I was crying on her was because well…my boyfriend cheated on me. However, that is another tale for another thread. On with the show. I say “incredibly” because, even though she’s dating somebody else and I’m dating somebody else, I think we kinda like each other. Not like each other as in, “what am I doing dating this guy, I want to date you”, or as in, “gosh, I like you both, I’m torn”, or as in, “I want to get into your pants if it’s the last thing I do”…no, just as in, “you’re kinda cute and kinda sweet and kinda weird in a delightful sort of way and I kinda like you and don’t mind sitting in your lap or holding hands with you.” Just a little, almost second-grade type of crush.
And I know that we both like each other in that, tiny, cute sort of way, because well…she said that if she wasn’t dating her boyfriend that she would want to date me. And I think that that loudly implies that she likes me, if just a little, more than a friend. However, I do think that we like each other just as friends more than anything, and that it’s not giving us second thoughts about our serious relationships (in terms of who we want to be with).
And yes, I am bi.
Your euphemism strays a little close to the edge for the GAPAs’ comfort.
Here’s an idea: when you MBers feel a need to swear, why don’t you just shout out “Euphemism!”? The only drawback is that it sounds a bit like a sneeze.
Hmm… What’s the opposite of pie? What if, when you got annoyed, you said “Cake!”? I think that would make a good oath. “Oh, cake! I blew it.” I think that has potential.
148- I thought that the oppostie of pie was tin?
Hmm, swearing. Lately, I’ve taken to saying “snip” when I’m upset at something. Or crumbs, or pie, or drat, or dang, or snot or…….never mind.
148- oh! what a delightful suggestion!
anyways. hem. i just realized something i wanted to ask about. there’s this guy who’s friends with several of my friends and i really don’t think he likes me at all. i have been nothing but nice to him and whenever we wind up in the vicinity of eachother and a conversation is started he goes “you know Kathleen, you really suck.”. i can’t tell if he actualy means it or if he’s joking because i don’t know him well at all. but really, i haven’t been mean to him ever. so i don’t understand. i just laugh it off. is that the right thing to do? i think it is because it shows he’s not getting to me but are there any suggestions from MBers?
Hmm, swearing. I just let myself go, say whatever the *snip* zark I feel like.
Zark is a good one. very h2g2-ish, and besides there’s no common swear that starts with a z so people can’t be all “OHNOEZ EUPHEMISM YOU BAD BOY/GIRL”
or you could turn it into a dissing-joe-esque language game where you just make stuff up.
I think all multiple-word swears should be alliterative.
I also think we should have a thread devoted to making some up. GAPAs? p-word?
148- xD Or could we quote the latest PPP episode?
Everyone’s so tiring this year.
HAWK= never swearing, or using euphemisms, really. If something really hurts (even like, falling off bike and scraping half of arm off, like this past summer.) I start roaring at the top of my lungs making all sorts of odd dinosaur-like growls and “ahhhhhhhh”s. And usually “OWOWOWOWOWOWOWOW OWW!!!!!!” in there too. Yeah, strange it may seem, I know I don’t generally blend in with what’s expected of the modern teen
143-That sometimes becomes necessary, but I don’t want to do that to all of them.
Wellllllll……..last week there was supposed to be a party with quiet and medium boy and their families, but other people forgot and said to have it this saturday instead of last. I don’t know if that will happen either.
Meanwhile, a party is scheduled for over two weeks from now, with the girl who moved away and seems different now in attendance.
You know, I have a feeling that some of these people are having romance problems and so HAWK on Sunday isn’t high on their list of people to worry about. For example, they may be fine around friends they see every day, but don’t really care to be friendly so much on Sunday, but rather think about their problems. I doubt this is the case with quiet or medium boy (although I suppose it could be, they have never said they are still in non-romance mode) but maybe more of quiet girl, girl-who-moved-away, or a few of the others who very seldom show up. Just a thought…
Red-tailed HAWK the HAPPYITISCHRISTMASTIME!!!!!!
Re: Swearing-I say snap usually. Zark as well as sheblang issues from my mouth often as well.
The rest of them are either real cuss or made up words, like ebeth said. Zablism. Morphisactophs. Zibbygiggles.
I like swearing, a lot…sorry for being too loudly uncensored for your tastes, GAPA. And I have tried shouting “EUPHEMISM” before, but it’s not quite the same…which is probably the point of shouting it.
155– Seriously, that is kinda strange. Maybe it’s just cos of the ghetto school I go to, but it is extremely hard for me to imagine a teenager who censors himself. I mean…it’s usually the first way children rebel against the social rules, swearing is. Even if they don’t know what it means. It’s the teenager’s first “impurity” so to speak, from their parents’ ideal image. But you don’t have to have authority problems to swear: I’m not as insubordinate as you may think, and I swear a ton.
152– Haha, Glassy XD
…but I did not post on this thread to discuss profanity. Did anybody actually read my ridiculously long post?
151– I would ask your friends about it, if he’s the kind of person to just randomly joke like that. Being as they’re your friends, you should be able to trust their answers. Until you know for sure, however, I would just laugh it off to avoid unnecessary drama.
Zibbygiggles sounds like far too happy a word to use for swearing. i might steal it for another context though, if i can figure out when to use it
Cliffy= says any word he feels like. first amenment! I do swear a considerable amount
“Oh, frunking zibbygiggles,” is the context that it was used in today, when I stubbed my toe on those stoopid sceince desk table thingies. I HATE those stoopid science desk table thingies.
*sigh*
POPO, to the maxx, guys. This thread isn’t about profanity.
Sorry! My fault — I started it. *pays fine in virtual tchoqlut*
160-see i couldn’t say something like “frunking” though. it’s too close to the original, and i’d find myself just actually swearing instead.
and hey, we’re having a relatively serious discussion…*sulk* but ok, let’s tie this into friendship…most of my friends swear, many of them a lot more than i do, and often around my parents. my parents aren’t all that thrilled with this, understandably, but i’m usually like “um, whatever”
anybody else have issues like that, with parentals wanting you to do something about your friends’ language? (i swear too, fyi, just not around my parents)
162-As a member of the POPOPO, I give back the chocolate, as firstly you are a GAPA and secondly it is a valid point worthy of discussion somewhere on the blog. Boy, I fell like adding -ly to numbers for some reason, it happens sometimes…
This thread has seen many unrelated topics in its history, sadly…
And sorry for not blending in with modern teens, there are manyy ways I could be accused of that (no ipod[not that everyone has one, but] no romance issues, the list would be longer than santa’s…)
Red-tailed HAWK
Eh, not really. They just talk to me later and say, “I hope you’re not using language like that” and I can’t help but laugh at them. But if I don’t swear in front of them, which…I don’t swear in front of them that often. Anyway, if I don’t swear in front of them, there’s nothing they can do about it, and they know that.
155-Yeah, I have been wondering (about the friends) about that too. It seems like it might be true…
Hey, you know, there aren’t many other people here to talk to, I’ll talk to my previous (i. e. yesterday ) self! Oh um, yeah, that is a sort of slow conversation, as my old self from yesterday can’t answer me now. Hmm.
I shall try to take Kricket’s suggestion. I actually hadn’t fully used that advice yet…
Red-tailed HAWK
well, thanks for not helping me *glares* joking. but actualy i really wish someone had taken the time to comment on my delemma. whatever i preety much think i know what he thinks. i’m relatively good friends with one of his friends and i ask his/my friend during french and my friend said “well, if he hates someone he usualy tells them or avoids them. i dunno because he doesn’t talk about you. he hates most of mishi’s (my other friend) friends anyways.”
167-Sorry! I didn’t see your real question in the middle of all of these off-topic posts… So do you still want help? I’ll try.
WHO IS THIS PERSON AND WHERE CAN I FIND HIM TO PIE HIM????????????????? No, maybe not that, but how does he get away with saying that to you? Unless he’s really really weird, he must not mean it, but have some other crazy reason. Maybe he somehow thinks you like him and whether or not he does back he doesn’t want to admit it (???) / (:?::?::?:) Strange people………
ATTENTION ANYONE ELSE READING THIS. PLEASE READ THE FOLLOWING:
It is clear by the occasional post from other people on this thread that everyone has some friend issue, and yet you rarely come here. I don’t think all of our helping energy should be directed to romance things that might not last the way a good friendship would, and yet there are few people to help and even fewer to be helped by. This does not compute, and hopefully more people (notably Beavo, who seemed excited about this thread in the begining *hinthintbeavocomeoverhereplease!*)
Red-tailed HAWK
I’m still here, but I don’t have much advice and I don’t really have any friend problems that are worth mentioning right now.
Maybe it’s the title. “Just” friends…oh, they’re just friends, don’t worry about them, come to R&R. it’s not just R&R, it’s R&R. but we’re the just friends thread…just the lil’ ol’ friends thread, no need to worry about us…
148- i don’t swear but here is a ist of my favorite non-explitives
” oh that’s just peachy!” (sarcasm)
“peachy keen!” (Sarcasm)
“mushrooms!” (from chitaqui mushrooms)
“cheese crumblies!”
“crud muffins!”
“Muffins!”
“Fooey!”
try one of these instead
Can anyone give advice for post #144? I’m completely stumped on what to do. And, as I said before, I can’t just wait around for the thing to resolve itself.
144-tell S, but tell him that he didn’t hear it from you. that way S can give hints to M that he doesn’t like her without just coming out and saying “well, andrew said blahblah and i don’t like you so nyeh”
that way, S can’t say “i heard you like me” or anything, because M will want to know where he heard it.
Unless S doesn’t think that far ahead and goes ahead and says that anyway, and then you have a bit of a problem. so it depends on S’s personality, really.
(172, 144) Andrew — GAPAs don’t usually speak out on these threads, but you seem anxious for a response. In this case, I’d say there’s not much you can do right now. If things play out the way you think they will (M finds out that S is unattainable and is heartbroken), then you can be kind to M and help pick up the pieces and put her back together again. People do get over unrequited crushes and even genuinely broken hearts, and their friends can play an important part in the process.
(170) Ebeth,
In calling the thread “Just Friends,” I didn’t mean to demean friends or friendships. Both are extremely important. I meant that the thread is just about friends (as opposed to romantic relationships, which have their own thread). At the same time, I was sort-of-punning on the phrase “we’re just friends” or “they’re just friends” — which indicates the nature of a relationship between two people without implying that there’s anything wrong with it.
173,174- Thanks for the suggestions, ebeth and Robert. They’re both helpful, and I think I’ll try a mixture of the two; mainly staying out of it, but helping the situation in the right direction.
It’s like standing next to a time bomb, except the clock face is covered with duct tape. I’ll see what happens tomorrow.
148- euphemism! hehehe…. oh, Robert, you made me crack up….
147- welcome aboard, we have…. pies! *pies*
*hugs* if you wanna talk about your boyfriend or your friend I’m here. And I understand completely (or I think I do) on the liking each other and also the senior friend. I’m in a show right now too (beauty and the beast) and our Lumiere’s great to go to for a hug. He actually cares how I feel when if I’m upset. (we don’t like eachother that way either) And then the crush on your other friend I’ve a crush on my (female) friend and I think she likes me back… eee. She doesn’t go to my school though so I don’t see her often. argh. R+R and Just friends are starting to step on each other’s toes.
Andrew, maybe gently nudge S into knowing and if M’s rejected comfort her?
174-haha, i know, i was kidding. relax! *sends an icicle-and-cucumber pie*
yes, ebeth has a weird sense of humor that often makes no sense at all…
175-ooh, duct tape! love that stuff.
for lack of anything better to do (and for procrastinational purposes) i’m going to randomly post initials and reviews of all my friends. subdivided into groups of sorts. so.
B-kind of has a self-esteem issue and thinks she’s stupid because she’s not always very observant, but she’s actually really smart and tons of fun. we have…interesting conversations. often timed to perfectly coincide with the passing of a teacher. somebody’s out to get us. *shakes fist at air*
D-he’s fun, but hangs out with theater friends a lot more recently (at my school, there’s cool theater people, and then there’s the ones who are basically in control, who do theater all the time and who are generally pretty euphemism-y. it gets hard to hang around one group without the other). but he’s fun, and easy to talk to. also recently came out as gay, but people around here are pretty cool with that, so no major psychological issues
L (C)-we sing all the time together. it’s pretty crazy. we also have been known to skip (quite literally) out of class and tapdance through the halls. crazy
L-she’s funny/smart. we haven’t really hung out much until this year, but now we have ap gov and ap l/c together, so it’s cool. i remember not a lot of people liked her my freshman year (i didn’t know her then) but people seem ok with her now (or maybe they just don’t say anything around me any more…but whatev). i’m not sure what the issue with her was exactly…i think she liked D but he didn’t like her or something. but she’s cool.
F-we need to hang out more. in terms of music, college preferences, opinions, and basically everything, we’re just about the same person. also really funny
C-my closest neighbor, although when you live in a little over 2 square miles of space, everybody’s a pretty close neighbor…anyway, she’s really funny, and also has good taste in music. very opinionated too. we talk politics sometimes, so that’s fun
so it started with generally cool people, and went into the smart, english-y friends (from L (C) on, they’re all in ap l/c with me). now we’re going to start off with a couple of people who are in ap l/c but are actually classified as band friends, and move on to band peeps (D actually goes in the band area too…but whatev)
H-he’s a bit of a prick, but we have more of those…interesting conversations that you leave an ellipse in front of when describing (like…interesting conversations) he’s really funny, and tells really bad jokes (they’re so bad they’re funny). he’s also smart, and his horrible jokes are often about chem or history.
S-she can be annoying at times…she’s kind of loud and obnoxious but she’s still cool to talk to and i’ve learned more about judaism from her than from everybody else combined. she’s very good if you need advice about something
eep, bed. maybe continue if i require more procrastination
Well my friend and I talked to the friend who doesnt listen to us sometimes. She was really upset as usual, but we worked it out, unfortunately we didnt really get the point across that we wanted, but oh well……for now at least. Now I am just having issues being around one of my other friends because of romance issues with this guy, but that is for the other thread. I have kept my cool so far, jealousy keeps popping up mean thoughts in my head, but I keep them to myself and I know its just jealousy, so I know she is one of my best friends. All is well except for my broken heart.
On a happier note, SNOW DAY!!!
168- aww. thanks. but i barely ever talk to him. over the uears it has become a sport of those of the male gender to insult me. i put up with it.
172- i have no advice but to be there for who ever gets hurt.
my firnd is cutting my hair on the 18!!!!! it’s not that ican’t afford to go get it cut prefftionaly it more has to do with the fact that ireally don’t want to spend an inordinate amount of money on what an inexperience (no offense to hair dressers but what i want doesn’t need to be done by a profesional) firend can do. really, i just need the ugly log bits at the back trimmed without the rest of my hair being disturbed.. its’s gonna be jaw length. more or less…..
179-Good luck with you hair!!!
177-I sound like a combo between H and S…
179-You sound like my friend Jara for a bit there. I think she lookes almost exactly like you.
Random Comment:
I’m currently re-reading the Time Quartet (L’engle) and, in the second volume (A Wind In The Door), Meg mentions something about herself and Cal–hold on, let me find it–
“‘Well. Yes. But it’s different. … And we’re friend-friends–I mean, not like the other kids.'”
And that sort of made me think. About friend-friends, and friends. The latter are easy to define: those kids you just sort of hang out with because you get along well enough and desire human company.
And then there are friend-friends… with whom you’re very close, whom you can trust completely, whom you love, whom you don’t judge, who do all the same to you.
I probably have about three max of the latter. The former tire me.
Thoughts?
182-wow, i need to read those again. i don’t even remember that…
swiftly tilting planet was my favorite book ever on and off for a couple months
but yeah, there is a definite difference. i have three or four friend-friends, not counting you people (seriously, i trust some of you more than people i’ve actually met…kind of freaky, but true) but then i guess i’ve also known some of you longer than people i’ve actually met (i moved about the same time i came to the MB)
I have probably one friend-friend, and it’s a low one at that. Everybody else is a friend-frien. They don’t get the D, they’re not that close.
184- hmm…. i think i have one friend-friend and one friend-friend. one is closer than the other. all the rest are just friends.
i’m incredibly sad because i no longer have a best friend. Which means that no one will talk to me.
186-Mayhaps I can help you?
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183- Yeah, same here. With the trusting people here more than people I know in person. Ah well.
186- what happened? *looks concerned* *passes choklit* *hugs*
186-My friends are being evil too. -pats-
Well folks, I am waiting for information to help you, or just give consolation pies…I don’t mind, really…needless to say my romance life is parked at a stop sign and might not move for a while, so I have all of this time to talk about friendship stuff /
Red-tailed HAWK
Eh, stop signs suck. Especially when you’re actually in a relationship with someone.
192- uh what?
186-Aw, what happened? Tell ol’ Beavo what happened. *sympathetic face*
so lb and i had our first really mixed party…it was this thing we used to do back in GR where we’d invite all our band/musical friends over to play christmas music and jam, and we decided to do one here. so it was juniors and frosh. it wasn’t too bad though, we only used them for slavery a little bit n-child brought some drum stuff, although he left his set at home. high tower brought his guitar and amp (and a guitar hero guitar, for some odd reason). andy brought his old trumpet, and courtney brought her acoustic guitar and piccolo. i had three trumpets (yeah…we still haven’t sold those) and a bass guitar, and lb had a french horn and a keyboard, and mater had a pic and a flute. i think that was it. anyway, it was fun. andy decided he really wants to learn to play the bass. he asked to borrow mine for a couple days though so he can see if he sucks before he buys one. insecurity much? anyway, i said yes but i’m going to be like “you break this you DIE phewl” hewitt and courtney both tried out the trumpet, and learned the low brass cheer afterwards we went supposedly to go caroling, but we ended up going to montrose and playing ghosts in the graveyard. dan joined us on the way too, so that was fun. (list of people, not that anybody knows or cares who they are…me, sarah, hewitt, andy, high tower, dan, leeny and courtney for upperclassmen, and n-child, tater, and barnacle (lb) for the freshies)
it was kind of funny, on the way back to my house we were listening to beezelbub by tenacious d (andy had mark’s (his brother’s) speakers) and…well, high tower can yell those numerous f-bombs really loud. we were like “thaaaat was loud let’s walk away quickly now…”
anyway, that’s my latest friendship story…
187- How?
189- We are still good friends but we don’t ever talk to each other anymore. She started on the path of popularity and I became shy (see Romance and Relationship 2007 v.9) it became so that I woud have to call her or go over, just so she would talk to me. I’ve been erased from her life but now I have absolutly no one to talk to outside of school. At school I never see he and I have friends there but they all have best friends. It reminds me of gym class. People are picking teams and I’m always the last one. I have another good friend at school but she found a best friend that relates to her more. Here’s the worst part, its not teams but cliques and even though I’m included, sometimes there just isn’t enough space. Our lunch tables hold 6 people and I’m always the 7th. I usually end up sitting alone at my own table.
190- Thank you
196-Well, I’m afraid I can’t do much more than give consolation pies, but yeah.
Some people on the blog have resolved in the new year to be less shy. If I stick with my resolution to be nicer and more helpful, this thread will be a great place to talk about that in whatever way you need to.
Wow, the last comment here was on Christmas Eve?
*Shakes head sadly* Don’t die, thread, don’t die!!!!!!
Red-tailed HAWK
How depressing. Three days of absence.
All my friends are fine and all my advice thingies have dried up…
198- That’s very good!!!!!!
197- It’s getting better, not with the first friend (we’ll call her K) she still forgets i exist most days, but I have been tossed to yet another group of friends. E is a really good friend, and although she already has a bset friend, I’ve been allowed into her “inner circle” and C is really really really realy nice. Things are looking up! The only good thing that comes from being tossed around, one group to the next is that I always leave some sort of mark on those groups so that when I fruitlessly run for an office at the end of the year, I never lose by so much anymore. Last year i lost by 10 votes!!!!!!! not that anyone cares, but i was proud of losing that year.
199-Some day it may not be fruitless, if you are right!
I have 200th post. Pie me! It’s New Year’s Eve!
Red-tailed HAWK
199- you’re life sounds like a popularity struggle abit. as if the society you live in is restricted and conformist. *consolation pie*
¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡HEHEHEHEHEHEH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NEW YEAR’S DAY, JANUARY 1ST 2008
MASTER CONVERSATION GUIDE
1. I AM TOO WEIRD AND READ MUSE, SO PEOPLE DON’T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH ME
This is an unfortunate situation. What can be done seems to be defined by where you live and how flexible people will be. It may be necessary to find other ways to meet nicer people near (at least relatively) to you. Fitting in may be difficult, but try to find others (if only a few) sort of like you that may not be evident because they aren’t fitting in either.
2. I AM TOO SHY AND CANNOT SEEM TO FIT IN WITH PEOPLE
Becoming shy may be a result of (1.) or may just be how one is normally. You may not be shy around a few people, but can’t loosen up to talk to new people. This may occur in varying degrees, and may seem frustrating to those on the outside or the shy people, if they want to be less shy. Again, try to find people who may have similar interests, and start talking in general about these things. People may be surprised at first, but should lighten up and be friendly, especially if they are actually people you would want to be friends with anyway.
3. PEOPLE AROUND ME ARE TOO SHY OR JUST NOT BEING SOCIAL DESPITE POSSIBLE COMMON INTERESTS
If people are being too shy, it has been recommended you try asking open-ended questions that relate to what the shy person might be interested in. Being friendly and pleasant in general is good as well, to be able to get close enough to ask questions. There are also those who seem to be avoiding social situations but not acting especially shy, just not talkative, but who might open up to conversation if it was introduced properly. Open-ended questions are good, but I think a slightly more general approach can be better at first, as warming up to talking is the main point, where shy people need that as well as a more focused conversation (they may have things to talk about already, but need the warming up, while non-social people just need a little warming up and general conversation, they aren’t thinking as much about what they would say if they talked more).
4. I HAD FRIENDS, BUT EVERYTHING SEEMS TO HAVE GONE WRONG AND NOW I DON’T HAVE ANY FRIENDS
Try to find those who don’t know about those who abandoned you, for they might be more likely to open up to be friends. Most likely, if friends abandoned you, they were not great people, and you shouldn’t feel bad that they don’t like you any more, but instead be glad you have a good opportunity to find better people to be friends with.
5. I AND AT LEAST ONE OTHER FRIEND LIKE THE SAME PERSON AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO TO AVOID SPOILING THIS GOOD FRIENDSHIP
I would say, and others have probably already said this, that the friendship is more important than the person you both like. Of course, if both people follow this idea, it is relatively pointless, but usually one won’t, so you being the nicer one is a good thing!
6. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO IN THIS CRAZY SITUATION!!!!!
Sometimes a situation may seem like there is no solution and you have no good friends or options. In reality, there really never is such a situation. It just seems so after so many downfalls, but in time a solution will rise, or new friends will be found. Just wait, and keep trying, and good will come!
7. ACK!!!! I AM HAVING NO LUCK MAKING OR KEEPING FRIENDS ALL OF MY SAME GENDER!!!!!!!!!!!
The answer is not always apparent, but I have discovered it and it ends up being quite simple. Try making friends with those of the opposite gender. This may sometimes be difficult, especially for boys, as I have discovered, as those of the opposite gender may not be open at first, but, especially girls trying to make friends with boys, it should soon work out. Just boys results in a BORING CONVERSATION, so nice ones will be happy to make friends with girls. I’m not quite sure, but have heard that just girls can sometimes be not great either.
8. “GROUPS†HAVE FORMED AND I CANNOT BECOME A PART OF A GROUP AND SO I HAVE NO FRIENDS
Groups are good to try to avoid. However, it may be hard not having any friends because one isn’t in a group. See if there is an open “group†that you can join if a “group†is required at all.
9. I ONLY HAVE A COUPLE OF VERY GOOD FRIENDS AND THIS MAY NOT BE GOOD
Actually, having a few good friends may be fine. A lot of friends who aren’t very important may not make up for a few good friends, so this is actually not a bad situation. But, if you want more friends but don’t have any because you are shy or non-social, try some of the above recommendations to find more friends.
10. AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST, BE CONSIDERATE TO THOSE TRYING TO FIND FRIENDS.
If you think someone is trying to become part of your social group, just become general friends, or may want to become friends but is shy, please be considerate to them, and welcome them (if you really cannot, for some extremely important reason, okay.) Help on this end reduces the need for some of the above help I have offered.
Red-tailed HAWK
202- What do you do if people are trying to make friends with you but you don’t want any friends?
as usual R-tH is amazing. hmmmmmm can’t think of what to say. mabe anyone who has been pushed aside by “friends” should try and make new friends in their classes or get closer to those whom you have a sort of friendly aquaintance with.
200/201- I’m officially no longer friends with her. She really wants to be popular and she’s cutting down her other friends. The other day I heard she was being really mean to another friend. I’m not interested in being popular. There are certain things you have to give up. Like, the fact that everyone but me swears in my school. And you have to “dance.” Ballet is considered dorky. Even though I’ve lost my other friend, I’m surprisingly ok with it, being a type-A clingy person.
202-You’re really good at advice.
205-That’s great that you don’t want to try too hard to be popular. Does your school have honors or advanced classes? If it does you should try to be friends with those people because they’re almost always nice and not obsessed with popularity. Also, how long have you been speaking Latin? I’m taking Latin and this is my first year.
I did it again with this thread! *Pies self* I made this in a word document, and kept adding to it. Let it be sent, already!
204- Why, that’s pleasant to hear! Thanks!!! On your advice: it is an advancement of my number four. We should keep track of better versions people make, and then I’ll make a new conversation guide!
203-I made a vague note of that in number ten (if you really cannot, blahblahblah…) but I didn’t give it enough attention. I will give that a whole number next time. Maybe there will be 20 next time!
Any other advice people have on how to make it better would be appreciated, as then I can make a new guide!
BELOW IS A DESCRIPTION OF THE HIKE AND PARTY OF NEW YEAR’S DAY, GIVING PAINFULLY INSIGNIFICANT DETAILS THAT YOU WON’T CARE ABOUT IN THE LEAST AND WILL WANT TO PIE ME IF YOU READ IT ALL.
CHARACTERS:
C: BOY MY AGE
E: OTHER BOY MY AGE
H: ME (H FOR HAWK, NOT MY REAL NAME)
W: BOY, A FEW YEARS YOUNGER, BROTHER OF C
Z: USED TO INDICATE ALL OF CHILDREN TOGETHER.
THOSE ARE ALL OF THE CHILDREN FROM THE GATHERING. YES, ANOTHER ALL-BOYS EVENT.
OK. H arrives at E’s house. We have snacks and talk, and mother of E gets call from father of C and W, and directs them into the neighborhood. Then I go to E’s front yard and wave trying to signal so C+W will know where to stop. C+W and company get out of vehicle and come in, and Z takes a few more chips. Then Z moves to basement. I believe that first time in the basement we just were running around and playing with various stuff down there, including these foam dart type shooting mechanisms.
Z is eventually extracted from basement. Z and parents go on a hike in a hilly park. H spots a bunch of balloons tied together stuck on the forest floor. H then picks this up and lets it trail behind him as a beacon so the adults would know how far ahead Z was running.
After a long while, everyone makes it to the overlook, a high rocky cliff –type thing that looks over a fast-flowing stream.
Then, C, E, and H go towards the stream and look around for sticks of useful sizes and shapes. Then they experimented with throwing different sticks into different parts of the stream to see which would go faster, and usually they would get stuck, or if they did keep going we would forget whose was whose.
Also, one of E’s sticks didn’t even float, but sank with a quick plop.
Eventually, in the heat of trying to rescue sticks stranded near the middle of the stream, the adults indicated it was time to get back, as it was getting dark. We started back, and H divided up the balloons between all children, and then everyone soon after popped their balloons. We stopped at a point in the woods where old cars were left, too.
Then we got back to the house. A fire is (purposely!) set in the fireplace. Z moves to basement, and I think at this time everyone but (let me guess) H played videogames. (By the way-they were playing something where you wave the remote at the screen. Is this what a wii actually is? I said somewhere my cousins have these things they play on and they get in a really fighting-type mood, but I think they actually call them “DS†or something like that…)
Eventually Z was called up for dinner, and then again for dessert.
I forget the exact order now, but for a lot of the time in there Z had the basement lights out and was running around scaring the others (Z means everyone, meaning everyone was scaring everyone, basically.) It started as simply two boys hiding in different places around the basement and the others being brave enough to come down and find them, but it quickly deteriorated to just running around scaring anyone you could find
NOW we know why the girls have stayed out of this group!
Okay. Speaking of that, my head is hurting hideously from mixed evidence.
So. A (girl) has in the past seemed as if she didn’t want to get involved with the group of people I hang out with. I found this odd, and thought perhaps she was just shy like many other people I am friends with now.
However, sometimes recently she has been friendlier. I thought then that she was warming up to maybe starting to be a friend. But, there are mixed signals here. When she is there, she can be seemingly friendly, but she is rarely there. If she really wanted to be friends with us, would she not come more often?
And really confusing is this: my mother now thinks that she has at least in the past (like, over a year maybe) and even recently liked ME of all people, shocking as this sounds to you, and me.
So, is my mom correct? If she is, then what is going on with A not coming? And, especially important, what do I do know?!?!?
Now, this is a terribly confusing situation. I have said before I have never had a girlfriend at all. And I don’t know A enough to know if she does like me, used to like me, now doesn’t like me, or if I would like her. I just wanted to be friends, and a whole different dimension I have no experience with is thrown at me. HELP!!!
*Head hits keyboard*
Red-tailed HAWK
i was helping stamp books with two other girls for my drama teacher. and this one girl kept swearing (like actualy every other word) and then spoke badly about another teacher in front of the drama teacher even after the teacher had told her that it is against “teacher rules” to have people saying bad things about another teacher to her. and generaly being a big pain. i don’t think she realy realizes what she was doing but if that were to happen again is there some way to politely inform her that her coments are not wanted? the other girls did sort of. but i didn’t realy know how to do it subtely.
207- i say, ignore the fact that she might like you and just try to be friends. a DS is a hand held thing that has a screen a wii is played on the TV.
Ten Piepoints to Kagy!!
Thank you, kagy. Anyone else who has at least that much or more to say gets ten piepoints too.
Kagy question: perhaps casually bring up to her the fact that it isn’t nice. Like, not telling her it’s not nice but more the vague conversation-type saying something: Her-blahblahblahinsultingteachers You-aw that’s not nice… But, of course, make it match how you normally casually talk…
I hope that helped. Your advice for me: so once we are better friends, then I can see if she does like me and what I want to do? OK, I’ll try…
But other advice, contrary or not, is welcome, people, so come get your piepoints!
Red-tailed HAWK
scooooore! i think i’ll give help more often so yeah. when you get to be friends with her we’ll help you more! btw, thanks for the advice.
ATTENTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
210-Maybe piepoints will help wake this thread up some!
Folks! Come get your piepoints! Give advice, get ten piepoints!
This Sunday might be a chance. I’ll have to see…
Red-tailed HAWK
ATTENTION!!!!!!!!
OFFER STILL VALID!!!
Red-tailed HAWK
i’m now giving away KAG points (or KAG p.) to spice up this thread! ooooooooooo i want some!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
213-Yay! A new type of point!!! Thank you for giving them away here! Have forty piepoints as a “thank you”!!!
Red-tailed HAWK
My good friend swears a lot. I ask her to stop, but she won’t. She cursed out my other best friend last year, and I’m always scared she’ll do it to me.
215-Today at school everybody was sledding down the hill behind our school. and nearly everybody was swearing (F word, S word, etc). My friend asked them to stop and they told her to “Get used to it…”
Maybe not for close friends, but random people, if they are being stupid and swearing a lot, call them something they “are” that isn’t insulting. Usually this will be scientific: thus, they might not know what you are talking about, which could be amusing. Just don’t get them too angry!!
Example: You are a Multicellular Heterotroph!!!
Add to that even! it could be fun
Red-tailed HAWK
206- I gave up long ago this is my first year of Latin too. Ecce Romani? I’m in the advanced classes, latin is one of them.
I’m really sad inside. I jus finished watching the sisterhood of the travelling pants. I had three best friends but we broke apart…
Greekgurl-Number four of comment 202 might help you in your situation, and Kagy’s post 204 advances that a bit. Also, some of the other numbers in my post 202 work if your friends have broken away, and are in fact more specialized to what type of person you are…
TEN PIEPOINTS to anyone who gives good advice or comes in with a good question (i. e. not obviously basic and just used to get the piepoints )
Red-tailed HAWK
207-this is a bit R&Rish, isn’t it? but anyway, easiest way to find out if she likes you (provided of course that you like her) is to ASK HER OUT. It’s really not as hard as you think. If you just want to be friends for now, invite her over more. talk to her. you don’t have to constantly hang out to be friends. i have quite a few friends whose houses i’ve only actually been to once or twice. hell, i have all of you, who i’ve never met in my life! (except those at the kokonvention of course). talking is the key thing.
and if she does like you, maybe she’s just as confused as you are, and doesn’t want to get herself in the awkward situation of showing that she likes you and finding that you don’t like her. just be nice to her, as a friend, and she’ll hang out with you more.
Ebeth-Now there was a serious effort. Have 20 piepoints! Kagy-Yours was helpful as well, and I’d give you ten extra, but I just gave you 40 more in post 214…
It is, isn’t it. I guess I put it here because it is more directly related to friendship as that was my intention in befriending her, or trying to. I’ve been trying for some time to make more non-museblog female friends. I STILL don’t know her all that well, as I only see her on an occasional Sunday. And thus I don’t know if I like her, of course. And if somehow I was able to like her with not even knowing her very well, I don’t know what “asking her out” involves, but I would rarely see her anyway.
It’s a confusing and difficult situation, and she may be thinking the same, but I cannot be sure. In any case, unless she comes to meeting more often ( she hasn’t been in a couple of months), nothing can be done.
Red-tailed HAWK
Re:People squeamish about swearing-
Come on people, as long as it’s not the F word (any of them) then it’s all good. It’s like saying darn, just with a bit more force. I’m a sailor’s granson, I have swearing in my blood. Ice skating today I was using all the words: The F word, S word, D word, everything. None of my friends care, I certainly don’t. Face it, when you were in first grade you thought “dumb” was bad. In second it was “stupid” and “devil”, in third it was “dang” and “butt”, in fourth it was “damn” and “hell”, in fifth it was most of the major stuff… etc. You either grow out of being squeamish or you don’t. If you do, great. If you don’t, learn to live with it.
Sorry if that was cruel, but I don’t think I’m an especially horrible/mean/bad person, and I curse more than my mother (who dosn’t care, she’s learned that grounding me for saying the S word won’t get her anywhere) and that’s saying something.
222-I just find they aren’t useful. I think I should solve a problem in the time I have, not use swear words because I’m mad about it. Of course, as seen above on this thread I believe, people declared I’m strange because I’m a teen and I don’t swear. Maybe I just don’t find them useful, and don’t feel the need to swear to be considered a “good” teen.
Did that make sense?
Also, through third grade I went to a small private school, and the kids were great, but they for some reason thought the word “underwear” was some big scary word. And they said it ALL THE TIME. By that point it did become scary: AHHH LET ME GET AWAY FROM YOU PEOPLE!!! I thought they were being quite foolish and weird.
Red-tailed HAWK
re swearing-the fun stuff is the creative swearing. make up your own. squish the usual boring words together. add a random inanimate object. much more exciting.
Not Ebeth the Titleless! (argh! why does the spellchecking thing not like that?) Ebeth of the 20 piepoints©!
Tomorrow! *marchmarch*
Red-tailed HAWK
Heh, I started saying “stupid” in about sixth grade. I was too scared to, before…
Now, though, I curse (although mostly in my head, and not in front of my younger siblings). Excessive swearing (especially in school and such) annoys me, and makes me wish I was somewhere far away. People are always amazed when I swear, which I think is kind of funny. I don’t do it that often out loud at all, so I guess it’s just a kind of a suprise for them. And then they make fun of me (in a nice way).
I remember in kindergarten, I stubbed my toe and said the “F” word, and everybody stopped whatever they were doing and was like “OMG” (G for Gosh, they were too squeamish for Oh My God) “Did he just say the ‘F’ word?”. I didn’t really know it was bad to say that, I just heard my mom say it a lot when she stubbed her toe.
Usually I say something like Ebeth suggested, some combination. Frumping Scqwishknuckels.
I never swear. At one point I’d decided that it was okay to say some things, but then I had a change of heart and stopped after I’d only said it once. And it wasn’t even that extreme.
226- I’m the same! (are you sure you’re not secretly my twin or related to me? Just kidding…) But I swear in my head and I’m bothered by excessive use of swear words at school.
*gives 22 KAG points to Rt-H as a thankyou*
okay swearing: i personaly don’t swear because i feel stupid swearing. but i really have no real issue with other people swearing. the kid who sits next to me in french is irish or scottish (I can’t tell from his accent which sounds irish to me but james says is scottish and i am too afraid to ask him) and he uses all the interesting ones which i find quite humourouse.
224- i used to yell POT HOLES! really loudly.
i used to never take the Lord’s name in vain but now i do it all the time and it really bothers me. i find myself thinking “God this is boring” and then i feel bad. and i don’t know how to cure myself of the habit.
227- (beavo) there’s this octopus pie comic and it’s when eve is a kid and they’re playing duck duck goose and america jones smacks her on the head really hard and she yells “you effing jerk” and the whole class of kindergardeners stares at her, points and gasps. tis quite funny.
i used to swear in my head all the time. not so much anymore. i always feel kind of silly when i swear. i love roberts suggestion of yelling euphamism!
My brother makes up random “swear words” sometimes when we’re playing foosball and stuff. For a couple games he would say the name of a city from Pokemon as whenever I scored a goal.
“Viridian City!”
231- “Oh, frudge!”
HELP!
Thanks Kagy! *Piehandedovernotthrowntoday *
Well, the report I’m sure you’ve all been dying to hear is below
A wasn’t there. This is just getting odd by this time. Unless something terrible has happened to somebody, I see no reason for this absence. It is very odd. And I cannot do a thing to solve the puzzle of what’s going on since I’m in my position. Either “what’s going on” situations.
Other than that, E wasn’t there, but C was, and W was. We were all in the same room because we were playing this jeopardy game thing about different religions. So that was fun, and we finally got to put the Halloween junk away.
ACK LET IT BE SOLVED NOWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh! I forgot to say, on New Year’s day I gave C and E each a koko for prez button. I doubt they understood what it was about, but they have the fanpage website printed really small at the bottom, so I don’t know if they noticed enough to bother coming. But I have to get them to read the magazine! Oh and I was wearing my muse academy hoodie yesterday!!
Red-tailed HAWK
233- welcome! so what do you need help with?
234-Thank you for coming! I need help procrastinating! /
Aha! A new piece of information!!
A had a soccer game in the morning. That’s why she couldn’t come. Aha!! But, it seems like she won’t be there till two weeks from now. Another serious delay, I must say…
Well, you don’t have to help procrastinate if you don’t want, but the idea of someone wanting to help if there was a way is great in itself Of course, if you have something to say, I will be happy to hear it.
Red-tailed HAWK
229-Yay, secret relation! Tehehe.
Procrastinating is usually too easy for me, unfortunately.
Whoa, this thread is empty too…
*Looks for people*
Red-tailed HAWK
There was this kid in fifth grade who would say “tartarsauce” whenever he was upset. We all got used to it and everything; it’s not exactly a swear word of any type. But once he said it really loudly in gym. The following conversation ensued.
Kid: (after nearly running into a wall) “TARTARSAUCE!!!”
*silence*
Crabby old gym teacher(COGT): What did you just say??
Kid: Um, tartarsauce?
COGT: WHAT? That’s it! You will not speak like that in this gym! Out in the hall, NOW!!!
*everyone looks at each other, confused*
It’s a true story too. But that’s not why I came to this thread. I came to ask this: What do you think is worse, suspecting you’ll never be friends with someone, or knowing without a doubt that they can’t stand you? Just because yesterday I walked into Target with my mom, and I stood by the door while she got a cart. Then I saw my neighbor (who used to be one of my best friends, but we grew apart in middle school) walking out of the little hallway with the drinking fountains with two of her “cool” friends. When she looked up and saw me, she immediately stopped dead in her tracks and tried to hide behind her friend. Obviosly,(sp?) I saw this, and when she realized that, she pretended that she had just seen me and waved. Now, before this I knew that we weren’t ever going to be close friends again, but I felt really hurt that when she saw me in public her first reaction was to hide. Am I such a terrible person that people won’t even associate with me?
It sounds like embarrassment to me. My guess (just a guess) would be that at some level she feels bad about how you’ve grown apart and prefers to deal with it by hiding from you instead of having to interact with you. That doesn’t mean she wants to be friends again.
Or maybe she’s gotten to be snobby because she’s with “cool” people, and if she interacts with you, they’ll think less of her. Happened to me once at Seven Eleven.
Me: Yo! Sam!
Laura (with me): Who’s that?
Me: Old friend.
Sam: *tries to hide*
Me: (again) Yo! Sam?
Sam: Uh, hey.
Me: Haven’t seen you for a while, what’s happenin?
Sam: Uh, nothing.
Ben: (with Sam) You know him?
Sam: Uh, yeah.
Me: Sup, Ben!
Ben: How do you know my name?
Me: Sam talks about you.
Sam: *glares* Uh, gotta go. C’mon Ben.
Ben: *glares*
Laura: What snobs.
Me: Uh huh.
Clerk: Um, ma’m? You’re hot dog’s getting cold.
Laura: Right. *eats*
Me: Yum! Hot dogs! *forgets about Sam and Ben*
My New Substitute Curseword: MUSHROOMS! or DOOR WEDGES!
The latter is an inside joke, and the first comes from the word Chitaqi Mushrooms, which is used because of the “Chit” at the beginning.
240- I always say “Bloody!” or “Bleeding!” instead of cursing. I do this online, so a few people have asked me what part of England I live in! I actually live in New York!
“Bloody” sounds quaint to Americans, but it’s considered pretty strong language in Britain.
238- what an awful little child. she needs to learn respect. i for one find you quite pleasant.
there’s this anoying girl in my drama class who ALWAYS interupts the teacher with things she thinks are funny. it’s really anoying because they’re not (how does she not notice she’s the only one laughing) and because i want to learn improv more than i want to hear her voice. but i can’t do anything about it so i’m just going to seeth here for awhile. *seeths*
My parents mumble swear words like I can’t hear them. My dad calls things swine when he’s angry because of a story he heard about Beethoven walking out when people weren’t paying attention to his concert.
I use weird things in place of swear words. One of them is “what the hack?” I say crap a lot.
I don’t mind if other people swear unless it’s every other word. If someone says a word too many times I stop listening and count how many times they use the word in a conversation.
I usually don’t swear in front of people, if at all. For this reason some people are shocked if they witness me in a really bad mood and I let something slip. [*GASP!* Fern, I never knew you could say something like that!!!]
Mostly though, I don’t get enough in the habit that I fall into it when it would be a bad idea.
I often use the word crumbs. ^_^
my science teahcer says crap A LOT. it’s funny. she has little faith in us. uyrgh. my computer rooms lights are burn out and i’m typing this in the dark. *feels eye sight dwindling*
Actually, I don’t even get angry enough to say “bloody” very much.
Every time I watch a British movie and somebody says “Bloody” and everybody gets all mad I crack up.
I don’t swear, but I’ve started saying “bloody” and “bleedin'”.
My current friend situation
Characters:
C (Not my real initial. C for Cat’s Meow) – Me. 7th grader, came to the school two years ago. Yr u all know me, more or less.
A – 7th grader. Immature, but she’s been friends with me since two years ago, T since preschool or something like that, and K since last year. I’ve worked with her on the past three school projects I’d have to do and she’s done VERY LITTLE on any of them.
T – 7th grader. Came to our school this year, but as I mentioned above, she’s been friends with A forever. A little immature, but not too bad. She’s been working with A and C) on the most recent project, and she actually does quite a bit when A isn’t distracting her.
K – 6th grader, came to our school last year. Very nice person, I don’t have much of a problem with her. She’s pretty quiet, though, so I don’t actually know her that well.
L – 7th grader, came to our school two years ago. A, L and C were a trio for 5th grade, but then L was being really dishonest and rude and generally annoying, so A and C stopped being very good friends with her. I worked with her on one of the latest projects (in a group consisting of L, A, and C) and she did quite a bit. A insists C and L “ganged up on her” and told a teacher that she was using a friend’s school e-mail when hers got suspended. A did almost no work on this project and almost caused us to fail it.
M – 8th grader, very quiet, would probably be considered popular. I’m working with her on a project for a state-wide Teacher’s Conference, and she came to my house the other day to work on it. Yesterday on the school-wide ski trip I hung out with her and her friends all day and on the bus. I usually sit with her at lunch when A and/or T get mad at me and ditch me, with K tagging along.
Yeah…
I have a friend who gets very angry over little things. She swore at my other best friend, who moved away last year. I am scared that something will snap one day and she will do the same thing to me.
I have been growing apart from a lot of my friends. They all have friends that are more similar to them since we started high school. I like being different but it’s hard to keep friends at my school because they’re so clannish.
I’m going to list some now…
CB-Kid on my bus, he’s in my grade(freshman). He is very rebellious and can be mean sometimes but he isn’t afraid to back people up.
RS-We used to hang out all the time. I talk to her a lot at school but she’s become really negative about everything. It seems like the only thing she likes now is volunteering at the animal shelter. She isn’t depressed, she just thinks that people are inferior.
KF-She was my best friend for a long time but I usually just talk to her at school now.
AK-She’s probably my best friend. She thrives on drama. She is always fighting with her parents. She has dated the same person 12 different times and will not accept that they aren’t meant to be together forever.
LM-She’s pretty cool. I talk to her a lot. She has a lot of family drama right now. She is very stubborn even when she admits she’s wrong, she will still do what she wants.
Those are the people I talk to most in my grade.
My friend AC is in college and he’s pretty cool. We think alike on most things. He has a girlfriend in Ukraine and he just got back from visiting her a few days ago. I look up to him a lot. He is planning a secret biking trip this summer. He wants to bike from here (NE ohio) to Kansas. He thinks it will take about 2 weeks. I wanted him to go to the Grand Canyon so I was dissapointed that he’ll only make it to Kansas.
240- what a coinkidink! (pronounced ko-in-key-dink) i say mushrooms too for that reason!
226- When i say i don’t want to be popular, thats one of the reasons why. Everyone popular in my school swears and that is not something i want to give up. i guess i kind of think of it as virginity of the mouth…..
202- Everything except 3 and 9 have happened too me, some of them are still happening
253-I don’t want to swear either. But a lot of my friends do and sometimes I can’t help myself…nothing really bad, yet. But I’m still worried.
254- Worried is right, especially when they encourage it. On friday I was at a dance and everyone was tryin to get me to dance with a guy, any guy. Someone suggested Jon, a very good guy friend of mine so I said are you F-in kinddin me? but it wasn’t THAT F-word it was the other one that sounds like a slur of the first kinda….
I have a whole bunch of great friends, who are completely awesome ^_^ The interesting thing is, we all play instruments. I play the viola (obviously), three of my friends play the flute, one the cello, one the clarinet, two the viola, and five the violin. Whew! It’s very odd, though, that every single person I’m good friends with plays an instrument.
As for swearing, I have one friend who says waffles and another who says snickerdoodles. As for me, I say Gutenberg. Because Johann Gutenberg, inventor of the printing press, is just that cool.
What the Gutenberg??
I figured I should stop saying oh my god if I’ve decided not to be Christian. ^_~
RTH REPORT THAT YOU MIGHT NOT EVEN CARE ABOUT BUT HERE IT IS ANYWAY
Wow. This is late. Sorry about the delay!!
It was almost crowded! A, who didn’t come, was nearly the only one who didn’t come!!
C is showing a good deal of promise now. E is still good, but C is really warming up to being friendly!
K and J (girls, one year younger than me, they are good friends, I think they go to the same school…) were there. Somehow J followed me upstairs and sat next to me, and then when we got to the classroom, K said something to the effect of, “Oh, J, I saw you sitting upstairs next to H!!” With a tone that seemed to be indicating “Oh you like him” or even that we already both liked each other. It was really strange and completely unexpected. And strange. I’m not sure what to think of that, if K is just trying to be annoying to J or if it was a hint or what, but before they had rarely said a lot to me.
So. This Sunday is when A might be there. Hmmm…
Red-tailed HAWK
257- *has nothing to say*
Wow. J, H (me) J(boy) and unidentified boy were the only people there! C and E weren’t there, K wasn’t there as usual with J, and A didn’t show up. It was a slow week…
And another two weeks shall go by before anybody shall be seen. And then it will be a couple of days before Valentines day…
Red-tailed HAWK
COME TO THIS THREAD!!!
Red-tailed HAWK
i’m here. i usualy skim the comments. but i don’t always post becuase i’m like that.
260-Hi I’m on the thread.
My friends are boring right now because I either only see them at school or only know them from the internet. Not that internet friends are boring, but I can’t do things with them in person.
My school friends are all way too overdramatic right now anyway and I don’t really want to hang out with them.
262-I know how you feel about the overdramatic thing. I have this one friend (we will call her A) who HATES every little change, and is like living on disney channel, and is narrow minded, and is like, in her own little bubble. Its not a bad thing to be an individual, but that isnt what I mean, its really hard to explain. Anyway, usually i watch all these happy music videos like the jonas brothers, beateles, a bunch of oldies, but the other day i watched one by AFI and am addicted to it. And I have been thinking about getting a few light colored purple streaks in my hair, just because i love purple. And she is totally freaked out, and is all spastic around me saying I am turning emo and what not. There isnt anything wrong with that first of all, unless you start hurting yourself, but she and a bunch of other friends are making a huge deal out of it. It really bothers me, and its just like, who cares if i like those things? I think i know myself better than them. HELP!
263- Purple streaks ≠emo.
263. you do know yourslef better than them and don’t let them make you think other wise. now in these situations I usualy employ my method of “pretending to listn to what other people are saying when really you’re still gonna do it your way”. (i do this to art teachers all the time). example:
Friend Zed: why are you gonna die your haiiir? that’s so emo!!!! you’re so emoooo!!!!!!
You: *nod, smile, change subject* so how did you do on the math test?
Later “You” goes home and dies hair anyway.
anyways that’s what i would do.
264,265-Thanks! Everything seems to be fine now, I talked to her about it. So I dunno if i want to do it or not, because it damages hari, but it wont be there forever, so I have to think about it. I really want to, but I dont want to ruin my hair, and I am not sure how i would like it once i do it.
Dancergirl-I’m glad your friend isn’t being as annoying. I don’t mean to seem like this friend in trying to stop you, but please only dye your hair if you are really sure you want it that way. Not from outside pressure, or anything of the sort. And it is really bad for your hair. I highly recommend you don’t dye it. And yes, I have been blowing this “bad for your hair” trumpet for a long time, but I feel it is important. For such a temporary change, it is really not a good trade. Also, you don’t know how you will look, and purple is going to stand out as obviously not a natural hair color
So, if you ask me, I’d say to not dye it. It’s your decision, but I do feel it’s not a good idea to dye your hair.
Red-tailed HAWK
In my opinion, your hair looks best in natural color. But dying it doesn’t mean you’re emo.
Hmm, stuff about friends…
Well, because I don’t get to see other kids my own age on a regular baisis, you guys are all a really important link to civilization for me.
I have other friends, but I don’t always get to see them. Katie has to be at her dad’s every other weekend, and he doesn’t like me, so that out, and I only get to see Danielle once a week for a few minutes. Others I haven’t seen for ages, or they live way far away. I have friends that Iget to see about once a year, at rendezvous and stuff, but other than that sometimes we don’t really keep in touch all toowell.
I don’t really have any problems with friends, other than I just don’t get to spend much time with them.
dying your hair isn’t really bad for it…whether it fades or not it’ll grow out eventually anyway.
and dying your hair is definitely not emo. AFI is, but that’s a different story.
however, i have to say “There isnt anything wrong with that first of all, unless you start hurting yourself,”
ebeth has a problem with you being emo. ebeth knows she is not being a nice supportive friend when she says that. ebeth also knows that she is talking in third person. ebeth doesn’t care. ebeth thinks that nobody really wants to be emo, what they want to be is goth, punk, hardcore, whatever. emo is for people who want to be themselves but can’t so they stick with the popular stereotypes while trying to act like a rebel. if you are an individualist, you are not emo. thus, dying your hair is not emo.
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266~ If you want to dye your hair, the you can do it. Purple is not an emo color. If you went and dyed it black and started wearing all black clothes and cutting yourself and trying to be depressed, that would be emo.
You might consider using Kool-aid. I’ve heard that that works well for temporary dying of hair. I’m not sure how temporary ti is though, so do check. Also, if you have light colored hair, try using washable magic markers. It works pretty well and washes out as soon as it gets wet, so wear darker colors and stay away from water if you opt for the markers!!
Or you could try those suggestions and decide if it’s your look and then go for a real hair dying job.
I’ve thought how fun it would be to use kool-aid or some temporary color to make my hair some crazy color, just for a little bit. When I get it cut though, waist length blue hair might be rather disturbing. Besides, it’s not historic….ah, that’s why we wear hats.
Wow, I can’t beleive I just wrote an entire post on hair. *pies self*
Thanks you guys, and just to clear things up, i didnt want to dye my whole head of hair, i just wanted a couple of thin streaks. But thanks!! I still have to make up my mind….
OK. I must say, putting dangerous chemicals in your hair absolutely must damage it. The toxins must get into the roots and cause some type of permanent damage.
And please, I know any girl on Museblog must be quite intelligent and have a lot of cool stuff they care about and things they want to do with their lives. Please do not lower yourselves to paying so much attention to something as insignificant in terms of intellectual advancement and relative importance in terms of reaching your goals as dying your hair this way and that. Be happy with who you are, and don’t mind what other people will think about your hair’s color. Anybody who will rate you by your hair color is not somebody who you will probably have much in common with.
This goes for anything, romance or otherwise. You have to set a limit somewhere, and I truly hope Museblog girls will not spend their time over these sorts of things. If it helps any, I am a male who feels this way, and there are other male humans who feel this way. I hope. But anyway, at least one person values you for who you are, not who you are, with a different hair color. (/end of speech)
Dancergirl-What I have said above goes for this too. It’s still your choice, though. But I hope you understand what I am saying.
*Passes out* If you couldn’t already tell, I have a good deal of feelings in this subject area
Red-tailed HAWK
273~ I know where you’re coming from, as far as it being bad for your hair, but eventually it does grow out.
As far as dying hair as an insignificant thing–yes, it is. But sometimes it’s fun to experiment or do something rther crazy, just for the fun of it. I think people who dye their hair other “natural” colors to make themselves look different because they aren’t happy with the way they were born is a bad idea. In that case, they are lowering their standards. I think to temprarily change one’s hair color to an obviously unnatural color is just for the fun of it.
I somehow doubt that anyone who wants to dye purple highlights into their hair is trying to “fit in.” However, if dying one’s hair is a vehicle for gaining attention, then I’d reccomend thinking over it seriously and deciding if that really the sort of attention you want.
Conversely, if it’s a way of hiding who you really are, than consider why you feel like you want to hide.
Anyway, I hope this make at least a little sense, I’m not telling you your points aren’t valid, I think they are, but that there are other ways of looking at it.
*Sighs* It is your hair. Two things: One, if everyone is “experimenting” with these unnatural hair colors, it is trying to fit in with what everyone else is doing. And two, I meant my post as a compliment. It is your hair, I will say again, but I trust you to find some better (less appearance-oriented) ways of “standing out”. I also trust you to make sure you don’t miss out on what you actually want to do while…Oh, what’s the use, trying to explain this. *Leads women’s rights movement* *Nobody understands*
Now, on to more information on my current situation:
I have information on what has been keeping A from coming, and supposedly this interference shall “soon” be removed. Whenever “soon” is I don’t know, but it seems rather vague (although I know what the interference is, I just am not going to tell the world here), the kind of explanation I have heard in the past with this situation. *Sighs* What a situation. For a while now, I had been not even thinking about the whole bunch of these people, as almost none of them came last time, but this information got my brain spinning again. I don’t know what to think, really. Can anyone hypothesize?
Red-tailed HAWK
[Please note: the following comment has very little to do with the current conversation. Ignore it if you wish.]
One of the girls at my school cut off the hair on one side of her head and died the other half blue.
[End of random comment]
Wow, the disclaimer was longer than the comment.
Cat’s Meow, and anyone else: I will briefly summarize:
I have known (known that she existed, actually) a girl called “A” for over three years now. I have tried repeatedly to become friends with her, as I have been trying to have more female friends as most of mine are boys. I rarely see her, and she is really shy. And I have some vague idea that at some point she did, or does like me faintly but I cannot be sure. So it’s all a bit fuzzy, making it hard to figure out.
So, what to do to become friends with someone you rarely see and barely now? I would be happy to hear your thoughts…
Red-tailed HAWK
277 – Hmm…when she’s around, try to talk to her, and get to know her a little better. If she’s not, though, try to get her e-mail address. E-mail is a good way to get to know people better even if you can’t talk to them in real life. (coughMuseBlogcough)
277- I agree with Cat’s Meow about the e-mail. Try to talk to her and be nice, but if she doesn’t want to be friends after a while just leave it. Some people are so shy that they find any repeated approach frightening.
277~ When you do get to see her talk to her and be friendly. That shouldn’t be hard for you, as you always are anyway. If she’s really shy and is uncomfortable, maybe back off a litle bit, but remain friendly. Just a question, what sort of situations do you usually see her in? That can have an impact on how to act.
I’ll try to get her e-mail if she ever shows up again…the funny part is, I don’t have e-mails for any of my non-museblog friends, so it will be a bit weird to get hers and not theirs. But they have never really seemed like they cared to exchange e-mails, and I am good enough friends with them it doesn’t matter as much…it’s confusing. And I’ll try not to frighten her (I’ll hide my talons ) Although she was good at frightening me the one time when she pretended to lock me in a dark basement and then a shed
Red-tailed HAWK
Aha! Another comment!
MF-true, I usually am friendly to everybody. And I probably would if she would stay for a conversation. She seems to usually be trying to escape talking to anybody, and it would be awkward to try to stop her Oh, this is all at my Quaker Meeting, during the “First Day School” and after for a bit before people leave.
I hope that helps…
And you (and any girls on the blog) count as female friends, but I don’t get to see any of you much…
Red-tailed HAWK
I dye my hair a lot. I change the color all the time. I am going to have blue stripes this summer and I can’t wait!
Ok I’m about to sound really weird but I need to know how to be meaner and not feel guilty about it. Not cruel, just mean enough to stop being friends with a jerk.
The reason I need to be meaner is that there’s a guy I’m friends with who may just be the biggest jerk ever. He was abusive to my friend when they dated, he makes fun of her best friend (who I’m friends with), and he is extremely mean to my other friend on our bus. When we were in elementary school he would beat up me and my sister, but after not talking/seeing him in 4 years I made the mistake of thinking him changed and forgave him. He has not changed one bit, but I would feel awful going back on a forgiveness, because I consider forgiveness a promise. My friend already told him that he is hurting people, but he said that they deserve it and he doesn’t care what anyone else thinks.
Someone tell me how to be mean!
283 – Oh, dearie. UP, no one can really tell you how to be mean. One day, you’ll just… snap… and you’ll be mean. That’s the way it goes. Truthfully, for nice people (like me), they can only be mean if something just pushes them over the edge. Good luck!
(283) It’s when people get really on your nerves that your mean. When you can’t be mean just ignore ’em until you feel like you can, I guess.
284/285-I don’t think it’s possible for him to be any worse, short of murdering my friends. I guess it’s not really that I can’t be mean to someone so much as it is that I can no longer stand up for myself without feeling rude. I used to be absolutely awful to everyone until about 2 years ago, but now I’m a wuss about everything.
(286) Unintended Pun, it seems to me that the people who worry most about being rude or mean seldom are. The bullies of the world certainly don’t care — and take advantage of those who do. In this situation, I’d ask myself which would make me feel less guilty: silence while someone hurts other people or saying something that might be construed as impolite.
If you forgave him for past behavior towards yourself, how does the promise, as you define it, apply to present/future behavior? Or his behavior towards others? Effectively, we only have the power to forgive injury to ourselves. I forget where I first heard this, but forgiveness doesn’t mean being a doormat.
I think I’m going to confront him about this. I agree that I need to do something, but I need to watch myself so it doesn’t carry over to anyone else but him.
Unintended Pun — Maybe you don’t have to go all out and be mean to this person every time you see him, but if he does something mean or hurtful, you should just yell at him for being a jerk. I agree with Rebecca, forgiving him of things he did before doesn’t mean you should forgive him of the awful things he’s doing as he’s doing them.
Unintended Pun~ You don’t have to be mean. In fact, being mean is probably one of the worst things you can do. Rebecca is right, you need to stop his abusive behavior. You aren’t going to make anything better by being silent and letting him hurt you and your friends.
I would reccomend talking to him and letting him know that you don’t approve of his behavior, and that you aren’t comfortable being his friend if he is going to act in a hurtful way.
If he’s really hurting people, then you should probably also tell some adults who might be able to help you and your friends from being abused by him.
It sounds to me like he’s really disturbed, but you can’t be the one to save him, however much we all wish we could help people like that.
282~ Hmm, it sounds like she’s just really shy. All I can say is keep being friendly and try to include her in whatever you’re doing and hope for the best. But do be sure not to be too overly friendly, though I doubt that anyone could mistake you for a stalker or anything like that….
UP-Being mean? Well (I’m chronically Happy, as everyone knows, so…) this brings up a whole debate. Does being mean to someone you are angry at for being mean do any good? Who does that make you? I’m not criticizing you, I’m just pointing this out. Also, is there a less violent approach? Maybe try talking to him with a really concerned way to seem as if you really want to work through the problem? I don’t know the person, but try to think of a different approach to solve the problem. Maybe don’t be friends with him as much or something? I don’t know exactly what to do, but I would suggest doing something besides what you are mad at him for doing…
GAPAs-*Drops to knees and begs* Can we have a new thread now? We are almost to 300 posts, but this thread was created last October and this is February. Not many people come here any more, and I don’t want to continue to talk abut my situation when this thread is often forgotten.
Also, a new thread now would keep us on track for a thread each day, but that’s another matter
Red-tailed HAWK