Conversation Guides? I’m not sure what that means, but it sounds like something I could use…as an introvert, I’m hopeless when it comes to social situations.
I don’t start conversations. The idea of walking up to someone and saying, “Hi!” makes me scared. And even if someone else starts the conversation I’m not likely to keep it going. But I’m not what you would call shy. It’s a weird combo, and it doesn’t come across well over the internet.
5 – Well, it’s very different in situations like this. Me and you are not actual people to each other, we’re just black lines on a screen.
That’s why it’s really weird when I find out what MuseBloggers actually look like.
Now, onto friends…
For some reason, just about everybody at my school hates me. I don’t know how it got started, it just sort of happened. Whenever I walk into my band class, this kid says “Oh great it’s *********” and other kids display similar additudes toward me. The ones who are mature don’t bother me, but all the 0.14-GPA slackers attack me, as well as some others who actually do fairly well in school.
I’m a weird mix of shy and show off. I like talking to people, and don’t really have a problem doing it, but I’m shy. It’s very strange….
For example, I volunteer at a historic site as a costumed interpreter, which means that it’s my job to dress up and talk to all the visitors that come through. Now, for a shy person, this should be rather hard. I have to stand there and talk to lierally thousands of people. But I love it!!!! As I said, it’s really confusing.
7- Weird. Why? You don’t seem unlikable. And I, for one, know your name, as do most people who are not complete newbies.
And yes we are black lines on a screen, but we’re black lines with personality!
I have no actual physical friends, other than my parents. I used to correspond with this girl, but she hasn’t written me back in several months. I had a couple of not-exactly-best friends, but I haven’t seen ’em in ages. So yeah. All of my friends are on the MuseBlog.
For anybody who doesn’t know what this thread is for, Robert was nice enough to make it for people who want to continue the conversation guide off of the romance thread. He also came up with the idea to call it “just friends”, and to let people also talk about things other than the conversation guide (about friends).
Alice-No other friends? I think you live out in the country on a farm. I don’t have many (I’m homeschooled), and most of the ones I do have are from my Quaker meeting. There I have three pretty good male friends, but no female friends. There they are SO shy. Even when you try to start a conversation, especially this one girl, she just says “hi” back and walks away!!! What’s that about???
Anyway, E2MB-I don’t know why people wouldn’t like you, but do they know you get Muse? Many people probably are a little suspicious of us geeks, ya’ know?
8-In what ways are you shy?
6 (agagabagabag)-Send him over!
4-Well then decide to do that often!
3-Conversation guides are things kids write here explaining things they wish other people knew so they could be better friends and more social.
Alice(#5)- Er, is that why you don’t have any friends besides MB, or because you live in the country? Do you live somewhere you could have other friends if the conversation guide helps?
11- Yeah. I had some friends, but then one girl started going to school, and the other girl moved away. Since I’m going to school next year, I’ll probably meet at least one person who likes the same things as me. (I? Which is proper grammar?) It might not be quite right to say I don’t have any friends, because I have plenty, just no kid friends. I get along fine with grown-ups, though, so yeah.
I have lots of friends, though I am friends a little bit with everyone. I talk sometimes with an anti-social clay obesssed, underdeveloped boy who is very sweet, and other times with the girls everyone cosiders “popular”. I have about three friends I know I can trust with everything. And of course you lovely people are becoming my friends.
hm. i’m fairly outgoing in person but i don’t like talking on the phone unless its to someone i know reeeaaaly *repeat previous word 100 times* well. you’re going to school next year Alice? congrats. i rather enjoy school except for the learning what the teachers want me to learn bit. midnight fiddler – you sound kinda like the people who are in theatre and love to perform on stage but hate talking to someone in real life. maybe its because talking about history, or being a character onstage isn’t really you – its someone else. meh, i’m not making sense.
16- Are you new? *pies* And that made perfect sense, by the way. But then, a lot of things make sense to me, especially if they’re strange and nonsensical.
I have five of the best friends in the world. I had one more in the grade ahead of me, but she moved to Canada. Now we’re all graduating. One of my best friends is moving to California. One is moving to another town not too far away but going to a different high school. one is going to public school. The other two are going to two different high schools. I’m going to a different high school than all of them.
I have a couple of friends coming with me to my new school, and a couple of friends there, but not a lot like I’m used to, and no one I’m close with. I’m okay at going up to people and starting conversations, but I’m terrified I’m not gonna fit in with the girls at my new school. I dunno, I guess I just have to wait and see. But I’ve had such amazing friends in middle school, I don’t know if I used up all my luck in that department. :/. I hope not.
Me, I’m not outgoing and I’m not shy. I love to meet new people, but I find it hard to talk to them. I didn’t have many friends in sixth but now in seventh I have a lot more and a lot more problems with them. My best friends all come from both of us liking the same guy at one point.
Right now, today actually, my friend got really mad, for a goodish reason I guess (but not really). I’ve said sorry sooooo many times and she just blows me off. I work in the same group with her for a really important project and I’m afraid it’s going to affect our grade. What should I do?
7- Really? Meh, kids are mean like that. I think it’s rather interesting to find out what other MBers look like…
9/14- Aww, I feel you there. Don’t worry, most friends are over-rated. Oh, and it’s “I,” as in “…who likes the same things as” I do.
18- You’ll find friends. There’s always at least one group per grade level at high school full of random misfits, if you don’t fit in. At least, there have been at all three of the high schools I’ve attended.
I’m… well, socially apathetic would be the best way to describe it. I don’t talk much. I don’t mind meeting new people or talking to them [provided they aren’t complete idiots], but I just never go out of my way to do so. Okay, I simply don’t bother. *shrugs* I blame it on the massive amounts of school-switching I’ve done. For the same reason, I hardly ever get nervous around people, or when speaking in front of people. I’m very awkward, of course, but I don’t mind.
I’ve found a few people [read as: two] at my current school with whom I really get along well, though, and that’s always pretty awesome. There’s this really smart guy in one of my AP classes, who has the exact same sense of humour as I do, and who is also madly in love with calculus. It’s great, he never gets offended by the weird stuff I spew out, and his enormous ego never bothers me, because I’m all for it. And he can actually carry on an intelligent conversation. And there’s a girl in my art class who shares more or less all of my geeky obsessions and random quirks. We talk online more or less all the time and continually find more weird things we have in common. She also has great taste in music, which is always a plus. We’re geek buddies like that. Ick, I’m positively gushing, aren’t I?
Last year I had more or less zero friends, because I was at a Catholic school. If you’ve ever been to Catholic school and weren’t a Catholic or a jock or a blonde with a miniskirt, you know what I mean. ‘t was nightmarish. Back then, the MBers were my only friends. Basically.
Well, I have adult friends. Who are cool for the most part. Yeah, I’m a dork.
I’m mature for my age (no, that’s not boasting, I’m just saying), so I get along fine with grownups. Given the choice to go play with the six-to-ten crowd, or to sit quietly in the corner reading and half-listening to the adults talk, I’ll go with the latter.
It’s not that I don’t know anyone, but my parents’ circles of friends all have kids a lot younger than me, if they have kids at all. Like, my sister’s age. Or younger.
18- wait, you are the old Sphinx then! You’re talking about Phoenix, aren’t you? She moved to Canada. Welcome back, then! *pies with pumpkin pie with “welcome back” written on it*
For me, shyness depends on the situation. If I’m around people I’m comfortable with I can often be quite loud but I can be quite quiet and shy oftentimes too. I have some school friends but my closest friend does not go to my school. Myers-Briggs says I’m an INTP.
Beavo’s kinda mad right now. I’m friends with more girls than boys (which puts me at a big disadvantage, being a boy) (no offence to girls, some boys are really stupid and insist that a girl friend is a girlfriend) and there’s this one girl who’s really pretty who I’m just friends with. Then I had a really weird dream where she was my girlfriend and I took her on a date. And now I kind of like her!! Argh. This belongs on the Rom/Rel thread dosn’t it? Oh well because we’re still “Just Friends”. Right? Right.
I was just thinking about what E2MB said about really meeting people from MuseBlog. I know if someone from MB was in my school, they would be afraid to even talk to me here. But if you don’t know the person, it leaves the bad parts (unless you’re just a horrible person) to the imagionation. Older people in my school (I’m at the bottom of the ladder again, 6th grade) are always thinking “Oh My Gawd those sixth graders are sooooo immature” but I know there are tons of kids older than me on MB but mostly people talk to me just like we’re the same age, not like I’m an immature sixth grader.
16- … schoon? (your name) That sounds odly like a joke at my school… if it by any chance stands for “Shoots hot coffe out of nose,” that is. Are you new? *pies*
I have 3 4 close friends, and more not as close. My best friend, whom I met when we were , is going to a different high school next year.
Oh, are we talking about age now? I learned over a year ago that age was not a problem, when I was in a house with several kids about two to five years younger than me and one kid three years older than me, and I got along fine with everyone. I do actually have one friend (pretty much my only kid friend, and we don’t see each other a lot) who is ten, and she’s cool.
27-Some older kids (thirteen to fifteen) can be pretty snotty about age. I had an OM team with three fourteen year olds when I was eleven, and they acted like anything I did was really stupid and dumb. We lost (surprise, surprise). I don’t (at least I HOPE) act like that to ten year olds! I have a rule: I don’t call anyone ‘little kid’ to their face, and anyone over eight I NEVER call little.
Who cares what most boys think. I’ll take at LEAST a balanced assortment of friends, rather than just boys…
…but I think it would be a problem, if you care what they think. I know if I had any good female friends or even just had a normal conversation with a girl my male friends who, as far as I know, don’t have girlfriends would think I was trying to have one.
So that adds to the confusion.
This one girl I know WANT to know, Austin, hmm… I have tried to start conversations, and have said “hi” or “how are you”, even in front of my male friends, but…she just says hi back and walks away! totally weird.
Red-tailed HAWK teh confuzzeled who’s finger hurts for some unidentified reason
I’m definitely an introvert, with the exception that I get very loud, and well, “bubbly” is the only way I can think to describe it, during CS club. CS club is a group of the friends I wen’t to the elementary magnet program with. Since we all go to different schools, we meet once a month and the amount of fun we have keeps me sane until the next one. We started out with 9, lost 4, and gained one. My best friend is Molly, who I’ve known since kindergarten; but this is the first year we’re in the same school. We only share a few interests, but the fact that we’ve known eachother so long anchors our friendship. Other than that, I’m pretty quiet in school.
Ok, on age: You may not think you’re less mature than “older kids,” and often you’re not, but as a rule 6/7 grades are bad/awkward years. 6/7 graders are all dorks, no exceptions (and no offense.) Yes, teenagers can be snots, but that’s just because they’ve been through those ages and know how much of a dork they were at that age. So don’t be too hard on them.
17- yes, i’m new. i posted (somewhere) on the noob thread
18 and 22- i agree. whereever you happen to go, there will be someone willing to be friends with you. sure, they might not be as cool as musers but you won’t be completely alone.
26- hi! yeah, its me. who else would have an abbr for *shoots hot coffee out of nose* as their name? harhar.
29- i tend to become friends with guys faster than girls but the girls keep in touch so i have the same # of friends who are guys as friends who are girls. maybe just it takes me longer to see past the painted nails and eyeliner. *hears Jadestone point out that i’ve hit on most of my guy friends at one point or another* we were just friends first and are just friends now so thats beside the point.
32- well i try not to be snotty to 6th and 7th graders, and i wouldn’t decribe them as dorks, just niave (sorry ’bout spelling) because they haven’t seen as much of the world as teens have. but i wouldn’t say that there are NO exceptions. though, i was a niave dork in 6th grade…
Sorry. I can’t help it. I correct everyone’s spelling. Plus I have that magic* thing, spellcheck, so if I don’t know a word, I can still correct people’s spelling.
*Or, since I’m on the MB right now, would that be majik?
22-i would have to agree with you on the “don’t go out of my way to make friends”. i have never had any problem with talking to people of any age. i hust don’t initiate conversations.
6/7th grade dorks is BS. they’re just the same as us without the prefix of “teen” to their age. i am very good friends with a ton of them and i am not an immature dork either. BTW, i’m in 8th grade.
i have one friend who i grew up with. we’re really close. and then i have two more who i’ve known for a couple of years. and then there’s my cousin, computergeek as you know him. we are probably one of the closest on my friendship list. he’s great. i also have no problem being friends with girls. usually they are all older than me so there’s no icky stuff. i am just an acquaintance with them.
Hmmm…I have an interesting assortment of friends…most of them are a little bit strange, though. See, on one hand, there’s Ben, the teacher’s pet and extreme nerd…then there’s Courtney, who’s failing most of her classes but is the type of sarcastic, apathetic, world-hating person that I am….And of course we can’t forget Shelby, who wears skirts to school everyday and is usually very hyper. Surprisingly, Shelby has been my friend since fourth grade. I also seem to have a lot of casual aquaintances in my classes. You know, people that you won’t usually call or tell really important stuff, but people that you can just talk to at school if you get bored during class. I’m going to shut up now.
Geez, I didn’t say 6/7 graders were necessarily immature (in fact, there are many teenagers who seem to become less and less mature as they age) I just said that once you hit 14 or 15, you’ll look back at being 11 or 12 and groan.
32-*is kind of insulted* I know I acted like a dork in third-fifth, and I’m pretty sure I’m gonna groan when I reach eighth, but I refuse to call third and up little kids, because if you think about it, they’re not really little anymore. They do act more mature then babies and start to have an understanding (even if it’s small) of the world around them. When teens become adults, they probably look back on eigth and high school and say ‘those were good times but WOW I had some real problems’.
30- Well, next time, beckon her over or like invite her into the conversation. Most people just greet a person in a group who greets them, and then continue on.
37- Yeah, I know those sorts of people. Help alleviate the boredom and all…
Well, I have a friend/acquaintance with a problem. Firstly, she’s still seventeen for another 8-9 months. She wants to move away because…well, she has major issues at home, especially with her father. She’s been going on about how she wants to run away/move out/commit suicide. And she’s completely serious, it’s definitely not the “zomgattentionplz” sort of thing. Honestly. She brought in some of her stuff [aka bags and bags] to keep at the school for some time, because she’s trying to move out [the rest of her family is moving to NY] Most people thought it was just wishful speculation until now, and that she’d stick it out for senior year. But now… I dunno, what could be done about this?! Our one teacher knows, and she’s trying to help, but this is a rather iffy situation. Advice?!
I have two good friends, doug and julie, and i’ve realized that I’m more friendly with julie’s friends than any of the guys I hang out with. I don’t want to leave them, (like post 25), but it seems to be that there are a lot more interesting girls than guys in my school. And then there’s doug, but he’s kind of weird. Not to be mean, but he’s on the edge of the line that seperates genius and insanity.
41- Yeesh, doug sounds an awful lot like how my friends always tell me I’m like.
My social circle pulled a veritable supernova this year- went from about two non-mb friends to… *counts* fourteen or so. It’s really very impossible for someone like me (that is, someone who’s train of thought tends to jump it’s tracks rather frequently) to make a lot of friends because, really, we’re the worst class in the school system. *sigh*
I have three best friends, actually, all in different places.
Lisanne has been my friend basically since we moved to Wyoming from California when I was four. We are, like, exact opposites, which I think is partly why we’ve been friends for so long. See, we both ♥ to argue, so, because we basically disagree with eachother on everything, it works out pretty well.
Alisa has been my friend since California. She now lives in New Mexico. Her family’s jewish, so I’ve ended up being part of a lot of cool traditions, which is always fun. ^_^
Lastly, Sam and I have known eachother since birth (literally). He was born ten days after I was, in the same hospital. He still lives in California.
Hey, this sounds like a good place for the Ebeth’s Fun Day rant (actually it was a pretty fun day today, until i came home and got grounded. )
So we had the last exam, and i had to fish dan’s PS2 and DDR pad back out of that secret broken locker in the middle skool where i’d hidden it the day before after running off with it I was still debating…keep or ebay? but then i decided not to be mean and give it back. We went to the end-of-the-year cookout thing, and feathers reported that his video was indeed lost forever, so we had a moment of silence for the video (that was a really great video… :'( ) and ate free food. Then monica and josh and some other maryland people were going to go over there (maryland is the elementary skool in north snipville) so some of us south snipvillers decided to head over to montrose, and that kind of grew as we were eating to a random “anybody who’s not doing anything come hang out” Most of us had our bikes, so cheese, andy, hewitt, megan, hecht, hunter and i rode over there (cheese stopped and got her bike on the way) and hung around for around fifteen minutes before deciding that it was too bleeping hot (yes bleeping, there were small children around. oh random tangent about small children-we were at maryland yesterday (yes, we hang out at elementary skool playgrounds, that’s how cool we are :D) and it was me, dan, josh, and monica and we were playing tag with the two random little kids that were still there (it was latish for small chilluns, so there weren’t many around) and the small boy child was It and he was chasing josh around (he was freaking fast too!) and the small girl child (his sister i think) yells out “run like a forest!” Monica and josh and i look at each other and just start cracking up completely, and when they left josh was like “hey, that run like a forest line…keep using that, it’s good” anyhoo, ) right where was i…montrose right so we went over to hewitts. That lasted an even shorter time than montrose, most of it spent sitting around on his porch, and then we decided to go to andy’s because he has a big shiny tv and a whole bunch of movies. (we couldn’t go over before because his brother was asleep/hungover/probably wasted too, but whatever, his brother stopped being cool when he shaved his hair off. his hair was freaking amazing. several times when he passed by us i was just like “andy…his hair…tear” and i’m ranting again) So we watched dogma, which is freaking hilaaaarious. (best line ever…well, one of the best…bob (best character ever. says two lines-“no ticket” and “thank you”) hits azrael with the cardinal’s golf club (azrael’s been like “yeah whatever take your best shot” because he didn’t know the cardinal had blessed his golf clubs) and it breaks through to all this random black goo stuff and azrael just looks down and goes “…but i’m a f***ing demon!” and dies. k, little weird but funny. anyhoo i’m ranting yet again. that’s why it’s called a rant i guess.) so we did that and then andy had to work an hunter had to go home so megan, hewitt, hecht and i went over to jeffrey (mansion/park) and went through the woods to alum creek because megan had a box of fireworks left that she wanted to set off before she went to pennsylvania, but first we were randomly climbing around on the rocks, which progressed to wading around which was probably really stupid but fun. Then cheese had to go home, so she left and we made our way back across to the fireworks when we remembered that cheese had been the one with the lighter. So we just hung out on the rocks for a while getting our feet wet and then somebody came out into their yard (yeah…this was technically private property, if the edge of rather large property that included bits of the woods) so we decided it was time to leave. so we went to hechts and did kareoke for a while, then hecht’s mom had to leave so she had to stay home/we had to leave. so we went to megans and had pizza and watched csi (lovely combination, that) and talked about global warming and politics and stuff with megan’s dad (well, hewitt and i did anyway) and that’s when pater called me and was like “come home, you’re grounded” Of course i’m working tomorrow anyway, so i couldn’t really do anything, but sssh.
So that was my amazingly, spiffily fun first day of summer.
Everyone at my school likes me for some reason. Maybe cuz I am short. Either way, some kids that I have never met come up and go “Hey Donald!” or something like that. Then, there are kids I completely hate, but they go like, “Donald, you are my best friend!” And then there are the Populars that seem to like me, although I hate a few of them because they either are idiots or wear gallons of makeup. I wouldn’t call myself popular, but I am liked by many kids. I have so many friends, but I only have four BFFs, all of whom are insanely silly and sillily insane. LIKE ME!!
32-I agree, and I am a 7th grader! If you met me though, I am not that bad. I am normal, unlike most of the kids at my school.
44- “normal”, of course, meaning you’re not a comeplete idiot like most of the middle school population seems to be. Which, of course, means you are not normal, but weird, which is soooooo much better! :D:D:D:D
43-…You know, I had something to say in responce to the begining of that, but by the time I got to the end it was gone. Grr.
Your first day of summer sound fun. If i recall correctly, I spent mine hanging around the house… I did hang out with my friends the day school got out (we were in there for about 30 min. We just got our grades and left, basicly). We went to the middle school to try to get in and see everyone, but there was a sign on the front that said “HIGHSCHOOLERS. GO AWAY.” that I swear Mr. P put up just for us ^^ Anyway, the second their school let out an hour later and all the kids came running out we grabbed our 8th grade freshman (oh god… she’s a freshman…) friend and slid in through a back door. We visited all the teachers, which was very sad because a lot of them are going to the new mddle school they just built and we won’t see them again. I feel bad for Mrs G (why’d she have to go and get married? Her name was so fun. I’ll still call her Mrs. Formerly G or something though) and Miss K, they were best friends and only Miss K is going to the new building. Man…
Last spring break I spent in a large cabin/home with 9 adults and 6 kids (not including myself) ranging in ages from 2 to 8. I got along well with them all, ( 3 of the kids were realtives) and we had a marvelous time.
54-unlikely. when i was looking for sneaky’s videos of the band on youtube i tried “BHS band” first and got like three different bands. lots of schools have the same initials
O.K….here goes. I took fifth and sixth grades in the same year, and now I am eleven and almost done with seventh grade. For a long time I didn’t have any really good friends in this grade. Somehow, anytime anyone realizes I am eleven, it is a shock. The kicker is this-my really good friend in this grade is moving away to Florida and NEVER COMING BACK!! AUUUGGGGHHHH!!!!
Anyone have any advice?
9 – They call me by my last name, because that’s what all my teachers call me and another reason that I can’t tell you because then you’ll know what it is.
25 – I don’t like that either. Girl friends do not equal girlfriends. But people are jerks like that.
Several people wondered why I am not popular at my school. I’m trying to think of a way to put it, and I’ve re-written and deleted this section of my post several times. Arrrg I’m gonna click submit now
7 – Agreed. I’m somewhat hesitant to enter into conversations even online, but it makes it easier for me to at least try. If I can make it to the kon, I probably won’t say much to peoples’ faces even though I’ve talked to them online.
Maybe the other kids are jealous of you? It sounds like what happened to my friend; she’s really good at academics but also has a thriving social life, so the slackers resented her for her grades and the achievers for her parties and whatnot.
8 – That job always looked fun to me, yet I probably couldn’t work up the nerve to do it. Where did you work (if you’re allowed to say)?
11 – You’re homeschooled too? That’s nice to know! I’m not strictly homeschooled anymore – I go to “cottage school” now, classes designed for homeschoolers’ schedules – but I was for most of elementary and middle school. Which state are you in? There are a lot of homeschoolers in Kentucky now because the public schools here are pretty bad, but unfortunately the “cottage schools” also seem to break down easily, and I’ve always wondered if it’s just a KY problem or if all homeschooling groups wind up arguing a lot and splitting up.
23 – Most Musebloggers I’ve talked to seem to be mature for their ages. Maybe that’s why even we who have trouble finding friends normally can get along well here?
25 – You’re in sixth grade? There’s proof for my previous point, then – I wouldn’t have guessed that. Most sixth graders I know are still pretty immature (but then again, so was I in sixth grade, now that I think about it). I just finished tenth grade and I have a similar problem with the girls – they insist that if I talk to a boy I *must* like him. It’s frustrating because I share more interests with the boys than the girls, but the girls tell the guys I like them if I talk to them, so then they avoid me. Grrr.
37 – Sarcastic, apathetic, world-hating…sounds like we would get along.
57 – Unfortunately, my sister was in a similar situation (she combined grades as well and finished high school at sixteen) and didn’t find any close friends until college, so I don’t know what to advise. Are there any “gifted students” groups in your area? There’s one here now for people who have skipped grades, and the ages vary yet the members are all friendly to one another.
If given the chance to I wouldn’t skip a grade. I’m a better student than most others, but if I skip a grade I would, lose my edge, be the youngest, be a grade away from my friends, ect. but i have never been told i can skip a grade and probably never will.
I skipped a grade. Here’s a thought: Do not tell anyone your age. Or fake that you are the same age, and once you re really close friends tell. I usually just don’t tell anyone my age until they find out at my b-day party. THat works pretty well. Of course, I move often so Ihave a lot of new beginnings.
62- Well, that’s a good way to look at it. I don’t think I could skip a grade ever. I’m smart, but everything I know is mixed up higgeldy-piggeldy in my brain, and it’s not really the kind of stuff you learn at school. I’m actually kind of worried that I won’t be able to get into ninth grade, because my knowledge is not the conventional kind.
Ugh. I dedicated my book for Language Arts to “All the pwnsome muses, Koko, Urania, Pwt, Bo, Mimi, Chad, Craaw, Feather, and Aeiou. And the muses of Muse, Nancy Kangas, Angiskina Biskup, Diana Lutz, Robert Coontz, Rebecca Lasely, and Larry Gonick. And of course, to the Hot Pink Bunnies and all my friends on MuseBlog.” and now people are calling me gay because of the Hot Pink Bunnies part. Gsh.
I don’t think I could ever skip a grade because I’m short even for sixth, much less seventh or eighth. And if I was in eighth then when I got to high school…*dreads* Again, gsh.
I have hippy friends, metal friends, rock friends, communist friends, occultist friends, musician friends… Lots of people. In the Liceo you don’t have to be illiterate or ignorant to be cool.
For what it’s worth, skipping a grade worked out for me overall, but circumstances and personality are different for everyone.
Some difficult transitions were more than compensated by the knowledge I would have missed the most significant people and events of my school years if I’d stayed in my original grade. (Of course, I wouldn’t have known that, but still.)
More to the point, if I hadn’t skipped, I would most likely not have met Robert Coontz, and therefore I most likely would not have met all of you — consequences that were completely unforeseeable all those years ago.
I’m probably going to have to repeat a grade. First year of Liceo. And before you laugh, remember, the kids who skip grades in the US are the kids who manage to barely get by in Europe.
70- I won’t laugh, because I know that I do close to zero work in the US and I get 90s in everything. I know this probably makes me sound really ignorant, but what is Liceo?
I started early, apparently. So for the first month or so of school, I’m two years younger than everyone. Hasn’t bothered me. I had the opportunity to skip 4th grade but it didn’t go through for whatever reason, and I sorely wish it had.
16~ What you said makes sense, but I would have a really hard time performing on stage. When I’m interpreting i am me, but I’m not talking about me, that much. And I have no problem talking to people in person. So it’s sort of the reverse of what you said, but similar. Now I’m not making any sense…
68-I just had to include everyone who makes my absolutly favorite pastime available! I really felt bad that I had not posted for a few days and there was no one else to dedicate it to except ‘Mom and Dad’ like everyone else. Then, sitting at my desk trying to read the January 2007 edition, something in my mind went *SNAP* and I sat up and said OWNSOME! And got in trouble for shouting in class. But I had to dedicate SOMETHING to Muse and MuseBlog so a book dedication seemed just right. After all, musers read a lot, don’t they?
69-I added them, the one I posted was the one I had sitting on my desk, and I was not going to go get it the finished one because my feet REALLY hurt. I was just trying to make a point about dorks calling me gay because I dedicated something to HPB’s. Well, we might as well re-post it with the revisions.
” To all the pwnsome muses, Koko, Urania, Pwt, Bo, Mimi, Chad, Craaw, Feather, and Aeiou. And the muses of Muse, Nancy Kangas, Angiskina Biskup, Diana Lutz, Robert Coontz, Rebecca Lasely, Larry Gonick, Paul Baker, and Rosanne Spector. And of course, to the Hot Pink Bunnies and all my friends on MuseBlog.”
Did I leave anyone out? Puh-lu-eeeeze don’t ask me to put specific names in because the list will go on forever, and I won’t be able to put a picture of Mostly Harmless, an HBP, and Koko in there.
Well, this girl I have mentioned MIGHT be at my Quaker meeting tomorrow. She doesn’t come much, but as this is the last day for the first day school thing and the one where we thank the teachers she might be there.
So AGAIN what should I do to maybe start a conversation before everybody gets all busy and I won’t see her for like four months???
76-Conversation starters…. how bout “Hey, do you know where the [insert place] is? Thanks. *go there*” and come back and be like “Thanks again! Oh and by the way…..” and think of small talk. I suck at this, don’t I?
77- Small talk? *dies* I’ll add to that: While you’re thinking of small talk, start hoping that a big dog will come skidding across the marble floor with three kids attached and save you from chatting.
78-I’m good with small talk, but I’m so weird that no girl with the least amount of pretty/smartness in her would immediatly say ‘no’ as soon as I say ‘hi’. And by the way, you can save the kids and the girl will fall all over you!
79- Darn. Don’t you get it? It’s from the live-action Peter Pan! It’s what I will always think of when I think of small talk. That’s a splendid movie, by the way. I’ve seen it many, many, times. Supposedly I look like Wendy, or at least I used to.
62- Improper use of punctuation. Please learn to use commas and colons and everything else properly, or at least better. Sticklers can’t bear to read that type of thing.
Okay thank you for the advice friends. In almost exactly two hours I will be leaving for meeting.
81-I’ve just about given up trying to make people do what you want them to do. I think it’s WOMBAT because they don’t really care what you think because it saves time for them.
71: Liceo is the name given to one type of high school in Europe. The name derives from Aristoteles’ school, Liceum, and it’s the elite high school. It’s very selective, and only the best students go there. The rest can go to commerce schools, or take apprenticeships.
Hmm. I haven’t really had time to post in the last couple of days and I’ve missed alot.
70- Umm, sorry?
I should have skipped a grade. I went to a private kindergarden at 4, and should have gone straight into first, but the public school system wouldn’t let me. I’m not really that bitter about it, because I wouldn’t have met a lot of my friends if I had. My friend Lydia skipped, though. She’s amazing, and has suffered so much. Her younger sister has autism, her younger brother has cerebal palsey, and her father has neurological cancer. I don’t know how she manages to stay such a cheerful and simply astonishing person with the amount of grief she must go through.
62- that’s just exactly the same as for me, except the grammar thing…too many commas, dude!
actually, I got like, an 85% on my first english essay of the year because I used too many commas. My teacher was talking about how some people go crazy with commas…ya , he was talking about me.
see? looking back I could have taken out the first 2 commas and goten rid of the word like and it would have been better english, but it wouldn’t have sounded so much like me. Has anyone noticed that? to make writing sound like it’s me “talking” I need to use a lot of commas and “…”‘s and CAPITALS ans stuff
7- that’s evil. hug. that’s realy evil. to me you seem like a great person.
ALICE- you remind me of those characters in books who never realy have any friends, if you know what i mean. i never found them believable. no offense ment ofcourse.
41-i had a friend sort of like your doug, his name was richard and i was totaly in love with him. he was amazing. but then he changed schools.
91- A lot of book characters aren’t believable. I’m not sure which kind you’re talking about, because there are two kinds of book characters that never really have any friends. The “loners” who are friendless of their own choosing, and the other ones that are exposed to hundreds of people their on age and are too awkward to actually make friends with any of them, even though they want to. Then there’s the type of character who… Just kidding. But really, I analyze book characters constantly, and could probably give a long lecture on the differences and similarities between them.
As far as I’m concerend, I have two friends. Everyone else in life is someone I know but who doesn’t have my real friendship. Is anyone else like that?
Hmm, skipping grades…I don’t know. I wish at least I went to some sort of specialized school or something. My high school is nice, but I feel like it doesn’t offer me enough.
Hmm, actually, a lot of us seem like those book characters who don’t really have any friends. No offense meant to anyone, of course; I probably fit into that category as well.
xD We have our froody online friends, after all, which is, at most times, way better.
93- Yeah, I’m pretty much like that, too.
There’s ***R*, with whom I hang out all the time, but don’t really know. There’s P****, with whom I talk all the time, but don’t really know. There’s ***A*, who was my friend for ages, but always blows me off for whatever guy she’s dating. And there’s **C****, who is just really nice but impossible to have a proper conversation with, ever. Lovely, lovely, lovely. I so need better friends. Gah…
That was so depressing on so many levels. Wow. I just realized again how I don’t really have a life. *wallows in nerd-dom*
95- What? A LIFE? What’s that? I just write. Last night I had a long, mostly one-sided conversation with my parents about how I could avoid high school and life, but there didn’t seem to be any way. I said lighthouse keeper, but my dad said there would be no internet connection. I said I didn’t care, I would just read and write and knit, but I don’t think they believed me. Humph.
(96) Alice, maybe it will help if you think about school as an opportunity for research. Elsewhere on the blog, I’ve referred to the Anthropological Method of dealing with social situations, which might come in handy for you.
No matter what genre you write, your work will be deepened and enriched from learning firsthand about the world outside the lighthouse. Whatever else you can say about high school, it offers an abundant resource for studying human behavior.
76- i know this is kind of late but i have the best pickup line ever. i got it from the bredy bunch movie (best movie ever) “hey there groovy chick, you’re happening in a real special way!” please don’t ever actualy use that. i still maintain, though, that it is the best pickup line ever.
me? hmm… i’ve got some cool friends. well, there’s josephine my posessed pal who does kendo. we’ve been realy close since gr.4. but this is the last couple of weeks that we’ll see eachother everyday because we live far away from each other and we aren’t going to the same highschool. she’s relatively rabid.
there’s R8CHL who is my azumangadaiho fan w/me. she’s cool, always fun to be with.
K who is my balet buddy.
mlee my friend who always listnes but has bad taste in boys
taytay my girlfriend
J my little friend (boy) who acts like a girl (and is my clone)
M (boy) likes to steal the manga i steal off josephine.
KTGmy name stealer friend.
heheheheheheh. those are the people i talk to every day.
66 – *also feels honored* Non-Musers just don’t understand the bunnies. I’ve tried to explain and they never get it.
71 – Same here. Most of my assignments this year were “busy work”. I put little to no effort into them and still got As. That frustrates me because I want to study abroad in college and I’m afraid I won’t be prepared if I don’t get enough challenging assignments in high school.
83 – Elite high school? Interesting! Would a prep school be the American equivalent of Liceo?
93 – Yes. There are only a few people I count as true friends; the rest are acquaintances who spend time with me but don’t really know me at all.
95 – Indeed. The best conversations I have are usually the ones I have online with MBers.
96 – That’s what I kept telling people during the school year. “Life? What life?” Lol. Lighthouse keeper actually sounds like an interesting job, but I wouldn’t be able to do it if I couldn’t get an internet connection!
98 – Good advice! I want to write a novel now – most of the people I encountered in the past school year were far crazier than any character I could come up with on my own.
today yet another group of people mistaked me for a boy. i was sitting with my friends josephine k8 and mleeby the fance at my school and this group of children around our age passed. they called “hey kid in the green shirt” and i looked back. then they said “this kids gay” and this guy ran up to the fence and started humping it saying “hey my name is borat” and all his friends were laughing and i was just staring at them thinking WTF? this girl said “haha look at him” and pointed at me and said”you know you want to laugh” and i said “excuse me? i’m a girl” so that whole group of losers laughed realy hard and walked away. what bothered me was the way they made fun of gay people. my friend mlee now wants to beat them up because they were so mean. it doesn’t bother me THAT much. just a little.
anyways i’m babysiting with k8 tomorrow and it will be fun.
103- The best pickup line ever was used by Barney in How I Met Your Mother. Just youtube search for it, and you’ll see the truth. I’m not even kidding you, it’s hilarious.
So I was talking to one of my two best friends, and she’s like “you know how I’ve been really distant lately?”
“yeah?”
“it’s cus I don’t want to miss you so much when you go to a different school next year. but it isn’t working cus I miss you already!”
Oh my god, I love this girl.
110- Gah, I so hate that. Calling someone/something “gay” as if it were an insult! Kids these days….
111- The one with the ambulance and everything? Or something like that….
My Facebook depresses me. It says “You have 26 friends” to me. And it’s sad because I really don’t. Quite a few of them are from here, which is awesome. And then about five outside of that are friends. The rest are random people I talk to on occasion in school. Gah.
112- No, not new. I just kinda come in spurts. I haven’t been on in a couple months or something.
113- YES! “There are probably terrible fractures! Internal bleeding! This woman has had a huge fall”
“What?! No I haven’t!”
“Are you sure, cus I swear you fell straight out heaven”
114- I know where that “kinda came in spurts” line came from!
113-Don’t be sad! I only have a couple of friends, and most of the time I just see them on the weekend. I think it’s better to have a couple good friends than a zillion just to be able to say a big number when people ask.
113 – my facebook has 72 friends. 25 of those are not from my school. I consider myself actually close/good friends with roughly 40. I don’t really like the rest of them/don’t know them that well.
Oh, and just so we get this out of the way, I am not in the Muse fanclub facebook group. I never will be. I like my privacy, and I don’t want all of you knowing my last name. If you do find me, though, you’re welcome to try to add me as a friend, but I won’t accept it – I have a policy that I only add people that I’ve been in their physical presence.
And yeah that did sound kind of rude. sorry.
115- they’re these really expensive boarding high schools – short for college preparatory. They’re good schools.
I hardly use my facebook, I find my myspace much useful.
I have about 100 friends on my myspace, and I’m good friends with about 75 of them. The others are just people from my school or things like celebrities or Product (red), etc.
I’ll be going to a prep school next, having been in public school my entire life.
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I feel quite distant from a lot of my friends. Most of my not really good friends at school, are quite … well, not immature, but I feel a lot older than them. Two of my best friends I feel quite protective of, because they need support, and they come to me with problems. My other friend … I still feel older than her, like I’ve seen more or something. I guess that because I’ve lived in five different countries and things like that, and she’s never really left the town, it kind of makes you grow up a bit quicker. If you’re different from most people around you, in a few different ways, and there’s no one that is really similar to you, you start going into yourself a bit more, and learn more about you. I think that if I had lived in the same town all of my life, I would be a really different person inside. I’m a bit older than I would be, almost. It feels really strange, and I can’t describe it. I guess that a lot of you guys have probably gone through the same sort of thing.
I went to a prep school for three years, it was very not fun, and horribly cliquish. But that was only my isolated experience. I’ve skipped schools so many times… People always say they’ll keep in touch, but they rarely do. u_u
96- Aww. Just think, that’s what books are for. Blissful isolation. ^_^
109- Exactly!
116- Righto.
121- I know what you’re talking about there… I think even quite a bit of reading can do that to you…Hmm. I’ve been to so many different schools that I’ve just remained distant from the majority of my peers.
Even some of my older friends seem horribly immature. For people in their twenties, they sure can act like pre-adolescents. Le sigh. It’s weird being the youngest person in a group, yet the oldest inside.
I’m sure the vast majority of you can relate to this.
It gets more noticeable as you get older. Or, at least, it did for me…
Mind you, I do indulge in being an idiot teenager at times, however, it’s rare and I need a great deal of sugar and/or motivation first xD
WOW. I have not been on here for ever. You guys remember me?
So Hawk- hold on, you’re homeschooled? I didn’t know that.
As for me, I have a few good friends. All girls. And then I have this one friend who’s a boy but we have very different personalitys, so…yeah. An he’s been kind of nasty to me lately in e-mails and stuff because I was being slightly annoying by e-mailing him every day and saying 50 MORE DAYS TILL HARRY POTTER with a ton of exclamation points. That was only slightly annoying right? right?
I’ll check back later.
131- I do try to adhere to all of those things except 1 and 4. *shudder* I don’t keep trying. It goes against my nature. If they don’t want to be friends with me, then I don’t want to be friends with them. That is ingrained in me really deep, and I fear that it may affect the way I act. It sure helps to have lived with a good deal of isolation. I just don’t care anymore. If I don’t like the way someone is acting, I just leave. I think if I encountered someone really shy, I wouldn’t be able to become friends with them, because we’d just sit there looking at each other while trying not to look at each other, and kind of hoping inside that the other would say something.
I was talking about two very different things, my shyness and my pride, and all in one paragraph. It probably looks a bit contradictory.
109-I know! My friends who are just as random as me, I suggested Muse to them, and they’re like “Muse? You mean the thing with Hot Pink Bunnies and pie throwing? That’s gay.”
134-With me reading Muse and being with them at least twelve hours a week, they have to be! I even made my friend read the May/June issue. He said he hated it, but he laughed at the Koko&Company so I think he’s bluffing… then again, some people never admit anything. Like my mother.
132-What I meant by “keep trying” was more on not giving up on the other gender just because all of the examples you’ve come upon have been bad/mean. If someone isn’t an interesting person, or is mean, look for another person. I will say, however, shy people can be nice, and I have made friends by trying to be friends with shy people. That’s why I’m mad the girl I have mentioned before almost never comes to my meeting. She is VERY shy, and she comes so seldom and often stays in the young kid “sunday school” classes to avoid being around kids her own age I can’t tell if she is very shy or if there is just nothing in there. It’s really weird.
Well, enough about my problems… *Hufflesniffgurgle*
Random conversation thingy: Do not say that you hate someone because you actually adore them. For one, it’s obvious to all of your friends that you’re bluffing. For two, it’s stupid. For three, it accomplishes nothing. For four, it simply estranges said adored person. I have seen way too many people do this and then regret it.
133- If your friends were using the word “gay” to mean stupid, please tell them not to as the only definitions that I know of are “happy, joyous” and “pertaining to homosexuality”. Other than that, I don’t think my friends have heard of Muse.
I don’t really have a technical best friend. The one person I would say is my best friend lives about 20 minutes away by car. She doesn’t go to my school. Most of my friends are friends from school.
There are 146 posts on this and the r+r thread at this moment. I will have to post on r+r to keep the balance! Oh, never mind; they will post there soon enough!
I love my friends, they are so supportive, and they are honest, respectful, and I can tell them anything. I am so lucky to have friends like them, I hope we never lose touch! I have one friend in particular, who I have known since I was like three, who knows EVERYTHING about me, and who would NEVER tell a soul. We are like sisters, and I hope we will always be that way.
I have 3 really close friends, and one other good friend who is on the way to being a really close friend because we’ll be in the same school next year. One of them I’ve known since I was 2, at preschool, and we’re still friends now. But she’s going to a different school next year (ot moving- just going to a different school), and it’s depressing me bacuase I won’t see her as much any more. She’s going there by choice, I should add, which is different than being forced too.
149-what do you mean? You mean like getting in fights? We have before (and for her sake I will say it was my fault becuase of stupid hormones and such, and I was just in a horrible mood, and that I am forever sorry and will never be angry like that again) but we have grown out of that. yah we dont like get in fights like that or fuss over stuff like borrowing clother or anything (not that all sisters are like that) I just mean we feel like family to eachother and know eachothers personality and such like the back of our hand.
151- I and my sister have a very . . . precarious relationship. We fight. A lot. Not physical fights, or not on my part, but I dislike most of the stuff she does, and she enjoys irritating me, so . . .
I’ve fought with my friends, too. Not much, but a little. Mainly because I was being an immature brat, but once because we ate a chicken that had once belonged to the girl’s grandmother. (He was a mean chicken. My sister and I were scared to go outside.) There were probably a lot of fights when I was younger because my friend was horse-obsessed and I was Redwall-obsessed, and at that time in my life I was a “princess,” if not a spoiled one.
My friends are like brothers to me. We are all comrades. C++Darkmage and l founded the philosophy table group at the beggining of the school year. Our group is for those drifting outcasts out there, and we support and solve problems that individual people have with the “nobility” of popularity.
151- I fight with my sister in many ways. Physically sometimes, but not as often now. It was more like wrestling anyway.
I dislike her especally when she goes into my room whenever she pleases (and I’m not there) and takes whatever she wants. Like my jewelery. Which dissapears every week or so, then I have to drag mom in there to make her watch me take it out of her jewelery box.
And she does not get the concept of “personal space” or “let the frickin’ subject go!”
153-redwall obsessed? ouch. i read all the books at the very least twice. which is like saying i wasted 5 weeks of my life. i loved those books, but i realised that i was reading the same story over and over again with different characters. although i loved their different accents.
sad story: my family just sold our house and now i am an hour or more away from all who i hold dear. *mumbles stuff about whacked parents*
yeah, sibling relationships are not the most ideal role models. i just love that archaich term in the bible about “brotherly love” heh heh heh.
160- We are getting new neighbors this summer too, they just put the house on the market. I am kinda nervous becuase I dont want to have creepy or mean neighbors but I am also kind of excited. I mean what if some really cool girl I could make friends with moves in and starts at my school and is on my team or something? Or what if a guy my age moves in that is actually nice? *daydreams*
When we moved to where we live currently, there were two girls living next door who happened to be four and seven, the very ages of my sister and I. They were the only kid-neighbors I’ve ever had.
I’m hoping that there will be some kids my age in the neighborhood to which I will be moving presently (this August). Every neighborhood needs kids, right?
I find that there are very few people my age. There are tons of kids younger than me, but very few my age. Luckily for me, I no longer care about age. As long as a kid is nice, and mature, they can be 4 years younger than me and I don’t care. Or four years older.
My other neighbors are really nice. They have chickens, they are so cute!!! But they are three guys, one a year older than me, one I think 3 yrs older than me, and one whos like out of collage. But according to my year older friends they are wierd, which I can understand considering I saw them fighting with light sabers in their yard with star wars music on.
169- Good idea!!!! I dont know if they do it anymore though, becuase the last time they did I walked outside to walk my dog or something and they saw me and immediately turned the music off. Plus my parents would act like I am a lovesick puppy dog if I even think about just talking to a guy as a friend. ARG!
Maybe we should get back on topic, sorry about that…….I havnt gotten to see all my friends this summer. I havnt see my dancer friend who takes at a different studio, I need to call her. Its nice to have a friend in my grade who actually understands me when I talk in ballet language.
I have been to so many sleepovers I look like I have two black eyes (although not THAT dark) but part of it is I just have really pale skin, but still I hate having to put gunk on it to cover it up. Its aweful. That isnt exactly on subject. I am going to another sleepover tonight with my friends who like to stay up until dawn, DAWN, how do they do it? My limit is two in the morning. And then on Wednesday they are coming to sleepover at my house, and hopefully they wont get locked out of my room again when I am sleeping (they eventually got back in, but they were totally freaked out, my house is really old, and my mom has creepy masks hanging in the hallway that she likes to collect).
I really don’t like sleepovers. Or camping, which is like a sleepover, only out in the woods somewhere and usually without fun things like teh internets.
Seriously, the last time I slept over anywhere was… the summer after 9th grade. That group of friends and I had quite a few sleepovers, in which we would remain awake until about 3 or 4 in the morning, and then sleep until six thirty or seven. Not very healthy. My sleep pattern has now been utterly disrupted by the HP7 midnight release.
I dunno, what does everyone even do at sleepovers? We just watched movies, played games, and talked.
181- Yup. Well, at mine we start earlier in the day, around 3ish and go swimming in our lake. Then we talk and do photo shoots and watch monty python while saying the lines with them and stuffins. Then we discuss trying to sneak out and go swimming in the middle of the night, but we’re expressly forbidden to do that because it’s “unsafe.” Psh.
Oh, and then some of my friends get a bit obsesive about truth or dare/truth or truth (because I always picked dare. And aparently there were some truths they ‘needed‘ to ask me. Meh). So we play that for a few of the wee hours of morn.
And of course we yell at Feather for talking really loudlt and screaming, but we sleep in the basement (it’s finished, got a tv, pool table, bed/couch, walk-out) so my parents don’t notice.
And that’s pretty much it. Sometimes we lament about summer/school depending on when it is. Or tear D away from her rubiks cube so she’ll talk to us. She’s down to way under aminute though.
At my most memorable sleepover, we drew for a long time, and started writing a book, and then decided to wander around the house because it might be a good setting for the book, although why we thought that when we couldn’t find one even in town I haven’t the slightest idea. Maybe we just wanted an excuse to carry candles around. So we wandered around in our old-fashioned nightgowns, holding candle holders and staring at the stuffed animal-heads hanging on the walls, and then E made some tea and we sat in the kitchen and talked and drank tea while everyone else was asleep. Then we ate ice cream cones and went back up to E’s room where we read until we fell asleep. And that sums it up. In the more recent sleepovers we mostly played games and made small things out of fabric and occasionally watched TV. And we came up with long, complicated projects that we then forgot about. That kind of thing.
I have having yet another sleepover with the same friends on Monday, its fun and all but I really need to contact some of my other friends before they think I have been eaten by an Iguana on my trip to Mexico………….
182-ahhh….the wonder of rubiks. my cousin has to hide his when i come over or else he won’t see me for a half hour. under a minute is hugely ubercool. i only go down to 1 minute and 40 secs. and then on friday i broke my arm. i tried doing it one handed, but it proved to be way too long.
183-okay? i slept over my friends house in february. we stayed out ’till ten playing airsoft, froze our hands off and half killed each other, came in and watched a movie, ate food, and went to sleep at 1:30. in the morning we walked to his friens house and played outside all day in 12 degree weather. strange, nu? and the next day i went to florida. best of both worlds…the hot, and the cold. and when i came back, i went on a winter retreat w/ my cousin and his youth group. lotsa snow. looking back, i find it no wonder i got the flu.
AH! Curse my evil sleeping schedule thing now!!! I cant go to bed early anymore without boring myself to death with insomnia, and I cant get up before ten!!! I miss the morning!!!!!!!! Its becuase of all the sleepovers, and the midnight Harry Potter release. ARG!
I will be staying with my grandmother from tonight, till late Saturday, but may not even be on the blog till early Sunday. Please hold anything that involves me, or things that I need to agree to, until I return and can help/decide about.
I am sorry I have to leave you, but I shall miss you all…
Man. I have not heard from my dancer friend at all. And we even have eachothers emial, and she is back from camp. What is going on? Maybe my emial is screwy, it does that sometimes. I played wii at my other friends house on Friday. It was fun other than the fact that her little brother was criticizing us at the top of his lungs the whole time.
One of my friends couldnt come either, and I have only seen her once, but her sister was mad at her for some reason, so her parents made her stay. Weird huh?
196- I know its not nice, its aweful. Like once, she said she and her sister each got 100 dollars from their grandparents for christmas or something, and that she had spent fourty. She went to her room to get her last sixty or something of the sort, and it was gone. She is pretty sure her sister took it, and she told her parents, but they wont believe her. I feel so bad, and lucky.
196- What’s odd? I do it probably too much, I sleep at Mili’s house or he comes to mine most weekends at lease once during the school year. I had a two day one with Mason that was planned as one day. We stayed up late, too. It was fun…
197- And those are?
i have about 5/6ish close friends but i have one (mlee) who is the absolute closest. she knows everything about me. she is the one i call when my family goes crazy….. this one time my brother kept insulting my moms cooking and she burst into tears and left the house saying she wasnt sure when she was coming back if at all, my brother wouldnt admit it was his fault. so i cleaned up the kitchen and washed all the dishes and stuff. i cried a lot. and then i called mlee because i felt so alone. and she made me feel a lot beter. it would probably be awkward if i had called any of my other friends in tears…..
i have this one friend who doesnt eat right. her goal in life is to be thnner than her mom. and her momdoesnt eat…..
201- That sounds aweful. I have a friend like that too, that I have know practically my whole life. She always makes me feel better. I am sure if I called other friends they would be nice, but you’re right, it would be awkword.
197- Land Area Network. Everyone brings a computer and they game all night.
Sadly, this sounds sort of fun to me. But your eyes’d fel horrible.
201- God, that’s horrible. I have a friend I’ve known since we were 4, and sh’e not going to our school this year, and I wont see her at all almost because of my schedua;. Durring schoool, that’s really the only place I see my friends.
203- That stinks. Luckily, I have always had at least one friend in each class. But yah, I usually only see my school friends at school during the year also.
I am afraid that there will only be snotty preppy people in my p.e. class who will laugh at me since I am not at all athletic (except for dance). Sports are not my thing, and I have a different p.e. teacher than I have always had, so it kinda freaks me out, becuase I dont know if he will get mad at me for not being coordinated.
204- Don’t worry, people don’t really laugh at you in PE anymore since most people aren’t good in it. And the PE teacher shouldn’t get mad, it’s not a contest and not everyone’s good at that sort of stuff.
205-No offense, but you obviously have never been to my school. Pretty much everyone is a really good althete except me (and not to be rude, but my friends arent that great either, they admit it). And actually there are a few teachers at our school who get mad at you if you stink at what you are doing. I hate it, but hopefully that wont be the case for me, and thanks for making me feel a little better.
At school anyone who isnt my friend thinks I am the quietest girl in the school. If someone says something to me I will talk to them (otherwise its just rude) but its not like I am really talkative in the classroom. For one thing, the teachers have gotten scarier and stricter every year, so I dont want to get in trouble. But as soon as I get in the hall I start talking alot, and I get all freaked out about homework, and I have occasional fits of laughter that scares my friends. But anyway, my point is I am not really a quiet person, except in classrooms when are supposed to be quiet.
I was homeschooled up until 5th grade, and I’ve always been really quiet. The only times I’m not are if I’m with one of my two extremely close friends, or both. However, at school… I can’t stand how quiet I am. In 5th grade I was teased by someone, which was awful. Now I’m in 7th, and I’m a little more outgoing with one girl, but that’s it. What I can’t stand is if someone says “Why don’t you talk?” or if I answer a question – answer! – someone says “Oh my gosh, she’s talking! I didn’t know she talked!” At times I’ll be last into the classroom and everyone I know will be sitting at one side of the room, with no room for me, so I have to sit on the other side. No one moves to sit with me. I can’t explain… It’s really, really hard for me to explain how quiet I am at school unless you go there with me, and know what I’m like at school. And sometimes I just want to do something to prove to them that I’m not who they think I am; that I’m not some silent girl who sits in her desk and does her work and reads. I can’t stand it. I have, as I said, been talking more to one girl, which makes me feel so much better even though it’s just a small change, but sometimes she’ll just say “Say something!” and I won’t. I don’t like it if someone puts me on the spot like that. I’d rather they bring up something to talk about and just let me join in. Although I usually don’t.. And I don’t like it when people speak for me.
A big thing is that music is one of the hugest parts of my life, and practically no one else likes the same type of music that I do, let alone as much as I do. Most of the time, they might say they like Jesse McCarteny (I know I spelled his name wrong) or High School Musical or whatever, and honestly…I can’t stand them. And… I don’t know.. But mostly I loathe being as quiet as I am, and the way people see me. It’s awful.
212-Oh, I am so sorry you feel that way. I was like that for a long time until I met this guy. He really sees who you are inside, that is all he sees, and you can tell. He totally made me get more confident. But you should talk to your mom or dad or friend, and they can help you be more outgoing. And I know everyone says this, but now it really helps me, becuase I really try to take it heart, and maybe it will help. The people who tease you and try to make you feel bad want you to feel like they are controlling what you do at school, they want you be upset, but they dont control you. Chances are you will never see them again in your life when you become an adult, and they mean absolutely nothing to what you want to do when you grow up, they dont affect your dreams, what you love, what you really want to do. Sometimes I feel like they discourage me, and they make me feel sad, but deep deep down, I know that I can never stop loving what I do, what I love, what my personality is. Overall, they dont mean a thing, except, (as queen latifa says in hairspray), they are just a foot in a door, and you have to get there one toe at a time. So even if it takes awhile for you to be more outgoing and talkative, in the end it is worth it. We only get one life, one August 21 2007, one May 11 2000, etc. If we totally ignore those rude people out their who think they are so great, we are going to have a heck of a better time then them. If they just want to make fun of people and ignore people because they are different, even if its not what they are like, to be ‘cool’, it is their problem, and they are going to regret it. It takes a long time to sink in, and maybe its just what I think, but it totally helped me.
212-Sounds like you just aren’t around enough interesting people to bother talking. And they are rude when you don’t talk. Not a fun combination, but I wouldn’t worry about them. I know I don’t have anything to say around boring droidbots, and you are probably in a similar situation.
so guys, i think josh is mad at me for some reason…we used to talk all the time and now he doesn’t talk unless i talk to him, and then you can tell he’s not really interested in talking to me. which would be fine i guess, but he’s hanging out with monica and jacob a lot and excluding everybody else from their little group. other people that are friends of monica and jacob have complained about this too. example today, jacob and i walked home together, and he talked about maybe having dinner. i said “maybe, maybe not, i’m not sure”. just then josh called and invited jacob to a “study session” (what we have to study yet, i don’t know, but whatev). jacob invited me along but i said no because i had hw and was tired and didn’t really want to go be all awkward. so he said he’d call me about dinner. turns out i wouldn’t have gone to dinner anyway, but he didn’t call me. my mom was picking up penn station for us, and she said she saw jacob there, and said “i think he saw me because he looked kind of embarrassed for some reason”. i don’t know anything, but i’m betting it was josh who didn’t want to have me there and told jacob not to call (i know that’s just an assumption, and i should probably wait and see, but monica and jacob and i are pretty good friends and i don’t think she’d have any objection to calling me). so i don’t know what’s going on except that josh is being really possessive and for some reason doesn’t want to talk to me. i don’t mind much about josh, we were never like really good friends, but i hate how he’s trying to monopolize jacob and monica. monica used to be the one that everybody hung out with all the time, and now we hardly ever see her. and we can’t just go talk to josh about it because he’ll just deny it. i think jacob’s getting tired of it too though, and i’m hoping those three will just resolve it but i’d kind of like to know what josh is mad at me for. i know he and dan basically hate each other now, and all dan knows is that josh just suddenly stopped talking to him, so i hope that doesn’t happen to me.
anyway…long depressing rant…it’ll probably blow over soon. i’m just PMSy and that combined with people being things that are not appropriate to specify in front of smaller children is just a rant in the making.
212-I know exactly what you’re like. There’s a girl in my math class named Irene and she hardly ever talks because she’s always reading. She only laughed once, and that was when she was partners with me and one of my other best friends. Everyone always makes fun of her, especially when she wears these really wack costumes, but I think they’re kind of funny. She should probably be as outgoing as her costumes. I just feel so sorry for her, most of the time when we pick partners, I pick her just because. *kind of depressed but not really*
What I’m kinda afraid of is meeting my friend’s other friends. Sometimes they’re nice and like me, and we can all hang out together, and sometimes they’re all like “OMG YOU’RE FRIENDS WITH HIM” and I get kinda mad and we start competing for the attention of our common friends. Like today, I’m going to meet my friend’s friend Ena and we’re going swimming. *hopes she’s nice*
223- That’s good of you to be nice to her. It’s hard to having my best friends in class for me, because then I usually don’t talk and read instead to. Picking partners when they’re not there is horrid.
There is a girl at my school who doesnt get a lot of nice clothes becuase she doesnt have a lot of money, and her hair isnt the best and stuff, and people make fun of her…its horrid. I hate it. She isnt in my class though, so hopefully people are being nice, becuase I have all the snotty people on my team.
Bleh. I just realized that I’ve seen 3 different friends this summer. First I went to lunch with Kylie and Rosalie, and I also saw my boyfriend later. I also rode halfway across town on my bike to see Kylie and Rosalie. So I’ve been “out” 3 times this summer.
I’ve also played board games with this 4th grader on my street because I had nothing better to do and he’s actually able to have an intelligent conversation with me. I lost most of the time, but this kid is crazy smart. I’m going into 9th grade with all advanced classes and this kid is in 4th grade and keeps up with what I’m talking about. He gives me hope for the future of our country.
211- yeah, i don’t like the kids who talk in class so nothing gets done. this guy at my school kept trying to get me to swear. i don’t swear all the time just occasionaly, but he seemed to think i never swore and it was realy anoying.
summer is my down time. i don’t do much. i wasn’t sure where to post this so i’ll post it here.
the other day i was trying to find something to wear. when i looked in my drawer i realized there was nothing i actualy wanted to wear. a couple of years ago i started wearing realy bagy t-shirts because my body was changing and i felt self conciouse. I’ve been wearing the same clothes from grade 6 because i hate shoping. my t-shirts aren’t quite as big but still prety big. people would mistake me for a boy all the time. it doesn’t bother me too much but it’s kind of depressing when you think about it. i just looked in my drawer and closed it. i like wearing boy shorts but you know, enough is enough. i’m not 10 anymore. sometimes i kinda want to look pretty. haveing people bet over wheather i’m a girl or a boy is pathetic. so i told my mom to take me shopping. i now own 6 new shirts that i like and got rid of a lot of stuff i don’t want to ever wear again. i feel better than i did when i wore baggy shirts. I used to think i was totaly ugly. it’s not like i think i’m the most beuatiful person now but i feel better about my image.
so, i have this problem. There’s this competition at school that’s called the brain bowl and last year my team consisting of girl 1, girl 2, girl 3, boy 1, and me won our school. They were all my friends. At the time boy 1 was going out with girl 1. Then he dumped her and later went out with girl 3. All this time I liked him and he knew it. He was also a bit of a jerk to girl 2 sometimes. So, there were bad feelings all around. Now, we’re all just getting over these issues when low and behold an issue about our team comes up. boy 1 decides he wants another guy on the team but we can only have 5 people on the team! what do we do?
I’m weirded out. These are these girls in Spanish and P.E. who keep being all friendly to me, like, “Go Alice!” and “You’re awesome!” and I( don’t trust them. At first I thought it was because I wouldn’t trade seats in the middle of Spanish class and this was their way of revenge, but now I’m not so sure . . . *looks uneasy* It’s too weird. I knew on of them about five years ago, but not anymore . . . Eep.
230- all my experiences with that sort of thing were sarcasm. They just might be feeling bad or something, and felt like teasing someone they felt was inferior.
Ok, its time for me to ramble and look for advice again. Here it goes,
Ok, I have this friend, and we have been good friends since last year, but over the summer me and my other friend have notices that she has gotten kind of immature about handling situations. For instance, me and my other friend who have noticed take our math to lunch every day to compare our answers and check what we did wrong on the ones that are different before we have math next period, and a couple days ago my math buddy (I will call the friend who noticed that) moved over to sit by me so we could see. Upset friend (the one who has gotten wierd) got really mad that she didnt sit by her and wouldnt look at her and acted all wierd and wrote her a note saying “I dont think we are best friends anymore so dont bother talking to me”. We were both like, omg, thats stupid. And later upset friend even said she was being wierd, but she does that alot, and she is the one who gets mad at me when I talk about stuff that I believe in only a tiny bit, and cant comprehend why people want to recycle and save water. She is like totally clear about this and I dont know what to do. She is getting on my nerves, adn if I tell her I am afraid she will be immature about it. HELP!
If you don’t feel like you really want to be her friend, then just sort of drift away. Don’t sit next to her if you don’t have to, be rather vague, and spend your time paying attention to what the teacher is saying. Or something like that. When I wasn’t feeling comfortable around Ce anymore, that’s what I did. However, that may have been a different situation since we had just met.
227-I actually swear a lot, but not when people are listening, that’s kinda rude, even if I belive that there’s no such thing as a swear word, that’s just stupid anyway. Stupid was a swear in second grade or something, so… anyway….
But once in class I accidently cut something wrong, and said damn, and the jerk next to me (who is well known for being a jerk, I’ve mentioned him before on Hot Topics, I think) was like “OMG, Beavo, did you just say a bad word? Congratz? I thought nerds like you didn’t curse!” And I was like “Evan, I’ve sworn before you knew what **** even WAS, so shut your face” and he got all pissed.
234-Sorry, can’t help you, but that sounds totally wacked out. You SURE she isn’t kidding?
233- lol actually everything got messed up. All of my friends from the one school are now going to b going on a team 2gether and that leaves me, my best friend, and pain in the neck guy together with another very weird/pain in the neck guy friend (I actually have a total of three of those, but the last one is on the other team now, and is the guy I like, ug)
wow, i haven’t been on here for a long time. hi y’all!
235, i don’t think thats a good idea. it’ll make you just as low as her. one word…CONFRONTATION!!!! yipee! and if that dosen’t work, shoot her….j/k.
227-good for you. there’s this one girl who wears baggy shirts at my school, and it just makes her look, well, homeschooled. it’s like, act like a lady, and you’ll be treated like a lady, act like a young girl, and you’ll be thought of as a kid. but she is very smart…i get homeschooler vibes. (oh, and if you’re homeschooled, don’t be offended, cause i was homeschooled all my life, so its not just idle speculation)
i am not a recluse. i am vrey friendly and i have made many aquaintances already. with lots of different kids also…gangsta kids, nerd kids, smart and nice kids, weird kids…its pretty interesting. me likes public school.
239- I’d like to say I’m not a recluse, but I can’t actually start a conversation without shriveling up into dust, so that wouldn’t be technically true.
I’ve realized that icebreakers, which I’ve always hated, are actually really good for me, because it makes it easy to learn someone’s name, and from there it’s just a short hop to actually knowing them.
236- what a mean little butt. i don’t swear out loud often. mostly I swear in my head (actually almost all of my thoughts have swearing in there somewhere) but if i’m in a lot of pain I will swear, but just mouthing it.
240- how I got to know people at highschool was by going: “hey, you’re in my _______ class, sorry I’ve forgoten your name, but it’s cool we’re in the same classes.”
243- cutting herself. but I think I have her undercontrol. the story is this: she got completely used by a guy. and completely messed up this other guy because of the guy who used her. and her friends are kinda drifting and she feels like it’s her fault. nut I’m talking to her. I help her think clearer, i think. we’re talking about it. because talking helps. i thik she’s going to be okay. i’m just afraid, because she said she was going to kill herself but stopped.
249- Not really. I should remember what else it said, but I can’t. Talk it over with your friend, I think, tell anyone when they start mentioning suicide, um…
254-thats good. i have had no personal experience with those types of situations. one peice of advice, don’t let her read Edgar allen poe…she might get ideas. instead of discussing her problems with her, try to go over every good memory she has. going over past fun experiences might help her to see that in the future there will always be a chance for more fun. in other words, don’t let her despair.
RtH-wow. that is great advice. try making it a bit more complicated next time. like…hmmm. this is harder than it sounds.
okay! here you go: when talking with someone you like do not, i repeat DO NOT, keep the conversation focused on yourself. pass the ball to them. ask them interesting questions about themselves. that way, they feel free talking about themselves and eventually they will ask you questions and then…everyones happy!
258-that doesn’t always work though…believe it or not, i tend to listen more irl and not talk about myself so much, and the conversations end up with a lot of awkward pauses. it kind of depends on the other person, if they’re quiet and shy, talk about whatever, don’t put them on the spot, but if they like to talk, go ahead and listen.
Hm. Ok I need some advice, and sorry if I could be giving some now, the thread has gotten so much longer…………….
Here it goes:
My friend has been really immature lately about our friend moving to sit by me once in a while, and about every little thing. When I try to talk to her she just makes excuses, and acts even more immature, and she rolls her eyes when I talk about things that are very important to me, and ALWAYS acts like every little thing that is different about someone else is bad. What do I do?! She is getting on my nerves!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on starting conversations: always ask people about themselfs. everyone loooves to talk about them selves.
260- hmmm…. she sounds like she’s having some problems…. I think you should try to discretly avoid her, or do the exact same thing back to her. eventualy she’ll ask “why are you doing this.” then you can say “it’s the way you’ve been treating me” or something.
260-Interesting. I’ve never encountered something like that. Hmmm…Everything I think of to say won’t work…Follow the Cook’s advice..
I should be able to see The Quiet Ones on the 13th. Most of them, if they are interested in anything, don’t seem to want to show it, but a few have been showing signs of improvement…
265-you are beyond help. j/k! alice, pretend you are on MB. if you see someone, act like they just came on the blog. be helpful, friendly and nice, and before you know it, you’ll have tons of friends. you act normal on MB, so just act like that in three dimensional space!(i know, i know, its hard. but you gotta break out sometime)
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267-try the crayon idea! (you were on Musers Reccomended, right?) just give’em a crayon if you like them. they’ll probably think its wierd, but they will like it. and its much cleaner than a pie. trust me.
263- where do they live? can i beat them up? i’m kidding about that but really, i’m very sympathetic to you. *hugs and passes choklit* they are mean bums…. *crys*
265- w00t me too! actualy i have this “circle” of friends. it’s very small and without them i mostly keep my head down and avoid making eye contact with other people.
meh. everyone at school thinks i’m a smart freak and it’s starting to anoy me. i don’t even know where they got the idea. i think we, MBers, all know i’m not particularly smart. i don’t even get good grades. I swear i almost failed science last year. WHY DO THEY THINK I”M SOME SMART GEEK/FREAK?????????? *sobs*
263- arggggghhhh I hate that they used gay with a bad connotation. IT ISN’T BAD TO BE GAY PEOPLE! IT JUST IS!!! And I hate that they send you hate mail. *hugs and chocolate*
Well, this looks like a good place to rant about all the drama in my life. And it appears the thread isn’t completely dead, so someone may actually read it.
One of my friends from back when I came here (the girl with an eating disorder, if anyone remembers me talking about her) has completely stopped talking to me. We never see each other, and I haven’t communicated with her in any way, shape, or form in six months. She also seems to have completely forgotten that I was once one of her closest friends and that she was always confiding stuff in me. I have no idea if she still has the eating disorder, but I do know that she’s a pathological liar. I don’t mean that to say that she’s lied about me, because she didn’t. But she told me and another girl all about what this boy did to her, how he harrassed her and made her feel like crap and pushed her around all the time. She told us about this for over a year. It turns out she made the whole thing up. Strangely, I think she actually believed the stories she told us. The girl has a lot of problems.
My best friend from that era is no longer my friend. At all. I told her I didn’t want to be friends anymore. Before you think I’m being extremely cruel, you have to understand that you didn’t know this girl. All we ever did was talk about what was wrong in our lives, and what was wrong with the people we knew. Not a healthy friendship. Both of us were screwed up and annoying, but we were screwed up in annoying in different ways, so we ended up bring out the worst in each other. Anyway, my friend didn’t understand. She told me that I was the first person she ever hated, and that I was probably possessed. Well, later she sent me an email and said that she was fine with the way things were, but she just didn’t understand some things. I tried to explain it to her, but since then she hasn’t said a word to me. And I think she hates me. It’s sad, because we used to have such good times.
My best friend from church likes my brother. She’s liked him for over a year, and he likes her. But my parents told them they couldn’t date until Abbey was 19 (she’s 17 now). It’s kind of complicated as to why, but my parents have always believed in not dating until you reach the age when you should be looking for a spouse. Blake is a few years older than Abbey, so he’s the right age, but they think she’s too young. It’s really not as dumb as it looks there. This is something my parents have always believed, and they really think it’s the right way. Anyway, Blake is going to college five hours away, and now all Abbey can talk about is him. But that’s fine, because there’s a real possibility she could become my sister.
This is related to the whole gay/lesbian thing. I went to Europe this summer with a group of high schoolers. From the beginning, I was kind of in this group of three other girls and a couple of guys. We hung out all the time, sat next to each other on the bus, always sat at the same table, etc. Me and one of the other girls had similar personalities, so we got to be pretty good friends right off the bat. About halfway through the trip, she started completely ignoring me. She would never talk to me except to insult me. She never sat with me, and seemed upset if I came anywhere near her. A lot of other people were always joking with her about something, using code words and whatever. More and more people started ignoring me or hating me. I found out at the end of the trip that this girl who was my friend at first thought I had a crush on her. For no reason, other than that I talked to her a lot and “followed her around” (I followed the group around, not her. Under that logic about six people were following her around). She told the whole group of kids that I was a lesbian and had a crush on her. While this was completely untrue and unfounded, everyone believed her. What’s more, they all thought it was grounds to be mean to me and avoid me. Apparently lesbians are scary and nasty and stupid and we can all hate them. It was rather appalling, especially since so many of them called themselves Christians. High school.
270- It’s probably because you try in lessons. At my school, and I assume at some other schools, if anyone tries in class, or doesn’t mess around a lot, they call them a beaner. (Yes, I realise that being compared to a bean isn’t the worst insult you can get, but at my school it’s quite a big insult) I’ve gone further than that stage, by not having a TV and doing rather well in school (Not to brag or anything, just so you understand the situation), so I don’t get that very much. But I can see them sitting there, trying to think of a new insult, and realising that “Carrot” probably won’t do.
272- Aww.. *Pies*
Isn’t it nice how on MuseBlog, pies solve everything?
Good night GAPAs! I’m still posting since I might not be able to come on tomorrow. But thanks for letting us know!
Two friends came to today’s event. Boy: Still quiet. He doesn’t avoid me, in fact we are good friends, but he doesn’t talk a lot.
Girl: Not as quiet. She seems like she could be a very interesting person, but there never seems to be a chance to talk to her. There’s never a chance to not know how to start a conversation, as she seems to try to avoid situations where conversation could result. What would be the best way to try to start a conversation, including the factor of getting close enough that she could here what I was saying? She talks some to the other girls, but none of the other boys have made any efforts to get to know her, either for being too shy or not caring.
The boy will definitely be there tomorrow, I don’t know about the girl. That’s another thing, she rarely comes, slowing the whole process down.
I may try to check in tomorrow in case she does come, so if you have something helpful to say, that would be appreciated…
w00t! They were both there. Boy: slightly better. I think he is going to take a while to ever warm up. Girl: Improved. Talking quite a bit, and not seeming to hide anymore.
I feel oddly woozy. *falls down* I wonder what this is…
well, the specific one i’m thinking of happens at a lutheran church from after the football game-midnight. i crashed it once w/danny+co, and now people are like “are you coming to the next one?” but i’m just getting invited to stuff in general. it feels kind of like crashing since i only semi-know the people…
Heheh, the benefit of having this thread move so slowly is you can watch things develop. I knew I wouldn’t see quiet girl over the summer, but I thought she would be the same when she came back. But no! I don’t know what’s up with the change, or why she is coming more, but it looks like a promising friendship!
I don’t know if this should go in this or R&R, but two good friends of mine started going out maybe middle of last year. Now, they don’t really even talk to or about each other. Being a good friend of both, what should I do?
283- I do think it’s possible. What I meant was, should I just act like it never happened and hang out with both seperately (as opposed to us all hanging out together)?
282-slap them both in the face and tell them to get over it? you can tell i’m not the most helpful in situations like this, but that’s generally along the lines of what i do. but yeah, i guess if they really can’t stand each other/if you want to have fun and not be extremely awkward you could just hang out with them seperately (or in a big group so they don’t have to talk to each other)
That is, an adult neighbor. We share the interests of birds, gardening, and cake consumption (and other confections).
Tomorrow most of them should be there. We will be sorting through all of the old halloween junk for the haunted house. That’s different than normal first day school class, because you are constantly talking about random things.
Well, that didn’t go as planned. In fact, the entire class of four was composed entirely of boys. So much for the opportunity to get to know her better. I got to know the three boys better though.
I know she won’t be there next saturday, the day of the halloween party. She will very likely be there that Sunday, but the outdoor event only requires so many people, and so I may be doing another thing outside but at a different location, and she is likely to do the first one because her mom is leading it.
HARG! for some reason it is impossible to get to know this person better! Most of the time, I can get to know shy people because something about me seems friendly and they stay around despite their shyness. And they are often nice people hiding in a shell to get away from the disgustingness of the world.
So that’s why I’m annoyed at the fact that I can’t get to know her better. She probably reads Muse and I don’t even know it. (not too likely) but seems like that sort of person. *perishes*
HELP! The situation seems impossible…
RED-TAILED HAWK!!!!!!!!!
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Well, as it turns out, the one event that she might have done may not be possible now. So maybe everyone will be doing one thing. Still not too promising. Her mom said the halloween party sounded cool but that doesn’t mean she can come.
This is crazy. I have never had so much trouble getting to know someone in my life! What, is there some REASON I’m not supposed to get to know her? *BIG SPOOKY GLOWING GHOST EYES–YIKES!*
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294-Because all of the boys are really quiet and thus really boring. If they would maintain a conversation better I might not be so hurried. Plus, besides you and the rest of the girls on the blog, I really don’t have any female friends.
She seems like a really nice person, but Imposible to get to know due to previously mentioned circumstances. Annoying…
Am I missing something with that or…? ? Please say if I’m not being clear!
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296- i don’t have any advice realy. i’m just on here to vent about my fear of poeple.
meh. i’m really bad at getting to know people. because people scare me. and i laugh A LOT when i’m nervouse (which is almost always) i kinda just like to keep my head down and find the few people i do know so i don’t feel so awkward. ex. I only know three poeple in my french class, well well enough to talk to them, but only two of them do i work with. meh. me is pathetic. very pathetic. meh.
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I think I laugh a lot when I’m nervous/don’t know what to say. It’s really difficult starting new friendships, as you don’t know anything about the person. But whatever your doing, it must be at least endurable for both people, and so you could try to start talking about that. The weather, yes, that may be attributed to romantic situations, but it probably works in the same way slightly altered (as to starting with the conversation).
I also think people don’t need a million close friends, but a few are nice. *my situation of trying to start friendships inserted here*
If you try to give a little more detail about the situation I could probably give something more helpful. We should get a new thread in two posts, so then we can demand attention from the blog!
I think part of the problem with this thread is most people our ages here have already had bf/gfs and so are wrapped up in dealing with that whole ball game and not paying as close of an attention to friendship problems. Which doesn’t help us, does it now?
298- it does not help us children who don’t need bf/gf *cough* okay, i really want to get to know the guy who sits beside me in french not necessairily for romantic purposes but because he seems really cool. like really cool. for some reason this girl asked me : are you going to the [hallowe’en]dance
me: no
her: oh. do you have a bf?
me:no….
her: did you have one?
me: nooooo……. why are you asking me this?
her: dunno.. you just seem like the type…
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299-Ah, French, so romantic! Oh, wait, that’s not what your talking about! Really cool, I should meet him too! Hmmm. Has he talked to you? Is there ever a time to talk to him? I’m not sure how well you know him yet, but obviously somewhat to know he’s cool I guess…
I’ll wait for the new thread to come to help more, and to explain my situation, maybe more people will come if the thread is on the front page.
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Right. So what is this about? Talking about your friends? And what is a conversation guide? What if all your friends are on the MB?
Conversation Guides? I’m not sure what that means, but it sounds like something I could use…as an introvert, I’m hopeless when it comes to social situations.
*is not a social person*
Yeah… I’m not likely to start a conversation with someone unless I actively decide to be outgoing. And I don’t do that often.
I don’t start conversations. The idea of walking up to someone and saying, “Hi!” makes me scared. And even if someone else starts the conversation I’m not likely to keep it going. But I’m not what you would call shy. It’s a weird combo, and it doesn’t come across well over the internet.
Ah, now this is a thread for what C++darkmage and l were talking about. C++darkmage, Sylvette and Licie are just friends.
5 – Well, it’s very different in situations like this. Me and you are not actual people to each other, we’re just black lines on a screen.
That’s why it’s really weird when I find out what MuseBloggers actually look like.
Now, onto friends…
For some reason, just about everybody at my school hates me. I don’t know how it got started, it just sort of happened. Whenever I walk into my band class, this kid says “Oh great it’s *********” and other kids display similar additudes toward me. The ones who are mature don’t bother me, but all the 0.14-GPA slackers attack me, as well as some others who actually do fairly well in school.
I’m a weird mix of shy and show off. I like talking to people, and don’t really have a problem doing it, but I’m shy. It’s very strange….
For example, I volunteer at a historic site as a costumed interpreter, which means that it’s my job to dress up and talk to all the visitors that come through. Now, for a shy person, this should be rather hard. I have to stand there and talk to lierally thousands of people. But I love it!!!! As I said, it’s really confusing.
7- Weird. Why? You don’t seem unlikable. And I, for one, know your name, as do most people who are not complete newbies.
And yes we are black lines on a screen, but we’re black lines with personality!
I have no actual physical friends, other than my parents. I used to correspond with this girl, but she hasn’t written me back in several months. I had a couple of not-exactly-best friends, but I haven’t seen ’em in ages. So yeah. All of my friends are on the MuseBlog.
8- *dies* I’m not shy, but there is no way I could do that. I am very much a show off, but I try not to show off at the same time.
For anybody who doesn’t know what this thread is for, Robert was nice enough to make it for people who want to continue the conversation guide off of the romance thread. He also came up with the idea to call it “just friends”, and to let people also talk about things other than the conversation guide (about friends).
Alice-No other friends? I think you live out in the country on a farm. I don’t have many (I’m homeschooled), and most of the ones I do have are from my Quaker meeting. There I have three pretty good male friends, but no female friends. There they are SO shy. Even when you try to start a conversation, especially this one girl, she just says “hi” back and walks away!!! What’s that about???
Anyway, E2MB-I don’t know why people wouldn’t like you, but do they know you get Muse? Many people probably are a little suspicious of us geeks, ya’ know?
8-In what ways are you shy?
6 (agagabagabag)-Send him over!
4-Well then decide to do that often!
3-Conversation guides are things kids write here explaining things they wish other people knew so they could be better friends and more social.
Alice(#5)- Er, is that why you don’t have any friends besides MB, or because you live in the country? Do you live somewhere you could have other friends if the conversation guide helps?
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This is hilarious, I must say…you guys are wusses! J/k…I just find it kind of amusing…it got too mushy over there on the R&R thread…
12- *glares* I’m on both, you know.
11- Yeah. I had some friends, but then one girl started going to school, and the other girl moved away. Since I’m going to school next year, I’ll probably meet at least one person who likes the same things as me. (I? Which is proper grammar?) It might not be quite right to say I don’t have any friends, because I have plenty, just no kid friends. I get along fine with grown-ups, though, so yeah.
I have lots of friends, though I am friends a little bit with everyone. I talk sometimes with an anti-social clay obesssed, underdeveloped boy who is very sweet, and other times with the girls everyone cosiders “popular”. I have about three friends I know I can trust with everything. And of course you lovely people are becoming my friends.
hm. i’m fairly outgoing in person but i don’t like talking on the phone unless its to someone i know reeeaaaly *repeat previous word 100 times* well. you’re going to school next year Alice? congrats. i rather enjoy school except for the learning what the teachers want me to learn bit. midnight fiddler – you sound kinda like the people who are in theatre and love to perform on stage but hate talking to someone in real life. maybe its because talking about history, or being a character onstage isn’t really you – its someone else. meh, i’m not making sense.
16- Are you new? *pies* And that made perfect sense, by the way. But then, a lot of things make sense to me, especially if they’re strange and nonsensical.
I have five of the best friends in the world. I had one more in the grade ahead of me, but she moved to Canada. Now we’re all graduating. One of my best friends is moving to California. One is moving to another town not too far away but going to a different high school. one is going to public school. The other two are going to two different high schools. I’m going to a different high school than all of them.
I have a couple of friends coming with me to my new school, and a couple of friends there, but not a lot like I’m used to, and no one I’m close with. I’m okay at going up to people and starting conversations, but I’m terrified I’m not gonna fit in with the girls at my new school. I dunno, I guess I just have to wait and see. But I’ve had such amazing friends in middle school, I don’t know if I used up all my luck in that department. :/. I hope not.
No pretenses here.
Me, I’m not outgoing and I’m not shy. I love to meet new people, but I find it hard to talk to them. I didn’t have many friends in sixth but now in seventh I have a lot more and a lot more problems with them. My best friends all come from both of us liking the same guy at one point.
Right now, today actually, my friend got really mad, for a goodish reason I guess (but not really). I’ve said sorry sooooo many times and she just blows me off. I work in the same group with her for a really important project and I’m afraid it’s going to affect our grade. What should I do?
18- You’re in private school?
I used to go to a private K-8 school. I left after 5th grade.
13-It was a joke, hon. But, of course, I still find it a bit amusing…
7- Really? Meh, kids are mean like that. I think it’s rather interesting to find out what other MBers look like…
9/14- Aww, I feel you there. Don’t worry, most friends are over-rated. Oh, and it’s “I,” as in “…who likes the same things as” I do.
18- You’ll find friends. There’s always at least one group per grade level at high school full of random misfits, if you don’t fit in. At least, there have been at all three of the high schools I’ve attended.
I’m… well, socially apathetic would be the best way to describe it. I don’t talk much. I don’t mind meeting new people or talking to them [provided they aren’t complete idiots], but I just never go out of my way to do so. Okay, I simply don’t bother. *shrugs* I blame it on the massive amounts of school-switching I’ve done. For the same reason, I hardly ever get nervous around people, or when speaking in front of people. I’m very awkward, of course, but I don’t mind.
I’ve found a few people [read as: two] at my current school with whom I really get along well, though, and that’s always pretty awesome. There’s this really smart guy in one of my AP classes, who has the exact same sense of humour as I do, and who is also madly in love with calculus. It’s great, he never gets offended by the weird stuff I spew out, and his enormous ego never bothers me, because I’m all for it. And he can actually carry on an intelligent conversation. And there’s a girl in my art class who shares more or less all of my geeky obsessions and random quirks. We talk online more or less all the time and continually find more weird things we have in common. She also has great taste in music, which is always a plus. We’re geek buddies like that. Ick, I’m positively gushing, aren’t I?
Last year I had more or less zero friends, because I was at a Catholic school. If you’ve ever been to Catholic school and weren’t a Catholic or a jock or a blonde with a miniskirt, you know what I mean. ‘t was nightmarish. Back then, the MBers were my only friends. Basically.
Well, I have adult friends. Who are cool for the most part. Yeah, I’m a dork.
I’m mature for my age (no, that’s not boasting, I’m just saying), so I get along fine with grownups. Given the choice to go play with the six-to-ten crowd, or to sit quietly in the corner reading and half-listening to the adults talk, I’ll go with the latter.
It’s not that I don’t know anyone, but my parents’ circles of friends all have kids a lot younger than me, if they have kids at all. Like, my sister’s age. Or younger.
18- wait, you are the old Sphinx then! You’re talking about Phoenix, aren’t you? She moved to Canada. Welcome back, then! *pies with pumpkin pie with “welcome back” written on it*
For me, shyness depends on the situation. If I’m around people I’m comfortable with I can often be quite loud but I can be quite quiet and shy oftentimes too. I have some school friends but my closest friend does not go to my school. Myers-Briggs says I’m an INTP.
Beavo’s kinda mad right now. I’m friends with more girls than boys (which puts me at a big disadvantage, being a boy) (no offence to girls, some boys are really stupid and insist that a girl friend is a girlfriend) and there’s this one girl who’s really pretty who I’m just friends with. Then I had a really weird dream where she was my girlfriend and I took her on a date. And now I kind of like her!! Argh. This belongs on the Rom/Rel thread dosn’t it? Oh well because we’re still “Just Friends”. Right? Right.
I was just thinking about what E2MB said about really meeting people from MuseBlog. I know if someone from MB was in my school, they would be afraid to even talk to me here. But if you don’t know the person, it leaves the bad parts (unless you’re just a horrible person) to the imagionation. Older people in my school (I’m at the bottom of the ladder again, 6th grade) are always thinking “Oh My Gawd those sixth graders are sooooo immature” but I know there are tons of kids older than me on MB but mostly people talk to me just like we’re the same age, not like I’m an immature sixth grader.
16- … schoon? (your name) That sounds odly like a joke at my school… if it by any chance stands for “Shoots hot coffe out of nose,” that is. Are you new? *pies*
I have
34 close friends, and more not as close. My best friend, whom I met when we were , is going to a different high school next year.Oh, are we talking about age now? I learned over a year ago that age was not a problem, when I was in a house with several kids about two to five years younger than me and one kid three years older than me, and I got along fine with everyone. I do actually have one friend (pretty much my only kid friend, and we don’t see each other a lot) who is ten, and she’s cool.
27-Some older kids (thirteen to fifteen) can be pretty snotty about age. I had an OM team with three fourteen year olds when I was eleven, and they acted like anything I did was really stupid and dumb. We lost (surprise, surprise). I don’t (at least I HOPE) act like that to ten year olds! I have a rule: I don’t call anyone ‘little kid’ to their face, and anyone over eight I NEVER call little.
23-Me, too…also, I get along with guys way better than I get along with girls, in most cases. (Don’t worry, it won’t turn into another R&R thread…)
25-WHAT?!?!??!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!? DISADVANTAGE?!?!?!??! HOW???
Who cares what most boys think. I’ll take at LEAST a balanced assortment of friends, rather than just boys…
…but I think it would be a problem, if you care what they think. I know if I had any good female friends or even just had a normal conversation with a girl my male friends who, as far as I know, don’t have girlfriends would think I was trying to have one.
So that adds to the confusion.
This one girl I
totally weird.
knowWANT to know, Austin, hmm… I have tried to start conversations, and have said “hi” or “how are you”, even in front of my male friends, but…she just says hi back and walks away!Red-tailed HAWK teh confuzzeled who’s finger hurts for some unidentified reason
One of my best friends moved away on the last day of school as soon as she got home. It was really sad. She moved really far away, too.
I’m definitely an introvert, with the exception that I get very loud, and well, “bubbly” is the only way I can think to describe it, during CS club. CS club is a group of the friends I wen’t to the elementary magnet program with. Since we all go to different schools, we meet once a month and the amount of fun we have keeps me sane until the next one. We started out with 9, lost 4, and gained one. My best friend is Molly, who I’ve known since kindergarten; but this is the first year we’re in the same school. We only share a few interests, but the fact that we’ve known eachother so long anchors our friendship. Other than that, I’m pretty quiet in school.
Ok, on age: You may not think you’re less mature than “older kids,” and often you’re not, but as a rule 6/7 grades are bad/awkward years. 6/7 graders are all dorks, no exceptions (and no offense.) Yes, teenagers can be snots, but that’s just because they’ve been through those ages and know how much of a dork they were at that age. So don’t be too hard on them.
32-effervescent is a nice word for bubbly.
And i don’t agree with all of that about 6/7 graders, I’m in 8th grade and i know plenty of 6th and 7th graders who aren’t dorks.
17- yes, i’m new. i posted (somewhere) on the noob thread
18 and 22- i agree. whereever you happen to go, there will be someone willing to be friends with you. sure, they might not be as cool as musers
but you won’t be completely alone.
26- hi! yeah, its me. who else would have an abbr for *shoots hot coffee out of nose* as their name? harhar.
29- i tend to become friends with guys faster than girls but the girls keep in touch so i have the same # of friends who are guys as friends who are girls. maybe just it takes me longer to see past the painted nails and eyeliner. *hears Jadestone point out that i’ve hit on most of my guy friends at one point or another* we were just friends first and are just friends now so thats beside the point.
32- well i try not to be snotty to 6th and 7th graders, and i wouldn’t decribe them as dorks, just niave (sorry ’bout spelling) because they haven’t seen as much of the world as teens have. but i wouldn’t say that there are NO exceptions. though, i was a niave dork in 6th grade…
34- Naive.
Sorry. I can’t help it. I correct everyone’s spelling. Plus I have that magic* thing, spellcheck, so if I don’t know a word, I can still correct people’s spelling.
*Or, since I’m on the MB right now, would that be majik?
22-i would have to agree with you on the “don’t go out of my way to make friends”. i have never had any problem with talking to people of any age. i hust don’t initiate conversations.
6/7th grade dorks is BS. they’re just the same as us without the prefix of “teen” to their age. i am very good friends with a ton of them and i am not an immature dork either. BTW, i’m in 8th grade.
i have one friend who i grew up with. we’re really close. and then i have two more who i’ve known for a couple of years. and then there’s my cousin, computergeek as you know him. we are probably one of the closest on my friendship list. he’s great. i also have no problem being friends with girls. usually they are all older than me so there’s no icky stuff. i am just an acquaintance with them.
Hmmm…I have an interesting assortment of friends…most of them are a little bit strange, though. See, on one hand, there’s Ben, the teacher’s pet and extreme nerd…then there’s Courtney, who’s failing most of her classes but is the type of sarcastic, apathetic, world-hating person that I am….And of course we can’t forget Shelby, who wears skirts to school everyday and is usually very hyper. Surprisingly, Shelby has been my friend since fourth grade. I also seem to have a lot of casual aquaintances in my classes. You know, people that you won’t usually call or tell really important stuff, but people that you can just talk to at school if you get bored during class. I’m going to shut up now.
Geez, I didn’t say 6/7 graders were necessarily immature (in fact, there are many teenagers who seem to become less and less mature as they age) I just said that once you hit 14 or 15, you’ll look back at being 11 or 12 and groan.
32-*is kind of insulted* I know I acted like a dork in third-fifth, and I’m pretty sure I’m gonna groan when I reach eighth, but I refuse to call third and up little kids, because if you think about it, they’re not really little anymore. They do act more mature then babies and start to have an understanding (even if it’s small) of the world around them. When teens become adults, they probably look back on eigth and high school and say ‘those were good times but WOW I had some real problems’.
30- Well, next time, beckon her over or like invite her into the conversation. Most people just greet a person in a group who greets them, and then continue on.
37- Yeah, I know those sorts of people. Help alleviate the boredom and all…
Well, I have a friend/acquaintance with a problem. Firstly, she’s still seventeen for another 8-9 months. She wants to move away because…well, she has major issues at home, especially with her father. She’s been going on about how she wants to run away/move out/commit suicide. And she’s completely serious, it’s definitely not the “zomgattentionplz” sort of thing. Honestly. She brought in some of her stuff [aka bags and bags] to keep at the school for some time, because she’s trying to move out [the rest of her family is moving to NY] Most people thought it was just wishful speculation until now, and that she’d stick it out for senior year. But now… I dunno, what could be done about this?! Our one teacher knows, and she’s trying to help, but this is a rather iffy situation. Advice?!
I have two good friends, doug and julie, and i’ve realized that I’m more friendly with julie’s friends than any of the guys I hang out with. I don’t want to leave them, (like post 25), but it seems to be that there are a lot more interesting girls than guys in my school. And then there’s doug, but he’s kind of weird. Not to be mean, but he’s on the edge of the line that seperates genius and insanity.
41- Yeesh, doug sounds an awful lot like how my friends always tell me I’m like.
My social circle pulled a veritable supernova this year- went from about two non-mb friends to… *counts* fourteen or so. It’s really very impossible for someone like me (that is, someone who’s train of thought tends to jump it’s tracks rather frequently) to make a lot of friends because, really, we’re the worst class in the school system. *sigh*
I have three best friends, actually, all in different places.
Lisanne has been my friend basically since we moved to Wyoming from California when I was four. We are, like, exact opposites, which I think is partly why we’ve been friends for so long. See, we both ♥ to argue, so, because we basically disagree with eachother on everything, it works out pretty well.
Alisa has been my friend since California. She now lives in New Mexico. Her family’s jewish, so I’ve ended up being part of a lot of cool traditions, which is always fun. ^_^
Lastly, Sam and I have known eachother since birth (literally). He was born ten days after I was, in the same hospital. He still lives in California.
Then of course, there’s all of you guys.
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Hey, this sounds like a good place for the Ebeth’s Fun Day rant (actually it was a pretty fun day today, until i came home and got grounded.
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So we had the last exam, and i had to fish dan’s PS2 and DDR pad back out of that secret broken locker in the middle skool where i’d hidden it the day before after running off with it
I was still debating…keep or ebay? but then i decided not to be mean and give it back. We went to the end-of-the-year cookout thing, and feathers reported that his video was indeed lost forever, so we had a moment of silence for the video (that was a really great video… :'( ) and ate free food. Then monica and josh and some other maryland people were going to go over there (maryland is the elementary skool in north snipville) so some of us south snipvillers decided to head over to montrose, and that kind of grew as we were eating to a random “anybody who’s not doing anything come hang out” Most of us had our bikes, so cheese, andy, hewitt, megan, hecht, hunter and i rode over there (cheese stopped and got her bike on the way) and hung around for around fifteen minutes before deciding that it was too bleeping hot (yes bleeping, there were small children around. oh random tangent about small children-we were at maryland yesterday (yes, we hang out at elementary skool playgrounds, that’s how cool we are :D) and it was me, dan, josh, and monica and we were playing tag with the two random little kids that were still there (it was latish for small chilluns, so there weren’t many around) and the small boy child was It and he was chasing josh around (he was freaking fast too!) and the small girl child (his sister i think) yells out “run like a forest!” Monica and josh and i look at each other and just start cracking up completely, and when they left josh was like “hey, that run like a forest line…keep using that, it’s good” anyhoo, ) right where was i…montrose right so we went over to hewitts. That lasted an even shorter time than montrose, most of it spent sitting around on his porch, and then we decided to go to andy’s because he has a big shiny tv and a whole bunch of movies. (we couldn’t go over before because his brother was asleep/hungover/probably wasted too, but whatever, his brother stopped being cool when he shaved his hair off. his hair was freaking amazing. several times when he passed by us i was just like “andy…his hair…tear” and i’m ranting again) So we watched dogma, which is freaking hilaaaarious. (best line ever…well, one of the best…bob (best character ever. says two lines-“no ticket” and “thank you”) hits azrael with the cardinal’s golf club (azrael’s been like “yeah whatever take your best shot” because he didn’t know the cardinal had blessed his golf clubs) and it breaks through to all this random black goo stuff and azrael just looks down and goes “…but i’m a f***ing demon!” and dies. k, little weird but funny. anyhoo i’m ranting yet again. that’s why it’s called a rant i guess.) so we did that and then andy had to work an hunter had to go home so megan, hewitt, hecht and i went over to jeffrey (mansion/park) and went through the woods to alum creek because megan had a box of fireworks left that she wanted to set off before she went to pennsylvania, but first we were randomly climbing around on the rocks, which progressed to wading around which was probably really stupid but fun. Then cheese had to go home, so she left and we made our way back across to the fireworks when we remembered that cheese had been the one with the lighter. So we just hung out on the rocks for a while getting our feet wet and then somebody came out into their yard (yeah…this was technically private property, if the edge of rather large property that included bits of the woods) so we decided it was time to leave. so we went to hechts and did kareoke for a while, then hecht’s mom had to leave so she had to stay home/we had to leave. so we went to megans and had pizza and watched csi (lovely combination, that) and talked about global warming and politics and stuff with megan’s dad (well, hewitt and i did anyway) and that’s when pater called me and was like “come home, you’re grounded” Of course i’m working tomorrow anyway, so i couldn’t really do anything, but sssh.
So that was my amazingly, spiffily fun first day of summer.
Everyone at my school likes me for some reason. Maybe cuz I am short. Either way, some kids that I have never met come up and go “Hey Donald!” or something like that. Then, there are kids I completely hate, but they go like, “Donald, you are my best friend!” And then there are the Populars that seem to like me, although I hate a few of them because they either are idiots or wear gallons of makeup. I wouldn’t call myself popular, but I am liked by many kids. I have so many friends, but I only have four BFFs, all of whom are insanely silly and sillily insane. LIKE ME!!
32-I agree, and I am a 7th grader! If you met me though, I am not that bad. I am normal, unlike most of the kids at my school.
Im on this and romance and relatoionships. dont u go saying its bad O person with same birthday as I!
Hahaha!!! I love you, Hedge! It’s not bad…just amusing…what’s wrong with that?
44- “normal”, of course, meaning you’re not a comeplete idiot like most of the middle school population seems to be. Which, of course, means you are not normal, but weird, which is soooooo much better! :D:D:D:D
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43-…You know, I had something to say in responce to the begining of that, but by the time I got to the end it was gone. Grr.
Your first day of summer sound fun. If i recall correctly, I spent mine hanging around the house… I did hang out with my friends the day school got out (we were in there for about 30 min. We just got our grades and left, basicly). We went to the middle school to try to get in and see everyone, but there was a sign on the front that said “HIGHSCHOOLERS. GO AWAY.” that I swear Mr. P put up just for us ^^ Anyway, the second their school let out an hour later and all the kids came running out we grabbed our
I feel bad for Mrs
8th gradefreshman (oh god… she’s a freshman…) friend and slid in through a back door. We visited all the teachers, which was very sad because a lot of them are going to the new mddle school they just built and we won’t see them again.G(why’d she have to go and get married? Her name was so fun. I’ll still call her Mrs. Formerly G or something though) and Miss K, they were best friends and only Miss K is going to the new building. Man…32- What does CS stand for? At my school it means Central Study, which is the PFS equivalent of social studies.
49- The letters “CS” are the initials of our elementary school.
What’s Magnet? at CTY some kids were trying to get into an all-magnet school, but I never thought to ask what that meant. Is it AP?
32- What’s PFS?
51: an art magnet school would be a school that specializs in art ect.
51- You meant post 49.PFS is my school, [snip]
Couldn’t people find these schools by looking up the initials???
Last spring break I spent in a large cabin/home with 9 adults and 6 kids (not including myself) ranging in ages from 2 to 8. I got along well with them all, ( 3 of the kids were realtives) and we had a marvelous time.
54-unlikely. when i was looking for sneaky’s videos of the band on youtube i tried “BHS band” first and got like three different bands. lots of schools have the same initials
O.K….here goes. I took fifth and sixth grades in the same year, and now I am eleven and almost done with seventh grade. For a long time I didn’t have any really good friends in this grade. Somehow, anytime anyone realizes I am eleven, it is a shock. The kicker is this-my really good friend in this grade is moving away to Florida and NEVER COMING BACK!! AUUUGGGGHHHH!!!!
Anyone have any advice?
Oh drat I was wrong. Darn calculator.
i have friends. but if i lived in the suburbs, i probably wouldnt.
geeks ftw!!!
9 – They call me by my last name, because that’s what all my teachers call me and another reason that I can’t tell you because then you’ll know what it is.
25 – I don’t like that either. Girl friends do not equal girlfriends. But people are jerks like that.
Several people wondered why I am not popular at my school. I’m trying to think of a way to put it, and I’ve re-written and deleted this section of my post several times. Arrrg I’m gonna click submit now
7 – Agreed. I’m somewhat hesitant to enter into conversations even online, but it makes it easier for me to at least try. If I can make it to the kon, I probably won’t say much to peoples’ faces even though I’ve talked to them online.
Maybe the other kids are jealous of you? It sounds like what happened to my friend; she’s really good at academics but also has a thriving social life, so the slackers resented her for her grades and the achievers for her parties and whatnot.
8 – That job always looked fun to me, yet I probably couldn’t work up the nerve to do it. Where did you work (if you’re allowed to say)?
11 – You’re homeschooled too? That’s nice to know! I’m not strictly homeschooled anymore – I go to “cottage school” now, classes designed for homeschoolers’ schedules – but I was for most of elementary and middle school. Which state are you in? There are a lot of homeschoolers in Kentucky now because the public schools here are pretty bad, but unfortunately the “cottage schools” also seem to break down easily, and I’ve always wondered if it’s just a KY problem or if all homeschooling groups wind up arguing a lot and splitting up.
23 – Most Musebloggers I’ve talked to seem to be mature for their ages. Maybe that’s why even we who have trouble finding friends normally can get along well here?
25 – You’re in sixth grade? There’s proof for my previous point, then – I wouldn’t have guessed that. Most sixth graders I know are still pretty immature (but then again, so was I in sixth grade, now that I think about it). I just finished tenth grade and I have a similar problem with the girls – they insist that if I talk to a boy I *must* like him. It’s frustrating because I share more interests with the boys than the girls, but the girls tell the guys I like them if I talk to them, so then they avoid me. Grrr.
37 – Sarcastic, apathetic, world-hating…sounds like we would get along.
57 – Unfortunately, my sister was in a similar situation (she combined grades as well and finished high school at sixteen) and didn’t find any close friends until college, so I don’t know what to advise. Are there any “gifted students” groups in your area? There’s one here now for people who have skipped grades, and the ages vary yet the members are all friendly to one another.
If given the chance to I wouldn’t skip a grade. I’m a better student than most others, but if I skip a grade I would, lose my edge, be the youngest, be a grade away from my friends, ect. but i have never been told i can skip a grade and probably never will.
61-Yes, I’m homeschooled. We started at fourth grade, because the montessori school I was going to ends at third.
I hav 2 go in a minut. (crayzee speling, huh?
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Red-tailed HAWK The Amazing (I don’t know why)
I skipped a grade. Here’s a thought: Do not tell anyone your age. Or fake that you are the same age, and once you re really close friends tell. I usually just don’t tell anyone my age until they find out at my b-day party. THat works pretty well. Of course, I move often so Ihave a lot of new beginnings.
62- Well, that’s a good way to look at it. I don’t think I could skip a grade ever. I’m smart, but everything I know is mixed up higgeldy-piggeldy in my brain, and it’s not really the kind of stuff you learn at school. I’m actually kind of worried that I won’t be able to get into ninth grade, because my knowledge is not the conventional kind.
Ugh. I dedicated my book for Language Arts to “All the pwnsome muses, Koko, Urania, Pwt, Bo, Mimi, Chad, Craaw, Feather, and Aeiou. And the muses of Muse, Nancy Kangas, Angiskina Biskup, Diana Lutz, Robert Coontz, Rebecca Lasely, and Larry Gonick. And of course, to the Hot Pink Bunnies and all my friends on MuseBlog.” and now people are calling me gay because of the Hot Pink Bunnies part. Gsh.
I don’t think I could ever skip a grade because I’m short even for sixth, much less seventh or eighth. And if I was in eighth then when I got to high school…*dreads* Again, gsh.
I have hippy friends, metal friends, rock friends, communist friends, occultist friends, musician friends… Lots of people. In the Liceo you don’t have to be illiterate or ignorant to be cool.
For what it’s worth, skipping a grade worked out for me overall, but circumstances and personality are different for everyone.
Some difficult transitions were more than compensated by the knowledge I would have missed the most significant people and events of my school years if I’d stayed in my original grade. (Of course, I wouldn’t have known that, but still.)
More to the point, if I hadn’t skipped, I would most likely not have met Robert Coontz, and therefore I most likely would not have met all of you — consequences that were completely unforeseeable all those years ago.
(66) I am honored, Beavo the Great.
*Is honored* What about Rosanne and Paul???
I’m probably going to have to repeat a grade. First year of Liceo. And before you laugh, remember, the kids who skip grades in the US are the kids who manage to barely get by in Europe.
70- I won’t laugh, because I know that I do close to zero work in the US and I get 90s in everything. I know this probably makes me sound really ignorant, but what is Liceo?
I started early, apparently. So for the first month or so of school, I’m two years younger than everyone. Hasn’t bothered me. I had the opportunity to skip 4th grade but it didn’t go through for whatever reason, and I sorely wish it had.
16~ What you said makes sense, but I would have a really hard time performing on stage. When I’m interpreting i am me, but I’m not talking about me, that much. And I have no problem talking to people in person. So it’s sort of the reverse of what you said, but similar. Now I’m not making any sense…
68-I just had to include everyone who makes my absolutly favorite pastime available! I really felt bad that I had not posted for a few days and there was no one else to dedicate it to except ‘Mom and Dad’ like everyone else. Then, sitting at my desk trying to read the January 2007 edition, something in my mind went *SNAP* and I sat up and said OWNSOME! And got in trouble for shouting in class. But I had to dedicate SOMETHING to Muse and MuseBlog so a book dedication seemed just right. After all, musers read a lot, don’t they?
Sorry for the 2p. Stupid enter button.
69-I added them, the one I posted was the one I had sitting on my desk, and I was not going to go get it the finished one because my feet REALLY hurt. I was just trying to make a point about dorks calling me gay because I dedicated something to HPB’s. Well, we might as well re-post it with the revisions.
” To all the pwnsome muses, Koko, Urania, Pwt, Bo, Mimi, Chad, Craaw, Feather, and Aeiou. And the muses of Muse, Nancy Kangas, Angiskina Biskup, Diana Lutz, Robert Coontz, Rebecca Lasely, Larry Gonick, Paul Baker, and Rosanne Spector. And of course, to the Hot Pink Bunnies and all my friends on MuseBlog.”
Did I leave anyone out? Puh-lu-eeeeze don’t ask me to put specific names in because the list will go on forever, and I won’t be able to put a picture of Mostly Harmless, an HBP, and Koko in there.
75-Looks good.
Well, this girl I have mentioned MIGHT be at my Quaker meeting tomorrow. She doesn’t come much, but as this is the last day for the first day school thing and the one where we thank the teachers she might be there.
So AGAIN what should I do to maybe start a conversation before everybody gets all busy and I won’t see her for like four months???
The Sad HAWK
76-Conversation starters…. how bout “Hey, do you know where the [insert place] is? Thanks. *go there*” and come back and be like “Thanks again! Oh and by the way…..” and think of small talk. I suck at this, don’t I?
77- Small talk? *dies* I’ll add to that: While you’re thinking of small talk, start hoping that a big dog will come skidding across the marble floor with three kids attached and save you from chatting.
78-I’m good with small talk, but I’m so weird that no girl with the least amount of pretty/smartness in her would immediatly say ‘no’ as soon as I say ‘hi’. And by the way, you can save the kids and the girl will fall all over you!
79- Darn. Don’t you get it? It’s from the live-action Peter Pan! It’s what I will always think of when I think of small talk. That’s a splendid movie, by the way. I’ve seen it many, many, times. Supposedly I look like Wendy, or at least I used to.
62- Improper use of punctuation. Please learn to use commas and colons and everything else properly, or at least better. Sticklers can’t bear to read that type of thing.
Okay thank you for the advice friends. In almost exactly two hours I will be leaving for meeting.
81-I’ve just about given up trying to make people do what you want them to do. I think it’s WOMBAT because they don’t really care what you think because it saves time for them.
The Excited HAWK
71: Liceo is the name given to one type of high school in Europe. The name derives from Aristoteles’ school, Liceum, and it’s the elite high school. It’s very selective, and only the best students go there. The rest can go to commerce schools, or take apprenticeships.
58-Actually, you were right. I am 11 now, but I am TURNING twelve.
61- Thanks for the, um, interesting advice?
Sorry, I forgot to change my name back to cellogirl26. I only go by 26 on the scribblemaya thread.
Where’d my other post go?
Hmm. I haven’t really had time to post in the last couple of days and I’ve missed alot.
70- Umm, sorry?
I should have skipped a grade. I went to a private kindergarden at 4, and should have gone straight into first, but the public school system wouldn’t let me. I’m not really that bitter about it, because I wouldn’t have met a lot of my friends if I had. My friend Lydia skipped, though. She’s amazing, and has suffered so much. Her younger sister has autism, her younger brother has cerebal palsey, and her father has neurological cancer. I don’t know how she manages to stay such a cheerful and simply astonishing person with the amount of grief she must go through.
80-
*blushes* sorry.
62- that’s just exactly the same as for me, except the grammar thing…too many commas, dude!
actually, I got like, an 85% on my first english essay of the year because I used too many commas. My teacher was talking about how some people go crazy with commas…ya , he was talking about me.
see? looking back I could have taken out the first 2 commas and goten rid of the word like and it would have been better english, but it wouldn’t have sounded so much like me. Has anyone noticed that? to make writing sound like it’s me “talking” I need to use a lot of commas and “…”‘s and CAPITALS ans stuff
7- that’s evil. hug. that’s realy evil. to me you seem like a great person.
ALICE- you remind me of those characters in books who never realy have any friends, if you know what i mean. i never found them believable. no offense ment ofcourse.
41-i had a friend sort of like your doug, his name was richard and i was totaly in love with him. he was amazing. but then he changed schools.
91- A lot of book characters aren’t believable. I’m not sure which kind you’re talking about, because there are two kinds of book characters that never really have any friends. The “loners” who are friendless of their own choosing, and the other ones that are exposed to hundreds of people their on age and are too awkward to actually make friends with any of them, even though they want to. Then there’s the type of character who… Just kidding. But really, I analyze book characters constantly, and could probably give a long lecture on the differences and similarities between them.
As far as I’m concerend, I have two friends. Everyone else in life is someone I know but who doesn’t have my real friendship. Is anyone else like that?
Hmm, skipping grades…I don’t know. I wish at least I went to some sort of specialized school or something. My high school is nice, but I feel like it doesn’t offer me enough.
SHE WASN’T THERE!!!!!
Hmm, actually, a lot of us seem like those book characters who don’t really have any friends. No offense meant to anyone, of course; I probably fit into that category as well.
xD We have our froody online friends, after all, which is, at most times, way better.
93- Yeah, I’m pretty much like that, too.
There’s ***R*, with whom I hang out all the time, but don’t really know. There’s P****, with whom I talk all the time, but don’t really know. There’s ***A*, who was my friend for ages, but always blows me off for whatever guy she’s dating. And there’s **C****, who is just really nice but impossible to have a proper conversation with, ever. Lovely, lovely, lovely. I so need better friends. Gah…
That was so depressing on so many levels. Wow. I just realized again how I don’t really have a life. *wallows in nerd-dom*
95- What? A LIFE? What’s that? I just write. Last night I had a long, mostly one-sided conversation with my parents about how I could avoid high school and life, but there didn’t seem to be any way. I said lighthouse keeper, but my dad said there would be no internet connection. I said I didn’t care, I would just read and write and knit, but I don’t think they believed me. Humph.
96 –
Yes, internet connection is quite a factor in such matters.
(96) Alice, maybe it will help if you think about school as an opportunity for research. Elsewhere on the blog, I’ve referred to the Anthropological Method of dealing with social situations, which might come in handy for you.
No matter what genre you write, your work will be deepened and enriched from learning firsthand about the world outside the lighthouse. Whatever else you can say about high school, it offers an abundant resource for studying human behavior.
96- yes, I agree. What is a life, anyway?
Ah well.
:idea:TNÖ:idea:
98-as much human behavior as you can stand, that’s skool.
Thanks for the advice, people!!!
SHE WASN’T THERE!!!!
76- i know this is kind of late but i have the best pickup line ever. i got it from the bredy bunch movie (best movie ever) “hey there groovy chick, you’re happening in a real special way!” please don’t ever actualy use that. i still maintain, though, that it is the best pickup line ever.
me? hmm… i’ve got some cool friends. well, there’s josephine my posessed pal who does kendo. we’ve been realy close since gr.4. but this is the last couple of weeks that we’ll see eachother everyday because we live far away from each other and we aren’t going to the same highschool. she’s relatively rabid.
there’s R8CHL who is my azumangadaiho fan w/me. she’s cool, always fun to be with.
K who is my balet buddy.
mlee my friend who always listnes but has bad taste in boys
taytay my girlfriend
J my little friend (boy) who acts like a girl (and is my clone)
M (boy) likes to steal the manga i steal off josephine.
KTGmy name stealer friend.
heheheheheheh. those are the people i talk to every day.
103-Thanks, but um JUST FRIENDS. Anyway, hahah.
102-I’m sorry.
98- “Observe the habits of Annoying People in the wild” Brilliant!
95- I feel different from people now. I feel like I have too many friends…
107- Lucky you. ^_^
66 – *also feels honored* Non-Musers just don’t understand the bunnies. I’ve tried to explain and they never get it.
71 – Same here. Most of my assignments this year were “busy work”. I put little to no effort into them and still got As. That frustrates me because I want to study abroad in college and I’m afraid I won’t be prepared if I don’t get enough challenging assignments in high school.
83 – Elite high school? Interesting! Would a prep school be the American equivalent of Liceo?
93 – Yes. There are only a few people I count as true friends; the rest are acquaintances who spend time with me but don’t really know me at all.
95 – Indeed. The best conversations I have are usually the ones I have online with MBers.
96 – That’s what I kept telling people during the school year. “Life? What life?” Lol. Lighthouse keeper actually sounds like an interesting job, but I wouldn’t be able to do it if I couldn’t get an internet connection!
98 – Good advice! I want to write a novel now – most of the people I encountered in the past school year were far crazier than any character I could come up with on my own.
today yet another group of people mistaked me for a boy. i was sitting with my friends josephine k8 and mleeby the fance at my school and this group of children around our age passed. they called “hey kid in the green shirt” and i looked back. then they said “this kids gay” and this guy ran up to the fence and started humping it saying “hey my name is borat” and all his friends were laughing and i was just staring at them thinking WTF? this girl said “haha look at him” and pointed at me and said”you know you want to laugh” and i said “excuse me? i’m a girl” so that whole group of losers laughed realy hard and walked away. what bothered me was the way they made fun of gay people. my friend mlee now wants to beat them up because they were so mean. it doesn’t bother me THAT much. just a little.
anyways i’m babysiting with k8 tomorrow and it will be fun.
103- The best pickup line ever was used by Barney in How I Met Your Mother. Just youtube search for it, and you’ll see the truth. I’m not even kidding you, it’s hilarious.
So I was talking to one of my two best friends, and she’s like “you know how I’ve been really distant lately?”
“yeah?”
“it’s cus I don’t want to miss you so much when you go to a different school next year. but it isn’t working cus I miss you already!”
Oh my god, I love this girl.
111-You new?
110- Gah, I so hate that. Calling someone/something “gay” as if it were an insult! Kids these days….
111- The one with the ambulance and everything? Or something like that….
My Facebook depresses me. It says “You have 26 friends” to me. And it’s sad because I really don’t. Quite a few of them are from here, which is awesome. And then about five outside of that are friends. The rest are random people I talk to on occasion in school. Gah.
112- No, not new. I just kinda come in spurts. I haven’t been on in a couple months or something.
113- YES! “There are probably terrible fractures! Internal bleeding! This woman has had a huge fall”
“What?! No I haven’t!”
“Are you sure, cus I swear you fell straight out heaven”
But you have to see the buildup.
109: I don’t know what prep school is.
114- I know where that “kinda came in spurts” line came from!
113-Don’t be sad! I only have a couple of friends, and most of the time I just see them on the weekend. I think it’s better to have a couple good friends than a zillion just to be able to say a big number when people ask.
But then there’s MuseBlog!!!
113 – my facebook has 72 friends. 25 of those are not from my school. I consider myself actually close/good friends with roughly 40. I don’t really like the rest of them/don’t know them that well.
Oh, and just so we get this out of the way, I am not in the Muse fanclub facebook group. I never will be. I like my privacy, and I don’t want all of you knowing my last name. If you do find me, though, you’re welcome to try to add me as a friend, but I won’t accept it – I have a policy that I only add people that I’ve been in their physical presence.
And yeah that did sound kind of rude. sorry.
115- they’re these really expensive boarding high schools – short for college preparatory. They’re good schools.
116- It came from somewhere? Where?
I hardly use my facebook, I find my myspace much useful.
I have about 100 friends on my myspace, and I’m good friends with about 75 of them. The others are just people from my school or things like celebrities or Product (red), etc.
I’ll be going to a prep school next, having been in public school my entire life.
I was so excited when I found you could get pizza delivered directly
to
your
room!!!!!!
:O
115- It’s a private high school, usually boarding.
118-The war of the worlds!!! The old one! Like, most people have probably never seen it, but anyway…
It says we can continue the conversation guide at the top of this thread, but we haven’t for 120 posts!!!
I feel quite distant from a lot of my friends. Most of my not really good friends at school, are quite … well, not immature, but I feel a lot older than them. Two of my best friends I feel quite protective of, because they need support, and they come to me with problems. My other friend … I still feel older than her, like I’ve seen more or something. I guess that because I’ve lived in five different countries and things like that, and she’s never really left the town, it kind of makes you grow up a bit quicker. If you’re different from most people around you, in a few different ways, and there’s no one that is really similar to you, you start going into yourself a bit more, and learn more about you. I think that if I had lived in the same town all of my life, I would be a really different person inside. I’m a bit older than I would be, almost. It feels really strange, and I can’t describe it. I guess that a lot of you guys have probably gone through the same sort of thing.
I went to a prep school for three years, it was very not fun, and horribly cliquish. But that was only my isolated experience. I’ve skipped schools so many times… People always say they’ll keep in touch, but they rarely do. u_u
96- Aww. Just think, that’s what books are for. Blissful isolation. ^_^
109- Exactly!
116- Righto.
121- I know what you’re talking about there… I think even quite a bit of reading can do that to you…Hmm. I’ve been to so many different schools that I’ve just remained distant from the majority of my peers.
Even some of my older friends seem horribly immature. For people in their twenties, they sure can act like pre-adolescents. Le sigh. It’s weird being the youngest person in a group, yet the oldest inside.
I’m sure the vast majority of you can relate to this.
It gets more noticeable as you get older. Or, at least, it did for me…
Mind you, I do indulge in being an idiot teenager at times, however, it’s rare and I need a great deal of sugar and/or motivation first xD
This thread is really kind of dead!
WOW. I have not been on here for ever. You guys remember me?
So Hawk- hold on, you’re homeschooled? I didn’t know that.
As for me, I have a few good friends. All girls. And then I have this one friend who’s a boy but we have very different personalitys, so…yeah. An he’s been kind of nasty to me lately in e-mails and stuff because I was being slightly annoying by e-mailing him every day and saying 50 MORE DAYS TILL HARRY POTTER with a ton of exclamation points. That was only slightly annoying right? right?
I’ll check back later.
124-Yup, homeschooled. I went to a montessori school through third grade, though…
HAWK
Like wow this thread is really slow!
Yeaaaaaaaah, ‘t is.
DEAD THREAD!!!
So anyway, only a couple of boys show up every now and then to my Quaker meeting during the summer…
Teh funny part is, I have been trying to be nice. It seems all of the girls here are saying the boys have not been friendly, but not where I live!
TEH LATEST AND GREATEST CONVERSATION GUIDE!!!!
1. Do not be too shy
2. Do not ignore people
3. DO talk to the person in question
4. DO keep trying
5. DO be nice even if you’re scared
That cover just about everything?
131- I do try to adhere to all of those things except 1 and 4. *shudder* I don’t keep trying. It goes against my nature. If they don’t want to be friends with me, then I don’t want to be friends with them. That is ingrained in me really deep, and I fear that it may affect the way I act. It sure helps to have lived with a good deal of isolation. I just don’t care anymore. If I don’t like the way someone is acting, I just leave. I think if I encountered someone really shy, I wouldn’t be able to become friends with them, because we’d just sit there looking at each other while trying not to look at each other, and kind of hoping inside that the other would say something.
I was talking about two very different things, my shyness and my pride, and all in one paragraph. It probably looks a bit contradictory.
109-I know! My friends who are just as random as me, I suggested Muse to them, and they’re like “Muse? You mean the thing with Hot Pink Bunnies and pie throwing? That’s gay.”
They seem surprisingly well informed about it. I’m impressed.
134-With me reading Muse and being with them at least twelve hours a week, they have to be! I even made my friend read the May/June issue. He said he hated it, but he laughed at the Koko&Company so I think he’s bluffing… then again, some people never admit anything.
Like my mother.132-What I meant by “keep trying” was more on not giving up on the other gender just because all of the examples you’ve come upon have been bad/mean. If someone isn’t an interesting person, or is mean, look for another person. I will say, however, shy people can be nice, and I have made friends by trying to be friends with shy people. That’s why I’m mad the girl I have mentioned before almost never comes to my meeting. She is VERY shy, and she comes so seldom and often stays in the young kid “sunday school” classes to avoid being around kids her own age I can’t tell if she is very shy or if there is just nothing in there. It’s really weird.
Well, enough about my problems… *Hufflesniffgurgle*
RtH
Two days of no posts?!?!?!?! That is INSANE!!!
Dude, quit overreacting! You overestimate how many people go here.
My best friend lives across the atlantic. The other is sitting on my lap and has huge ears and a tail.
139- Wow. My best friend is my mother.
140-Hey, why not?
Certainly more dependable than most kids nowadays…
I’m going to carry a Muse around the first few days at school.
138-Maybe not. Seven posts here compared to 36 on the r+r thread. And I only said something once.
I see a trend.
135- I hate that.
Random conversation thingy: Do not say that you hate someone because you actually adore them. For one, it’s obvious to all of your friends that you’re bluffing. For two, it’s stupid. For three, it accomplishes nothing. For four, it simply estranges said adored person. I have seen way too many people do this and then regret it.
133- If your friends were using the word “gay” to mean stupid, please tell them not to as the only definitions that I know of are “happy, joyous” and “pertaining to homosexuality”. Other than that, I don’t think my friends have heard of Muse.
I don’t really have a technical best friend. The one person I would say is my best friend lives about 20 minutes away by car. She doesn’t go to my school. Most of my friends are friends from school.
My best friend lives walking distance. We are pretty different, but I personally think it is more fun that way.
There are 146 posts on this and the r+r thread at this moment. I will have to post on r+r to keep the balance! Oh, never mind; they will post there soon enough!
I love my friends, they are so supportive, and they are honest, respectful, and I can tell them anything. I am so lucky to have friends like them, I hope we never lose touch! I have one friend in particular, who I have known since I was like three, who knows EVERYTHING about me, and who would NEVER tell a soul. We are like sisters, and I hope we will always be that way.
148- I hope for your sake that you aren’t really like sisters.
I have 3 really close friends, and one other good friend who is on the way to being a really close friend because we’ll be in the same school next year. One of them I’ve known since I was 2, at preschool, and we’re still friends now. But she’s going to a different school next year (ot moving- just going to a different school), and it’s depressing me bacuase I won’t see her as much any more. She’s going there by choice, I should add, which is different than being forced too.
149-what do you mean? You mean like getting in fights? We have before (and for her sake I will say it was my fault becuase of stupid hormones and such, and I was just in a horrible mood, and that I am forever sorry and will never be angry like that again) but we have grown out of that. yah we dont like get in fights like that or fuss over stuff like borrowing clother or anything (not that all sisters are like that) I just mean we feel like family to eachother and know eachothers personality and such like the back of our hand.
151- I and my sister have a very . . . precarious relationship. We fight. A lot. Not physical fights, or not on my part, but I dislike most of the stuff she does, and she enjoys irritating me, so . . .
I’ve fought with my friends, too. Not much, but a little. Mainly because I was being an immature brat, but once because we ate a chicken that had once belonged to the girl’s grandmother. (He was a mean chicken. My sister and I were scared to go outside.) There were probably a lot of fights when I was younger because my friend was horse-obsessed and I was Redwall-obsessed, and at that time in my life I was a “princess,” if not a spoiled one.
My friends are like brothers to me. We are all comrades. C++Darkmage and l founded the philosophy table group at the beggining of the school year. Our group is for those drifting outcasts out there, and we support and solve problems that individual people have with the “nobility” of popularity.
152- I dont mean physical fights if I didnt make that clear.
155- It was clear. But I wanted to make it clear.
151- I fight with my sister in many ways. Physically sometimes, but not as often now. It was more like wrestling anyway.
I dislike her especally when she goes into my room whenever she pleases (and I’m not there) and takes whatever she wants. Like my jewelery. Which dissapears every week or so, then I have to drag mom in there to make her watch me take it out of her jewelery box.
And she does not get the concept of “personal space” or “let the frickin’ subject go!”
153-redwall obsessed? ouch. i read all the books at the very least twice. which is like saying i wasted 5 weeks of my life. i loved those books, but i realised that i was reading the same story over and over again with different characters. although i loved their different accents.
sad story: my family just sold our house and now i am an hour or more away from all who i hold dear. *mumbles stuff about whacked parents*
yeah, sibling relationships are not the most ideal role models. i just love that archaich term in the bible about “brotherly love” heh heh heh.
158- Hey, Redwall’s cool, if a bit repetative.
Somebody is moving in next door, and has a 16-year-old daughter. I highly doubt she would be a Muser, because stuff like that doesn’t happen, right?
160- It is most unlikely, but she might be.
160- We are getting new neighbors this summer too, they just put the house on the market. I am kinda nervous becuase I dont want to have creepy or mean neighbors but I am also kind of excited. I mean what if some really cool girl I could make friends with moves in and starts at my school and is on my team or something? Or what if a guy my age moves in that is actually nice? *daydreams*
162-yeah, the every kids dream.
160-probably not
We got two new neighbour units. Neither of which/whom are very interesting.
When we moved to where we live currently, there were two girls living next door who happened to be four and seven, the very ages of my sister and I. They were the only kid-neighbors I’ve ever had.
I’m hoping that there will be some kids my age in the neighborhood to which I will be moving presently (this August). Every neighborhood needs kids, right?
I find that there are very few people my age. There are tons of kids younger than me, but very few my age. Luckily for me, I no longer care about age. As long as a kid is nice, and mature, they can be 4 years younger than me and I don’t care. Or four years older.
My other neighbors are really nice. They have chickens, they are so cute!!! But they are three guys, one a year older than me, one I think 3 yrs older than me, and one whos like out of collage. But according to my year older friends they are wierd, which I can understand considering I saw them fighting with light sabers in their yard with star wars music on.
167- That sounds like so much fun…or maybe it’s that I’m very attracted to nerds.
My friend might not be able to come to Martha’s Vineyard with me, cus her family’s pretty broke right now. Which really sucks.
167- FUN! Ask if you can join the battle! Ask in Elizabethan, that’ll really confuse ’em!
169- Good idea!!!! I dont know if they do it anymore though, becuase the last time they did I walked outside to walk my dog or something and they saw me and immediately turned the music off. Plus my parents would act like I am a lovesick puppy dog if I even think about just talking to a guy as a friend. ARG!
I think this conversation has strayed from Just Friends.
171-It would appear so. Oh, the randomness!
167-me loves de star wars!
167- That sounds like fun to me.
Aw, to bad. If they do it again and turn it off start singing the tune
I bet they’d be surprised.
167-Haha, spiffeh. Though I am more of a Trekkie…
And what Jadestone said about singing the tune.
The conversation has now strayed from existence
Maybe we should get back on topic, sorry about that…….I havnt gotten to see all my friends this summer. I havnt see my dancer friend who takes at a different studio, I need to call her. Its nice to have a friend in my grade who actually understands me when I talk in ballet language.
I’ve only seen one of my friends twice this summer.
Incedentally, we have… 47 days left of summer or something. 3 days ago we were halfway though -1 day.
I have been to so many sleepovers I look like I have two black eyes (although not THAT dark) but part of it is I just have really pale skin, but still I hate having to put gunk on it to cover it up. Its aweful. That isnt exactly on subject. I am going to another sleepover tonight with my friends who like to stay up until dawn, DAWN, how do they do it? My limit is two in the morning. And then on Wednesday they are coming to sleepover at my house, and hopefully they wont get locked out of my room again when I am sleeping (they eventually got back in, but they were totally freaked out, my house is really old, and my mom has creepy masks hanging in the hallway that she likes to collect).
Last year at my birthday party we stayed up till… 6? Then we went to sleep untill 9:30 or something. It was fun watching the sun come up again though
I really don’t like sleepovers. Or camping, which is like a sleepover, only out in the woods somewhere and usually without fun things like teh internets.
Seriously, the last time I slept over anywhere was… the summer after 9th grade. That group of friends and I had quite a few sleepovers, in which we would remain awake until about 3 or 4 in the morning, and then sleep until six thirty or seven. Not very healthy. My sleep pattern has now been utterly disrupted by the HP7 midnight release.
I dunno, what does everyone even do at sleepovers? We just watched movies, played games, and talked.
181- Yup. Well, at mine we start earlier in the day, around 3ish and go swimming in our lake. Then we talk and do photo shoots and watch monty python while saying the lines with them and stuffins. Then we discuss trying to sneak out and go swimming in the middle of the night, but we’re expressly forbidden to do that because it’s “unsafe.” Psh.
Oh, and then some of my friends get a bit obsesive about truth or dare/truth or truth (because I always picked dare. And aparently there were some truths they ‘needed‘ to ask me. Meh). So we play that for a few of the wee hours of morn.
And of course we yell at Feather for talking really loudlt and screaming, but we sleep in the basement (it’s finished, got a tv, pool table, bed/couch, walk-out) so my parents don’t notice.
And that’s pretty much it. Sometimes we lament about summer/school depending on when it is. Or tear D away from her rubiks cube so she’ll talk to us.
She’s down to way under aminute though.
At my most memorable sleepover, we drew for a long time, and started writing a book, and then decided to wander around the house because it might be a good setting for the book, although why we thought that when we couldn’t find one even in town I haven’t the slightest idea. Maybe we just wanted an excuse to carry candles around. So we wandered around in our old-fashioned nightgowns, holding candle holders and staring at the stuffed animal-heads hanging on the walls, and then E made some tea and we sat in the kitchen and talked and drank tea while everyone else was asleep. Then we ate ice cream cones and went back up to E’s room where we read until we fell asleep. And that sums it up. In the more recent sleepovers we mostly played games and made small things out of fabric and occasionally watched TV. And we came up with long, complicated projects that we then forgot about. That kind of thing.
I have having yet another sleepover with the same friends on Monday, its fun and all but I really need to contact some of my other friends before they think I have been eaten by an Iguana on my trip to Mexico………….
182-ahhh….the wonder of rubiks. my cousin has to hide his when i come over or else he won’t see me for a half hour. under a minute is hugely ubercool. i only go down to 1 minute and 40 secs. and then on friday i broke my arm. i tried doing it one handed, but it proved to be way too long.
183-okay? i slept over my friends house in february. we stayed out ’till ten playing airsoft, froze our hands off and half killed each other, came in and watched a movie, ate food, and went to sleep at 1:30. in the morning we walked to his friens house and played outside all day in 12 degree weather. strange, nu? and the next day i went to florida. best of both worlds…the hot, and the cold. and when i came back, i went on a winter retreat w/ my cousin and his youth group. lotsa snow. looking back, i find it no wonder i got the flu.
AH! Curse my evil sleeping schedule thing now!!! I cant go to bed early anymore without boring myself to death with insomnia, and I cant get up before ten!!! I miss the morning!!!!!!!! Its becuase of all the sleepovers, and the midnight Harry Potter release. ARG!
Oh, at the last one we all dressed up in Feather’s gothic cloths and made ourselves look goth. And took pictures. ‘Twas fun.
I’m having a sleepover from the 31st to the 1st, actually. It should turn out well.
!!!!!!!~NOTICE FROM RtH~!!!!!!!!
I will be staying with my grandmother from tonight, till late Saturday, but may not even be on the blog till early Sunday. Please hold anything that involves me, or things that I need to agree to, until I return and can help/decide about.
I am sorry I have to leave you, but I shall miss you all…
Blog safely,
RtH
have fun
Man. I have not heard from my dancer friend at all. And we even have eachothers emial, and she is back from camp. What is going on? Maybe my emial is screwy, it does that sometimes. I played wii at my other friends house on Friday. It was fun other than the fact that her little brother was criticizing us at the top of his lungs the whole time.
Had my sleepover. ‘Twas fun, but one of my friends couldn’t come. *grinds teeth* I’ve seen her once this summer. Once.
thats too bad
One of my friends couldnt come either, and I have only seen her once, but her sister was mad at her for some reason, so her parents made her stay. Weird huh?
193- Hmm. If my sister were mad at me, I’d want to get out of the house as fast as possible.
194-Well she did too, but her parents like…favor her sister or something, becuase they wouldnt let her go to the sleepover since they got in a fight.
195-That’s not nice…
Have any of you heard of boys having sleepovers? I mean, I guess they can do it, but it’s a little odd, no?
196- No. They have LAN parties. Or the ones I know anyway… heh.
196- I know its not nice, its aweful. Like once, she said she and her sister each got 100 dollars from their grandparents for christmas or something, and that she had spent fourty. She went to her room to get her last sixty or something of the sort, and it was gone. She is pretty sure her sister took it, and she told her parents, but they wont believe her. I feel so bad, and lucky.
I don’t think my parents would keep either of us from attending a sleepover because we got in a fight.
196- What’s odd? I do it probably too much, I sleep at Mili’s house or he comes to mine most weekends at lease once during the school year. I had a two day one with Mason that was planned as one day. We stayed up late, too. It was fun…
197- And those are?
196-yes…yes my bro
i have about 5/6ish close friends but i have one (mlee) who is the absolute closest. she knows everything about me. she is the one i call when my family goes crazy….. this one time my brother kept insulting my moms cooking and she burst into tears and left the house saying she wasnt sure when she was coming back if at all, my brother wouldnt admit it was his fault. so i cleaned up the kitchen and washed all the dishes and stuff. i cried a lot. and then i called mlee because i felt so alone. and she made me feel a lot beter. it would probably be awkward if i had called any of my other friends in tears…..
i have this one friend who doesnt eat right. her goal in life is to be thnner than her mom. and her momdoesnt eat…..
201- That sounds aweful. I have a friend like that too, that I have know practically my whole life. She always makes me feel better. I am sure if I called other friends they would be nice, but you’re right, it would be awkword.
197- Land Area Network. Everyone brings a computer and they game all night.
Sadly, this sounds sort of fun to me. But your eyes’d fel horrible.
201- God, that’s horrible. I have a friend I’ve known since we were 4, and sh’e not going to our school this year, and I wont see her at all almost because of my schedua;. Durring schoool, that’s really the only place I see my friends.
203- That stinks. Luckily, I have always had at least one friend in each class. But yah, I usually only see my school friends at school during the year also.
I am afraid that there will only be snotty preppy people in my p.e. class who will laugh at me since I am not at all athletic (except for dance). Sports are not my thing, and I have a different p.e. teacher than I have always had, so it kinda freaks me out, becuase I dont know if he will get mad at me for not being coordinated.
204- Don’t worry, people don’t really laugh at you in PE anymore since most people aren’t good in it. And the PE teacher shouldn’t get mad, it’s not a contest and not everyone’s good at that sort of stuff.
205-No offense, but you obviously have never been to my school. Pretty much everyone is a really good althete except me (and not to be rude, but my friends arent that great either, they admit it). And actually there are a few teachers at our school who get mad at you if you stink at what you are doing. I hate it, but hopefully that wont be the case for me, and thanks for making me feel a little better.
Things seem to have slowed down a bit. Hmmm…
Shall we continue the conversation guide?
207- What about it?
I find it really easy to talk to people if I’m “in my element,” that is, doing something interesting.
I tend to be very quiet around people unless I know them rather well, in which case I’m occasionally too loud. That’s never good. Alas.
I’m an introvert, unless I decde not to be. That doesn’t happen as much, though. Drama club.
At school anyone who isnt my friend thinks I am the quietest girl in the school. If someone says something to me I will talk to them (otherwise its just rude) but its not like I am really talkative in the classroom. For one thing, the teachers have gotten scarier and stricter every year, so I dont want to get in trouble. But as soon as I get in the hall I start talking alot, and I get all freaked out about homework, and I have occasional fits of laughter that scares my friends. But anyway, my point is I am not really a quiet person, except in classrooms when are supposed to be quiet.
I was homeschooled up until 5th grade, and I’ve always been really quiet. The only times I’m not are if I’m with one of my two extremely close friends, or both. However, at school… I can’t stand how quiet I am. In 5th grade I was teased by someone, which was awful. Now I’m in 7th, and I’m a little more outgoing with one girl, but that’s it. What I can’t stand is if someone says “Why don’t you talk?” or if I answer a question – answer! – someone says “Oh my gosh, she’s talking! I didn’t know she talked!” At times I’ll be last into the classroom and everyone I know will be sitting at one side of the room, with no room for me, so I have to sit on the other side. No one moves to sit with me. I can’t explain… It’s really, really hard for me to explain how quiet I am at school unless you go there with me, and know what I’m like at school. And sometimes I just want to do something to prove to them that I’m not who they think I am; that I’m not some silent girl who sits in her desk and does her work and reads. I can’t stand it. I have, as I said, been talking more to one girl, which makes me feel so much better even though it’s just a small change, but sometimes she’ll just say “Say something!” and I won’t. I don’t like it if someone puts me on the spot like that. I’d rather they bring up something to talk about and just let me join in. Although I usually don’t.. And I don’t like it when people speak for me.
A big thing is that music is one of the hugest parts of my life, and practically no one else likes the same type of music that I do, let alone as much as I do. Most of the time, they might say they like Jesse McCarteny (I know I spelled his name wrong) or High School Musical or whatever, and honestly…I can’t stand them. And… I don’t know.. But mostly I loathe being as quiet as I am, and the way people see me. It’s awful.
212-Oh, I am so sorry you feel that way. I was like that for a long time until I met this guy. He really sees who you are inside, that is all he sees, and you can tell. He totally made me get more confident. But you should talk to your mom or dad or friend, and they can help you be more outgoing. And I know everyone says this, but now it really helps me, becuase I really try to take it heart, and maybe it will help. The people who tease you and try to make you feel bad want you to feel like they are controlling what you do at school, they want you be upset, but they dont control you. Chances are you will never see them again in your life when you become an adult, and they mean absolutely nothing to what you want to do when you grow up, they dont affect your dreams, what you love, what you really want to do. Sometimes I feel like they discourage me, and they make me feel sad, but deep deep down, I know that I can never stop loving what I do, what I love, what my personality is. Overall, they dont mean a thing, except, (as queen latifa says in hairspray), they are just a foot in a door, and you have to get there one toe at a time. So even if it takes awhile for you to be more outgoing and talkative, in the end it is worth it. We only get one life, one August 21 2007, one May 11 2000, etc. If we totally ignore those rude people out their who think they are so great, we are going to have a heck of a better time then them. If they just want to make fun of people and ignore people because they are different, even if its not what they are like, to be ‘cool’, it is their problem, and they are going to regret it. It takes a long time to sink in, and maybe its just what I think, but it totally helped me.
Now I feel like watching a touching movie.
Maybe that wasnt the right advice, I was kinda more on the lines of something else, but I hope it helps.
212-Sounds like you just aren’t around enough interesting people to bother talking. And they are rude when you don’t talk. Not a fun combination, but I wouldn’t worry about them. I know I don’t have anything to say around boring droidbots, and you are probably in a similar situation.
Dancergirl is right.
My condolences…
RtH of the Avoiding Droidbots
I made up a whole essay on Icebreakers, and then I forgot it. That’s okay, though, it wasn’t exactly meant to be helpful.
212 – Yeah.. Thanks a lot. You’re right.
215 – Okay.
Thank you.
so guys, i think josh is mad at me for some reason…we used to talk all the time and now he doesn’t talk unless i talk to him, and then you can tell he’s not really interested in talking to me. which would be fine i guess, but he’s hanging out with monica and jacob a lot and excluding everybody else from their little group. other people that are friends of monica and jacob have complained about this too. example today, jacob and i walked home together, and he talked about maybe having dinner. i said “maybe, maybe not, i’m not sure”. just then josh called and invited jacob to a “study session” (what we have to study yet, i don’t know, but whatev). jacob invited me along but i said no because i had hw and was tired and didn’t really want to go be all awkward. so he said he’d call me about dinner. turns out i wouldn’t have gone to dinner anyway, but he didn’t call me. my mom was picking up penn station for us, and she said she saw jacob there, and said “i think he saw me because he looked kind of embarrassed for some reason”. i don’t know anything, but i’m betting it was josh who didn’t want to have me there and told jacob not to call (i know that’s just an assumption, and i should probably wait and see, but monica and jacob and i are pretty good friends and i don’t think she’d have any objection to calling me). so i don’t know what’s going on except that josh is being really possessive and for some reason doesn’t want to talk to me. i don’t mind much about josh, we were never like really good friends, but i hate how he’s trying to monopolize jacob and monica. monica used to be the one that everybody hung out with all the time, and now we hardly ever see her. and we can’t just go talk to josh about it because he’ll just deny it. i think jacob’s getting tired of it too though, and i’m hoping those three will just resolve it but i’d kind of like to know what josh is mad at me for. i know he and dan basically hate each other now, and all dan knows is that josh just suddenly stopped talking to him, so i hope that doesn’t happen to me.
anyway…long depressing rant…it’ll probably blow over soon. i’m just PMSy and that combined with people being things that are not appropriate to specify in front of smaller children is just a rant in the making.
Ok I have just decided I should keep my mouth shut, I make no senseand ramble way too much. No wonder people think Im weird.
Ok maybe I was just in a bad mood when I posted lst, sorry. *sigh* I need to not do that.
aww, but rambling is fun! the trick is to hang out with other weird people who won’t be able to call you weird
this happens to me basically every day
somebody: you’re so weird…
me: look who’s talking
somebody: touche
My friends are like that too, I just mean like, I dunno. My post was kinda weird.
212-I know exactly what you’re like. There’s a girl in my math class named Irene and she hardly ever talks because she’s always reading. She only laughed once, and that was when she was partners with me and one of my other best friends. Everyone always makes fun of her, especially when she wears these really wack costumes, but I think they’re kind of funny. She should probably be as outgoing as her costumes.
I just feel so sorry for her, most of the time when we pick partners, I pick her just because. *kind of depressed but not really*
What I’m kinda afraid of is meeting my friend’s other friends. Sometimes they’re nice and like me, and we can all hang out together, and sometimes they’re all like “OMG YOU’RE FRIENDS WITH HIM” and I get kinda mad and we start competing for the attention of our common friends. Like today, I’m going to meet my friend’s friend Ena and we’re going swimming. *hopes she’s nice*
223- That’s good of you to be nice to her. It’s hard to having my best friends in class for me, because then I usually don’t talk and read instead to. Picking partners when they’re not there is horrid.
There is a girl at my school who doesnt get a lot of nice clothes becuase she doesnt have a lot of money, and her hair isnt the best and stuff, and people make fun of her…its horrid. I hate it. She isnt in my class though, so hopefully people are being nice, becuase I have all the snotty people on my team.
Bleh. I just realized that I’ve seen 3 different friends this summer. First I went to lunch with Kylie and Rosalie, and I also saw my boyfriend later. I also rode halfway across town on my bike to see Kylie and Rosalie. So I’ve been “out” 3 times this summer.
I’ve also played board games with this 4th grader on my street because I had nothing better to do and he’s actually able to have an intelligent conversation with me. I lost most of the time, but this kid is crazy smart. I’m going into 9th grade with all advanced classes and this kid is in 4th grade and keeps up with what I’m talking about. He gives me hope for the future of our country.
211- yeah, i don’t like the kids who talk in class so nothing gets done. this guy at my school kept trying to get me to swear. i don’t swear all the time just occasionaly, but he seemed to think i never swore and it was realy anoying.
summer is my down time. i don’t do much. i wasn’t sure where to post this so i’ll post it here.
the other day i was trying to find something to wear. when i looked in my drawer i realized there was nothing i actualy wanted to wear. a couple of years ago i started wearing realy bagy t-shirts because my body was changing and i felt self conciouse. I’ve been wearing the same clothes from grade 6 because i hate shoping. my t-shirts aren’t quite as big but still prety big. people would mistake me for a boy all the time. it doesn’t bother me too much but it’s kind of depressing when you think about it. i just looked in my drawer and closed it. i like wearing boy shorts but you know, enough is enough. i’m not 10 anymore. sometimes i kinda want to look pretty. haveing people bet over wheather i’m a girl or a boy is pathetic. so i told my mom to take me shopping. i now own 6 new shirts that i like and got rid of a lot of stuff i don’t want to ever wear again. i feel better than i did when i wore baggy shirts. I used to think i was totaly ugly. it’s not like i think i’m the most beuatiful person now but i feel better about my image.
does anyone else have a friend who speaks to them in a condescending tone w/o realizing it? because mine does and it’s quite annoying!
223- cool! she sounds nice and it’s nice of you to befriend her!
On that subject, my friends and I are befriending all of the shy/lonely looking exchange students.
so, i have this problem. There’s this competition at school that’s called the brain bowl and last year my team consisting of girl 1, girl 2, girl 3, boy 1, and me won our school. They were all my friends. At the time boy 1 was going out with girl 1. Then he dumped her and later went out with girl 3. All this time I liked him and he knew it. He was also a bit of a jerk to girl 2 sometimes. So, there were bad feelings all around. Now, we’re all just getting over these issues when low and behold an issue about our team comes up. boy 1 decides he wants another guy on the team but we can only have 5 people on the team! what do we do?
I’m weirded out. These are these girls in Spanish and P.E. who keep being all friendly to me, like, “Go Alice!” and “You’re awesome!” and I( don’t trust them. At first I thought it was because I wouldn’t trade seats in the middle of Spanish class and this was their way of revenge, but now I’m not so sure . . . *looks uneasy* It’s too weird. I knew on of them about five years ago, but not anymore . . . Eep.
230- all my experiences with that sort of thing were sarcasm. They just might be feeling bad or something, and felt like teasing someone they felt was inferior.
231- Yeah. Like I said, I don’t trust them.
229- Kick him out for being mean like that.
I made a friend! Which is kinda spiffy for me because I usually weird people out on the off-chance I’m social.
Ok, its time for me to ramble and look for advice again. Here it goes,
Ok, I have this friend, and we have been good friends since last year, but over the summer me and my other friend have notices that she has gotten kind of immature about handling situations. For instance, me and my other friend who have noticed take our math to lunch every day to compare our answers and check what we did wrong on the ones that are different before we have math next period, and a couple days ago my math buddy (I will call the friend who noticed that) moved over to sit by me so we could see. Upset friend (the one who has gotten wierd) got really mad that she didnt sit by her and wouldnt look at her and acted all wierd and wrote her a note saying “I dont think we are best friends anymore so dont bother talking to me”. We were both like, omg, thats stupid. And later upset friend even said she was being wierd, but she does that alot, and she is the one who gets mad at me when I talk about stuff that I believe in only a tiny bit, and cant comprehend why people want to recycle and save water. She is like totally clear about this and I dont know what to do. She is getting on my nerves, adn if I tell her I am afraid she will be immature about it. HELP!
If you don’t feel like you really want to be her friend, then just sort of drift away. Don’t sit next to her if you don’t have to, be rather vague, and spend your time paying attention to what the teacher is saying. Or something like that. When I wasn’t feeling comfortable around Ce anymore, that’s what I did. However, that may have been a different situation since we had just met.
227-I actually swear a lot, but not when people are listening, that’s kinda rude, even if I belive that there’s no such thing as a swear word, that’s just stupid anyway. Stupid was a swear in second grade or something, so… anyway….
But once in class I accidently cut something wrong, and said damn, and the jerk next to me (who is well known for being a jerk, I’ve mentioned him before on Hot Topics, I think) was like “OMG, Beavo, did you just say a bad word? Congratz? I thought nerds like you didn’t curse!” And I was like “Evan, I’ve sworn before you knew what **** even WAS, so shut your face” and he got all pissed.
234-Sorry, can’t help you, but that sounds totally wacked out. You SURE she isn’t kidding?
233- lol actually everything got messed up. All of my friends from the one school are now going to b going on a team 2gether and that leaves me, my best friend, and pain in the neck guy together with another very weird/pain in the neck guy friend (I actually have a total of three of those, but the last one is on the other team now, and is the guy I like, ug)
The report: quiet boy was quiet. Quiet girl was social. Astonishing!
wow, i haven’t been on here for a long time. hi y’all!
235, i don’t think thats a good idea. it’ll make you just as low as her. one word…CONFRONTATION!!!! yipee! and if that dosen’t work, shoot her….j/k.
227-good for you. there’s this one girl who wears baggy shirts at my school, and it just makes her look, well, homeschooled. it’s like, act like a lady, and you’ll be treated like a lady, act like a young girl, and you’ll be thought of as a kid. but she is very smart…i get homeschooler vibes. (oh, and if you’re homeschooled, don’t be offended, cause i was homeschooled all my life, so its not just idle speculation)
i am not a recluse. i am vrey friendly and i have made many aquaintances already. with lots of different kids also…gangsta kids, nerd kids, smart and nice kids, weird kids…its pretty interesting. me likes public school.
239- I’d like to say I’m not a recluse, but I can’t actually start a conversation without shriveling up into dust, so that wouldn’t be technically true.
I’ve realized that icebreakers, which I’ve always hated, are actually really good for me, because it makes it easy to learn someone’s name, and from there it’s just a short hop to actually knowing them.
236- what a mean little butt. i don’t swear out loud often. mostly I swear in my head (actually almost all of my thoughts have swearing in there somewhere) but if i’m in a lot of pain I will swear, but just mouthing it.
240- how I got to know people at highschool was by going: “hey, you’re in my _______ class, sorry I’ve forgoten your name, but it’s cool we’re in the same classes.”
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my friend is hurting herself and I don’t know what to do.
242-
Me neither. How, exactly is she hurting herself? I don’t want to know, actually.
242- My health book says, “Seek help from a trusted adult.”
243- cutting herself. but I think I have her undercontrol. the story is this: she got completely used by a guy. and completely messed up this other guy because of the guy who used her. and her friends are kinda drifting and she feels like it’s her fault. nut I’m talking to her. I help her think clearer, i think. we’re talking about it. because talking helps. i thik she’s going to be okay. i’m just afraid, because she said she was going to kill herself but stopped.
244- does it say anything about depression and memory loss?
245- Whoa. That’s like a scene from a movie we were forced to watch in health class.
244- Um…probably. I can’t remember that bit, though. Their advice on all problems is “Seek help from a trusted adult.”
248- gee thats helpful….
249- Not really. I should remember what else it said, but I can’t. Talk it over with your friend, I think, tell anyone when they start mentioning suicide, um…
Oh dear, this doesn’t sound good. I’m glad and sorry to say I haven’t had to deal with something like that, so I am of no use.
Quiet boy was relatively quiet. Quiet girl wasn’t there. Everyone else was usualish.
Pies!
Red-tailed HAWK
CONVERSATION GUIDE
1-Few people will spew fire from their mouth if you try to talk to them.
2-Hardly anyone will criticize you for what you say.
3-Nobody will be sorry yout tried to start a conversation unless they are not the kind of person you want to be talking to anyway.
THIS CONCLUDES THE CONVERSATION GUIDE THANKEYOUFORYOURTIME.
Red-tailed HAWK
252- It needs to be longer. Plus, I personally would have no trouble starting conversations if I knew what to say. So that should be covered.
in case anyone’s wondering, my friend is doing a lot better. As in WAAAAY better. she is pretty happy. so i’m happy.
ummmmm…ooookkkk….*backs away slowly*
All rightie… *looks around nervously*
253-T’iz pretty pathetic, isn’t it? I was getting desperate. And it did draw people!
254-thats good. i have had no personal experience with those types of situations. one peice of advice, don’t let her read Edgar allen poe…she might get ideas. instead of discussing her problems with her, try to go over every good memory she has. going over past fun experiences might help her to see that in the future there will always be a chance for more fun. in other words, don’t let her despair.
RtH-wow. that is great advice. try making it a bit more complicated next time. like…hmmm. this is harder than it sounds.
okay! here you go: when talking with someone you like do not, i repeat DO NOT, keep the conversation focused on yourself. pass the ball to them. ask them interesting questions about themselves. that way, they feel free talking about themselves and eventually they will ask you questions and then…everyones happy!
okay, my advice was just as lame as Rth’s. *sigh*
258-that doesn’t always work though…believe it or not, i tend to listen more irl and not talk about myself so much, and the conversations end up with a lot of awkward pauses. it kind of depends on the other person, if they’re quiet and shy, talk about whatever, don’t put them on the spot, but if they like to talk, go ahead and listen.
Hm. Ok I need some advice, and sorry if I could be giving some now, the thread has gotten so much longer…………….
Here it goes:
My friend has been really immature lately about our friend moving to sit by me once in a while, and about every little thing. When I try to talk to her she just makes excuses, and acts even more immature, and she rolls her eyes when I talk about things that are very important to me, and ALWAYS acts like every little thing that is different about someone else is bad. What do I do?! She is getting on my nerves!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on starting conversations: always ask people about themselfs. everyone loooves to talk about them selves.
260- hmmm…. she sounds like she’s having some problems…. I think you should try to discretly avoid her, or do the exact same thing back to her. eventualy she’ll ask “why are you doing this.” then you can say “it’s the way you’ve been treating me” or something.
MAD. MAD. MAD. I’M MAD.
Stupid spam. *deletes*
How did they find my e-mail? I don’t even SEND chain mails.
Hate mail sucks. Apperently I’m “a gay fag, stupid [word word word] and should stuff my head down a [word word word]”
And they used to by my FRIENDS *smolders*
Wow, this thread has gotten a bit longer!
260-Interesting. I’ve never encountered something like that. Hmmm…Everything I think of to say won’t work…Follow the Cook’s advice..
I should be able to see The Quiet Ones on the 13th. Most of them, if they are interested in anything, don’t seem to want to show it, but a few have been showing signs of improvement…
Red-tailed HAWK
I am antisocial. Help me.
265-you are beyond help. j/k! alice, pretend you are on MB. if you see someone, act like they just came on the blog. be helpful, friendly and nice, and before you know it, you’ll have tons of friends. you act normal on MB, so just act like that in three dimensional space!(i know, i know, its hard. but you gotta break out sometime)
266- Ah. Thank you. I will have to keep some pies on hand. J/k. Thanks, though.
267-try the crayon idea! (you were on Musers Reccomended, right?) just give’em a crayon if you like them. they’ll probably think its wierd, but they will like it. and its much cleaner than a pie. trust me.
268- Okay, crayons. I’ll have to buy some…someday…
263- where do they live? can i beat them up? i’m kidding about that but really, i’m very sympathetic to you. *hugs and passes choklit* they are mean bums…. *crys*
265- w00t me too! actualy i have this “circle” of friends. it’s very small and without them i mostly keep my head down and avoid making eye contact with other people.
meh. everyone at school thinks i’m a smart freak and it’s starting to anoy me. i don’t even know where they got the idea. i think we, MBers, all know i’m not particularly smart. i don’t even get good grades. I swear i almost failed science last year. WHY DO THEY THINK I”M SOME SMART GEEK/FREAK?????????? *sobs*
263- arggggghhhh I hate that they used gay with a bad connotation. IT ISN’T BAD TO BE GAY PEOPLE! IT JUST IS!!! And I hate that they send you hate mail. *hugs and chocolate*
Well, this looks like a good place to rant about all the drama in my life. And it appears the thread isn’t completely dead, so someone may actually read it.
One of my friends from back when I came here (the girl with an eating disorder, if anyone remembers me talking about her) has completely stopped talking to me. We never see each other, and I haven’t communicated with her in any way, shape, or form in six months. She also seems to have completely forgotten that I was once one of her closest friends and that she was always confiding stuff in me. I have no idea if she still has the eating disorder, but I do know that she’s a pathological liar. I don’t mean that to say that she’s lied about me, because she didn’t. But she told me and another girl all about what this boy did to her, how he harrassed her and made her feel like crap and pushed her around all the time. She told us about this for over a year. It turns out she made the whole thing up. Strangely, I think she actually believed the stories she told us. The girl has a lot of problems.
My best friend from that era is no longer my friend. At all. I told her I didn’t want to be friends anymore. Before you think I’m being extremely cruel, you have to understand that you didn’t know this girl. All we ever did was talk about what was wrong in our lives, and what was wrong with the people we knew. Not a healthy friendship. Both of us were screwed up and annoying, but we were screwed up in annoying in different ways, so we ended up bring out the worst in each other. Anyway, my friend didn’t understand. She told me that I was the first person she ever hated, and that I was probably possessed. Well, later she sent me an email and said that she was fine with the way things were, but she just didn’t understand some things. I tried to explain it to her, but since then she hasn’t said a word to me. And I think she hates me. It’s sad, because we used to have such good times.
My best friend from church likes my brother. She’s liked him for over a year, and he likes her. But my parents told them they couldn’t date until Abbey was 19 (she’s 17 now). It’s kind of complicated as to why, but my parents have always believed in not dating until you reach the age when you should be looking for a spouse. Blake is a few years older than Abbey, so he’s the right age, but they think she’s too young. It’s really not as dumb as it looks there. This is something my parents have always believed, and they really think it’s the right way. Anyway, Blake is going to college five hours away, and now all Abbey can talk about is him. But that’s fine, because there’s a real possibility she could become my sister.
This is related to the whole gay/lesbian thing. I went to Europe this summer with a group of high schoolers. From the beginning, I was kind of in this group of three other girls and a couple of guys. We hung out all the time, sat next to each other on the bus, always sat at the same table, etc. Me and one of the other girls had similar personalities, so we got to be pretty good friends right off the bat. About halfway through the trip, she started completely ignoring me. She would never talk to me except to insult me. She never sat with me, and seemed upset if I came anywhere near her. A lot of other people were always joking with her about something, using code words and whatever. More and more people started ignoring me or hating me. I found out at the end of the trip that this girl who was my friend at first thought I had a crush on her. For no reason, other than that I talked to her a lot and “followed her around” (I followed the group around, not her. Under that logic about six people were following her around). She told the whole group of kids that I was a lesbian and had a crush on her. While this was completely untrue and unfounded, everyone believed her. What’s more, they all thought it was grounds to be mean to me and avoid me. Apparently lesbians are scary and nasty and stupid and we can all hate them. It was rather appalling, especially since so many of them called themselves Christians. High school.
270- It’s probably because you try in lessons. At my school, and I assume at some other schools, if anyone tries in class, or doesn’t mess around a lot, they call them a beaner. (Yes, I realise that being compared to a bean isn’t the worst insult you can get, but at my school it’s quite a big insult) I’ve gone further than that stage, by not having a TV and doing rather well in school (Not to brag or anything, just so you understand the situation), so I don’t get that very much. But I can see them sitting there, trying to think of a new insult, and realising that “Carrot” probably won’t do.
272- Aww.. *Pies*
Isn’t it nice how on MuseBlog, pies solve everything?
272- what aweful people. at least you have your priorities right
Good night GAPAs! I’m still posting since I might not be able to come on tomorrow. But thanks for letting us know!
Two friends came to today’s event. Boy: Still quiet. He doesn’t avoid me, in fact we are good friends, but he doesn’t talk a lot.
Girl: Not as quiet. She seems like she could be a very interesting person, but there never seems to be a chance to talk to her. There’s never a chance to not know how to start a conversation, as she seems to try to avoid situations where conversation could result. What would be the best way to try to start a conversation, including the factor of getting close enough that she could here what I was saying? She talks some to the other girls, but none of the other boys have made any efforts to get to know her, either for being too shy or not caring.
The boy will definitely be there tomorrow, I don’t know about the girl. That’s another thing, she rarely comes, slowing the whole process down.
I may try to check in tomorrow in case she does come, so if you have something helpful to say, that would be appreciated…
The Frustrated HAWK
Okay, I’m about to go. Hopefully they will both be there…
The Nervous HAWK
!!!!!!!!~~~~~********BREAKING NEWS*******~~~~~~~!!!!!!!
w00t! They were both there. Boy: slightly better. I think he is going to take a while to ever warm up. Girl: Improved. Talking quite a bit, and not seeming to hide anymore.
I feel oddly woozy. *falls down* I wonder what this is…
Red-tailed HAWK
Ebeth is getting invited to crash parties by people she doesn’t know very well. Is this being popular? She finds it a rather new experience.
278-O_kay. Invited to crash a party? Sounds odd.
Happy HAWK
well, the specific one i’m thinking of happens at a lutheran church from after the football game-midnight. i crashed it once w/danny+co, and now people are like “are you coming to the next one?” but i’m just getting invited to stuff in general. it feels kind of like crashing since i only semi-know the people…
Heheh, the benefit of having this thread move so slowly is you can watch things develop. I knew I wouldn’t see quiet girl over the summer, but I thought she would be the same when she came back. But no! I don’t know what’s up with the change, or why she is coming more, but it looks like a promising friendship!
w00t!
Red-tailed HAWK
I don’t know if this should go in this or R&R, but two good friends of mine started going out maybe middle of last year. Now, they don’t really even talk to or about each other. Being a good friend of both, what should I do?
282-You don’t think it possible to keep both friends nicely? Hmm..
Whoa, every other post is mine!
Red-tailed HAWK
283- I do think it’s possible. What I meant was, should I just act like it never happened and hang out with both seperately (as opposed to us all hanging out together)?
282-slap them both in the face and tell them to get over it? you can tell i’m not the most helpful in situations like this, but that’s generally along the lines of what i do. but yeah, i guess if they really can’t stand each other/if you want to have fun and not be extremely awkward you could just hang out with them seperately (or in a big group so they don’t have to talk to each other)
285-I might say something like that, without the slapping part…and maybe say it a little better, and such like etc. lala anyway.
I will probably see everyone on the 21st, but definitely on the 28th. On the 27th is the halloween party. Some will be there.
THIS CONCLUDES THIS REPORT.
Red-tailed HAWK
Yay! My friend is going to quit smoking today…
That is, an adult neighbor. We share the interests of birds, gardening, and cake consumption (and other confections).
Tomorrow most of them should be there. We will be sorting through all of the old halloween junk for the haunted house. That’s different than normal first day school class, because you are constantly talking about random things.
Red-tailed HAWK
Yay! Everything’s normal. At last night’s dance, my two friends decided to get back together. All is well for now.
COME TO THIS THREAD TO GIVE ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!
Well, that didn’t go as planned. In fact, the entire class of four was composed entirely of boys. So much for the opportunity to get to know her better. I got to know the three boys better though.
I know she won’t be there next saturday, the day of the halloween party. She will very likely be there that Sunday, but the outdoor event only requires so many people, and so I may be doing another thing outside but at a different location, and she is likely to do the first one because her mom is leading it.
HARG! for some reason it is impossible to get to know this person better! Most of the time, I can get to know shy people because something about me seems friendly and they stay around despite their shyness. And they are often nice people hiding in a shell to get away from the disgustingness of the world.
So that’s why I’m annoyed at the fact that I can’t get to know her better. She probably reads Muse and I don’t even know it. (not too likely) but seems like that sort of person. *perishes*
HELP! The situation seems impossible…
RED-TAILED HAWK!!!!!!!!!
Help!
Well, as it turns out, the one event that she might have done may not be possible now. So maybe everyone will be doing one thing. Still not too promising. Her mom said the halloween party sounded cool but that doesn’t mean she can come.
This is crazy. I have never had so much trouble getting to know someone in my life! What, is there some REASON I’m not supposed to get to know her? *BIG SPOOKY GLOWING GHOST EYES–YIKES!*
*runs away*
Red-tailed HAWK
Okay guys, 2 days seems like plenty of time to “gather your thoughts”. Any advice please?
Red-tailed HAWK
I’m sorry, I don’t really have any advice for you. That’s why I haven’t been posting lately. Although, this might help.
um.. why do you want to know her in the first place? is it just because you do or…?
293-Thank you! It seems to have brought someone!
294-Because all of the boys are really quiet and thus really boring. If they would maintain a conversation better I might not be so hurried. Plus, besides you and the rest of the girls on the blog, I really don’t have any female friends.
She seems like a really nice person, but Imposible to get to know due to previously mentioned circumstances. Annoying…
Am I missing something with that or…? ? Please say if I’m not being clear!
Red-tailed HAWK
So, any new advice? I’m glad we’re close to 300 posts. We need a new thread soon!
Red-tailed HAWK
296- i don’t have any advice realy. i’m just on here to vent about my fear of poeple.
meh. i’m really bad at getting to know people. because people scare me. and i laugh A LOT when i’m nervouse (which is almost always) i kinda just like to keep my head down and find the few people i do know so i don’t feel so awkward. ex. I only know three poeple in my french class, well well enough to talk to them, but only two of them do i work with. meh. me is pathetic. very pathetic. meh.
297-Oh, kagy, you mustn’t be so hard on yourself…
I think I laugh a lot when I’m nervous/don’t know what to say. It’s really difficult starting new friendships, as you don’t know anything about the person. But whatever your doing, it must be at least endurable for both people, and so you could try to start talking about that. The weather, yes, that may be attributed to romantic situations, but it probably works in the same way slightly altered (as to starting with the conversation).
I also think people don’t need a million close friends, but a few are nice. *my situation of trying to start friendships inserted here*
If you try to give a little more detail about the situation I could probably give something more helpful. We should get a new thread in two posts, so then we can demand attention from the blog!
I think part of the problem with this thread is most people our ages here have already had bf/gfs and so are wrapped up in dealing with that whole ball game and not paying as close of an attention to friendship problems. Which doesn’t help us, does it now?
Red-tailed HAWK
298- it does not help us children who don’t need bf/gf *cough* okay, i really want to get to know the guy who sits beside me in french not necessairily for romantic purposes but because he seems really cool. like really cool. for some reason this girl asked me : are you going to the [hallowe’en]dance
me: no
her: oh. do you have a bf?
me:no….
her: did you have one?
me: nooooo……. why are you asking me this?
her: dunno.. you just seem like the type…
YES 300TH POST NEW THREAD PLEASE
299-Ah, French, so romantic!
Oh, wait, that’s not what your talking about! 
Really cool, I should meet him too! Hmmm. Has he talked to you? Is there ever a time to talk to him? I’m not sure how well you know him yet, but obviously somewhat to know he’s cool I guess…
I’ll wait for the new thread to come to help more, and to explain my situation, maybe more people will come if the thread is on the front page.
Red-tailed HAWK
